Do you really believe in Soul mates and love?

Love, yes
Soul-mates, no

 

I'm really incompatible with my husband. And yet, I love him. And he loves me.

I do all I can to make him happy, but he's too distracted to be able to reciprocate. It means loving him has the side effect of making me an extremely lonely person.

I don't think there's only one person in the world for another. If we'd part, I'd meet another man and I'd love another man. He's not my first love.

 

I don't believe you are born to be with that certain person, if so no one would be without love, I believe if you search to find the one who makes you tick for all the right reasons you will find them bit some people don't go deep enough to make sure which is why sometimes sex is a tough subject in the relationship, or others things come into it that aren't right for both.
Seems some people never find their right lover and it might be because their eyes weren't open at a right moment and they missed it. Have heard a friend once say, "we knew each other years ago and many years later connected, who knew" it happens in a funny way sometimes that the right thing happens at the right time and you were at the shore line when the ship came in instead of at the airport as some might be.
My brother has had bad luck with his women, taking him for all he's got when they leave and that makes me angry, at them and him. He is at fault sometimes too because he thinks because they show love for him it's all good, let them into his life and he gets hurt. They have set him back so far that he is two years older then I am and has nothing but his old paid off truck to his name and a kid he is trying to deal with and is missing half his life. She wanted a kid, not him but he had what she wanted to be in her kid. Now she is happy and he is sad and dealing with his losses,,, the kid mostly but many other things as well, like the family life he was proud of and was trying to build on. He needs to be careful and take the time to find the right one this time.

 

With the famous "50% of marriages end in divorce" statistic, it's no wonder that people don't believe in true love.

 

I believe in true love, doesn't mean it will last forever every time but it can happen. My mom and dad are proof of true love in their own way, they met as young adults and are still together and will be till one or both goes onto the next level.
I can't say I was that lucky to have one forever but have had a few that had to end for some reason or another. Have found my mate many times and can't ever complain even tho they didn't last forever.
In my mind it's like you travel or you don't, some never leave their birth town and are happy with that, some have to see many parts of the country or world and my mom and I differ in our love lives that way even tho she travelled lots but with one man her whole life. Best thing is I have never been unhappy abused by anyone or felt lonely in or out of relationship and even enjoyed the single bits in-between relationships so my world is more a mixed bag where her's is a prefect pot of stew they kept brewing all them years through the hard times and the good times. Don't really know which way I would prefer it but mine is great because I have met a few good men who I considered my true love until we had to end it for some reason. Hoping this one will last forever because he is the one I love now.

 

I don't know about every person.. Actually no, fuck every person, most people don't deserve it.

I however have a soul mate that I'm with. =] and I know it's real because we'd peas and corn bros.

 

I believe I've found a soul mate. Anyone who knows us will the say the same thing too.
I find most peoples relationships to be weird, complex and boring.
I will find as much time to spend with my girl as I can. Hell outside of work at the moment we are with each other at every moment. When I worked with her for a while we went near 3 years of seeing each other every day. Woke up together, traversed together, sat next to each other at work, ate lunch together, left together, traversed together, ate together, slept together x1000+ days.

Many couples I know, the male will do anything he can not to get home to his missus or partner. He'll take a left turn where he usually took a right, he'll sit on his own at a pub before going home and when they are home, it's all man cave stuff.

Fuck that, that's just terrible from where I sit. May as well be single or something. And the troubles other relationships have are ALWAYS so pathetic, I don't understand them.

I guess it's safe to say my partner and I aren't just lovers we are also one another best friends. Always have been. We are on the same page about almost everything. Many complain about comparability issues... These couples never really went out and searched properly IMO. They just settled for some girl in the same town, that shit ain't gonna work, worlds fucking huge, man.

 

No, I've never believed in soul mates. Not as in there is one person in the world for you. I do believe you can click with someone, sometimes pretty quickly, and we naturally pursue things from there. And people come into our lives for different reasons, at different times in our life. We don't always know why until things play out.

 

this plus the monogamy, I think it usually works out best -

this is not to say that polyamory is not wonderful for people mature enough for it. (I just think very few people can do it without some weird feelings or jealousy getting in the way)

 

I agree. Also mutual respect and admiration I believe are key ingredients for any long term relationship.

 

I think that there is right person for everyone. Maybe some people have more than one "right" person for them.

I think humans form emotional bonds that make us more successful. (Work or pleasure, without some positive feelings, people aren't going to keep you around for very long.)

Love is just a chemical reaction. But what causes the chemical reaction? I've been in lust before, but when I first saw my hubby, my gut reaction was to run from him. He was across the room and did not look at me or even glance in my direction, yet I had this intense reaction to seeing him. A couple of years later we became friends. About a year after dating we married. Been married 8+ years. What was it about him? Surely it was physical before the emotional bond was forged when we became friends.

I read that men are hard wired to be promiscuous while women are hard wired to be faithful. What nonsense. Let's take this back to caveman days, shall we? Women stuck together to care for infants (women can nurse, men can't) and small children. Men hunt to provide food. Why wouldn't men form groups for themselves? Why stay with the women? Why not just drop by for a "booty call?"

Because men want to provide for their offspring. If they left, another male might come and kill their offspring, so the whole 'breed to pass on genes' argument falls to the wayside if men abandon their young. (Lions and Bears will kill the female's young cubs so that they can go into heat again so they can mate. Why wouldn't a human male kill a female's offspring so he could impregnate her with his own? After all, we are animals.

There are dangers to promiscuity (STDs). I also wonder about men who are promiscuous. They may seem confident, but are they insecure? Does a high number of lovers stoke their ego? Or does it show they are a bad lover and can't keep a woman? Are they afraid they can't maintain a long term relationship? All I know is that I wanted someone to grow old with and I found him. We have an increasing amount of gray hair between us, but we love and accept each other, faults and all.

 

The right person for someone might even depend on ourselves. I have found a few good men in my life that seemed right for me. Makes me think, are some more open in closeness then say the one who doesn't find their match or finds them much later in life or only ever found one but many years go by before ever finding someone again?
My example is like this,,, in the opposite for me, I find a few great friends but I do select them carefully so not as many friends as some people I know who have so many they don't know what to do with themselves.
Maybe it's easier for some to find friends then lovers and visa versa for others.
I have even heard someone say before that they couldn't find a mate to save their lives yet they have a ton of friends so maybe it's not that there is a soul mate for us all but some manage to find one or a few in a life time and for others friends are just as easy to pick up.
I ask this because I am not as social as many of my friends who seem to have loads of friends but I am happy because my friends are good ones even if only a few. I seriously do have only a few and it might be me. A couple guy friends and three female friends that I know of as real friends that I make sure I visit often.
How many people can say they can find friends walking down a street? Bet lots, me, now that I think about it I find them through the work I do or because they came out to me looking for a friend maybe but I am too shy to go to a stranger and start yakking my way into a friendship.
The men I have been with, all through work places except my BF now, found him online. Even dumped him before I met him because I got nervous but he persisted a little and we finally met and it's working out great.

 

Yes I do believe in soulmates and I used to believe in love. And now I believe only in myself. It's very rare that when 2 people realise they are soulmates they Are single and available. I realised it the hard way and had to call it quits. And it was the hardest thing ever as you know you are breaking up with someone who was born to be with you in every emotional and physical way. Such is the world we live in. And lost all faith in love a few years back. Its an over hyped e motion which doesent work in today's world. Just believe in lust and responsibilities now... I know I sound a bit harsh maybe. but that comes with my experiences....

 

Soul mates? No. Sounds cool though.

True love? Yes. Its a title that i think pisses on other peoples love that they might hold very dearly to them. All love is true when it is felt, sometimes it isn't as strong or long lived as previous love but its still love. Im in love currently, but i don't go around putting extra words on it to inflate the significance of it. Im enjoying the love as it is, why is it that people have to try and get more than that.

 

When you're single, you don't have arguments, fights over money, jealousy, putting up with other people's odors, and just general BS. Those people in "serious" relationships are just needy by nature, and NEED someone to watch their back. Most are spineless too.

 

Yes I believe in Soul Mates been with mine for 32 yrs and that everyone has one but I do believe we can miss finding them for one reason or another.

 

Clearly you don't know me because all of those things you just described about relationships don't ring true for me. We don't argue, fight over money, we're not jealous although he does smell sometimes. I'm not needy AT ALL and I'm certainly not spineless but if those are things that you need to tell yourself to make being lonely seem ok then more power to you.

 

I totally believe people have soul mates but not everybody's just limited to that one person.
Sometimes you can feel pure and true love for multiple people. <3

 

Sharing love with someone is a bit different though. Love between folks can be unconditional.

The soul spirit/mate to me is about mental connection. Once you find this connection a person it is truly awesome. Shame it doesn't happen to most people but then I believe most people don't really try hard enough in this respect. I mean I found my connective partner half way across the world and a lot of people won't even leave a town and expect to find their soul mates =\

 

Soul mates, no not really. I do believe in love. I do believe that there are many people out there that can complete and fulfill us in many ways. Since everyone is different and we all adapt to a significant other even if it is in slight ways, there can be many possible people out there for each of us. Since we live in a very small space, it is hard to know if someone who is a thousand miles away may be waiting to meet someone exactly like me?? You know?