Girls, if it were up to you, how often would you have anal?

Weekly? Monthly? Daily?

 

never - exit only

 

Nope, not for me.

 

Never. Hubby wanted to, so I let him experiment with his finger and it hurt. Not for me.

 

You say if it were, as if it isn't.

 

It would be up to us unless we are stupid enough to live with someone who cares about their own needs and forces it. And then it's not sex is it? Sex is a two way street, just like if I had a big fat strap on and want to use it on my guy, he'd say no and I gotta get past that, right? If someone really doesnt like something then it shouldnt have to happen, either way, guy or girl. Anyway, none for me, not my bag. Exit only. I like lots of other kink tho, but again I don't let anyone tell me how it's gonna be if I don't like it, nor do I force what I want or add guilt to get my way.

 

Within reason when the guy wants it...but for me ideally one a month

 

See here's where the real truth comes out! Basically still in the below 50%... Anal sex may seem to be on the rise (I feel sorry for younger woman who may feel pressured by it). It's certainly an obscurer and acquired taste (and no I don't mean taste as in mouth too).

Seriously. Anal sex takes quite a bit of prep, the woman has to be in-between bowel movements reasonably and comfortable. Add on top of that the time and state of mind it takes to make such a thing happen.

For those woman who love it or enjoy it regularly, I envy your man... My wife will do it every once in a while, but we are talking a handful of times a year, it's certainly not a regular thing for us, but then we have kids and are not spring chickens, so it's not like opportunity comes knocking every other day...

 

And don't forget, a lot of men won't put it there either. My guy wouldn't, he's a V man all the way. He thought once that I was asking for it when we were talking just because of the way it came out, or how he heard it, shoulda seen the look on his face... I said "no! Not anal". He looked quite relieved. We have never discussed it since and I am glad for that.
Never has a guy hinted it to me, I have always been with V men. Have had lots of play with my ass in many ways and even a finger back there playing around but that's it and that's ok with me if they want to poke around and tease it. Still an exit zone. Never even had anyone suggest a butt plug which you see in porn all the time.
Ya, I feel sorry for the next generation who thinks it has to happen even if they don't feel right with it.

 

I actually read an article by a "sex therapist" that basically suggested that women should do whatever to please their man. Otherwise he will find it somewhere else. I'm all for having sex often (but that's because hubby is great at it.) But if he insisted on doing something and decided to seek it elsewhere, then I would be done with him.

Relationships are partnerships and if one is going to force the other, that's not a relationship and you are better off alone. No where in the article did she address that men should meet women half way. It was all about do what he wants. What B.S.

Unfortunately, too many young women and men are getting the wrong type of advice. Sex should be enjoyable and done with someone you care about. It shouldn't be a numbers game. I guess they think by having sex it makes them 'mature.' It doesn't.

 

After 8 years of doing anal, talking with friends, and reading blogs, I'm convinced of those two things: 1) everyone is different with different biases and different experiences; and 2) when it comes to anal and whether a woman enjoys it or not is a combination of technique, one's hardwiring, and most importantly #1 above.

If woman KNOWS she doesn't want anal for whatever reason, I don't think there is any way she is EVER going to enjoy anal. Even if she wanted anal, but her only experience was a terrible one, she'll likely never want it again. That's understandable.

I've really only had bad anal once, but fortunately I only had good anal before that and since that time. What I learned from that is I need to be the one responsible for for ensuring I'm ready, not the guy. That's part of what I mean by technique. I use my fingers. I use a plug, whatever. When it comes to anal, it definitely takes two to tango.

Lastly, not every girl is hardwired the same. I happen to be hardwired such that the intensity of my orgasms is ten times 9or a hundred times) greater with anal stimulation. Forget this stupid talk of "anal-orgasms" - there is no such thing! They're all the same orgasms, but when my butt is full and I bring myself to cum (with a vibe or fingers) there is nothing that can compete with that. Period!

So to answer the OP's question, we do anal almost every time my fianc

 

I'd like to know more about the author of the article, got a name?

 

Only said 'if it were up to you' because you might be single at the moment.

 

Every daaaay

 

Gotcha. My bad.

 

Ok, it's how you said it that threw people off. Apologies,,,

 

every second day ...

 

My wife is really only wants to do anal after an enema, she likes to be confident in knowing she's clean. She said if it weren't for having to clean her ass, she'd do it every time we had sex. We do anal 1/2 the time we have sex.

My wife loves anal stimulation, she said when she masturbates most of the times she stimulates her anus to enhance her orgasms.

My wife doesn't like sucking dick, and said she'd rather give me anal than give me oral. Since I prefer anal to bj's to me it was and awesome compromise.

Yes I haven't had a bj in over a decade, but my dick has gotten PLENTY of bum.

 

I would love to do it daily but the preparation it takes to do it is too hard to do it as much as I would like. Then again if I could do it so easily then maybe I wouldnt want to.

 

If it were up to ME? .....nevaaaa!!!

I only agree to it if my lover really wants it.

mm mm, don't like how it feels.