Do women who enjoy anal just have a higher sex drive?

Live and let live. The secret to the best anal sex is trust. When you have trust, you're both well lubed (coconut oil), patient, and lost in the passion, he will slip right in that tiny little ass. In reply to Sally ... I can orgasm just by having my nipple pinched HARD and symmetrically. It is an amount of pressure that would be inconceivable unless you're in an aroused state, but when I'm there - the more pain the better. Some people (men and women) have nipples that are "connected" to their genitals and they get off with nipple stimulation. So, it is not for you, nor is anal.

Personally, I love having him deep in my ass. Yes, it can be messy because if you like it daily, you can't "be clean" (enema) everyday and if you like spontaneous anal (as I do), your going to get messy. But, soap and water or showering together after will take care of it.

 

I totally agree with that which is why I already said some like their nipples clamped or their ass fucked, just not for me, it's all about what's in our heads and how we enjoy sex, my point to CT is that ass fucking doesn't imply a woman has anymore sex drive or have any more of an open mind then a woman who likes many of the other things you can do during sex. CT didn't take it that way. He took it on a personal level and even read my humor as an attack against himself. Almost sounds like he thinks people who won't do anal are dead people. Nope, most people are very much alive and sex crazed, just not about the same thing.
My opinion that it is weird is my opinion, I get to voice that. CT thought not.

 

Your obnoxious tirades about "having junk fulla crap", "shoving something up yer own ass", or "having problems holding a shit back" are all over the place, and I'm afraid laughing it off as "humor" isn't going to sound very convincing. You know full well that if a guy behaved like that, he'd be the biggest jerk in existence, and I'm glad I have never had to deal with women like you.

And since you never bothered replying to my legitimate points, I reiterate: nobody is born with the capacity to take something up their asses without any initial discomfort, and it's one of those things you warm up to, little by little, assuming that you keep an open mind instead of having decided beforehand that it's going to be horrible. I've witnessed women going from never having had anal sex before to absolutely loving it; I believe I would know what I'm talking about.

 

It's not in my mind that it's going to be horrible, it's in my mind that to me it's not a natural thing to do. And again that's my opinion as it is probably for many others. Is you opinion that it's ok and that's ok. I still get to say what I feel as do you, take it personal or move on,,, your choice. And again having an open mind doesn't mean Everything has to happen, it doesn't mean anal, it means being able to open up to many different things like what you never ate before, doesn't mean I Should bungie jump just because someone suggested it. I'd have jumped off a bridge by now if it was as you suggest. Open mind is about looking at possibilities not necessarily doing them all.
Laugh a little, it's good for ya.

 

I don't get how CT cannot comprehend that its not for everyone. I do think that men advocating women "learning" to relax and enjoy it is total bullshit. If anyone wants to try it, they will and if they don't, they won't. Why is that so wrong????

 

Sally, you seem pretty smart to me. Just love other people in a mutually consenting way and enjoy life.

 

I don't think you're dead for having that opinion, but the reasoning isn't convincing to me and tells me that you're holding some kind of prejudice. I'm sure that you could list dozens of things that are essentially 'unnatural' that you still do and couldn't imagine going without. Do you shave any hair on your body? Do you have oral sex? Do you eat man-made foods that don't exist in nature? The list could go on and on.

And if you wouldn't even know how it feels to you, what harm is there in trying? It's your choice, but you seem to be a bit narrow-minded and prejudiced, which is what I was getting at.

 

Read back to find that the initial point I suggested was that enjoying anal requires an open mind. Or are you trying to argue that the two things have absolutely nothing to do with each other? You're completely correct, it's not for everyone! Not everyone is open-minded about these subjects, and there is nothing wrong with that, either. But please, go on and disprove my argument, instead of playing an internet white knight...

 

what is it with you? adamantly forcing people to try something just because it is YOUR preference, if we don't want to we don't have to! I stopped lketting people force me to try things I did not want to do when I left my parents how. I pick and choose what I will eat - and I will apply the same decision power over myself to my sex life.

 

Your initial point is that women who do anal have an open mind, I read it. So those who don't do anal don't have an open mind,,, which in fact they might, even for stuff you would have a closed mind to. Point is anal isn't everything in sex, it's just a small part of sex For some and there is lots in sex to have an open mind to, not everything suits everyone,,,, the part you are not getting because you now have this personal thing with me because of my opinion. I am ok with that because as soon as you asked me for anal we'd be done anyway,,, hahahaha,, see humor,,,
Anyway CT, go do what you do, we don't have to like it ourselves you don't have to like what we do either but YOUR opinion counts... I can still make jokes about it because that's what I do.

And no I don't shave my body, just my pits because it's a natural thing to do sept in Europe,,, my leg hairs and the rest don't even show so never shaved em. Never had to.

And to I Belong,,,
Yup, I think I am pretty smart and I do know how to enjoy life, still has nothing to do with anal or what else people do or this thread so your message is kind of mute here me thinks, let's take it to the religious thread you can coach me there and if you don't see me there in five mins then just start without me...

 

Except that I'm not. People can do whatever they want to with their lives and I've never claimed otherwise. I got ganged up on for suggesting that women who like anal sex are more open-minded (is it really such an insult to be branded narrow-minded? Would seem that way...)

And, I could bet almost anything that someone like you who has "vegan" in their nick, and brings it up in a discussion with someone they've never spoken to before, will be the first one to push their ideology on everyone.

 

What harm? I want all your money, it'll be ok, just send it, you don't need it,,, what harm is there in you sending it all to me? Really? Open your mind to the possibilities that will be offered to you when you have nothing and get to start all over,,, what great experiences you will encounter,,,,
Everyone has a mind and most know what they will and won't do, you are pretty pushy about people doing what you do for some reason,,, I don't care how it would feel, I get too much satisfaction from the many other bits of sex that I don't need to go to the back door for my fun. it's one place I don't need to explore as you would say, besides no one I have been with has ever even brought it up as an interest, my guys were all V guys, why would I start something I am not interested in?

 

This is because of how you look at it, as taken by the rest as an insult rather then discussion, that right there shows a close minded reaction. You seem limited in your knowledge of what "open minded" actually means. It has nothing to do with anal acts itself.

 

CT's right... it takes a woman with an open mind, but also one who enjoys pleasing her partner over herself. With those two things, it would be Unnatural not to at least try it a few times. In fact, I argue that anal is completely natural: I've done anal with almost every girl I've been with (some experienced, some new to it) and none of them hated it. Some loved it, some were okay with it, most enjoy it for a change. Some love it with no warm up, some need a lot of warm up and clit stimulation the entire time. But it seems like there's only 2 types of women that don't do anal: the type that tried it and had a really bad experience because they didn't know what they were doing and the type that is too close-minded to try.

 

You have much to say about anal sex considering you don't like the idea of it, don't appear to approve of others doing it, and have not intention of trying it for yourself. Why bother yourself? It seems to me the less you know about the subject the happier you would be.

 

So you enjoy your girl giving you anal with a strap-on or is that where your open mindedness ends? Or then what about penis size? Not all women willing to do anal are willing to take any size, or do they have to in order to retain their open minded status?

I'm not playing internet white knight. I spent 10 years with a woman that loved anal and showed me how to give her what she wanted. As much as she loved that she wasn't even close to the most open minded partner I have had. Its a personal take on enjoyment and telling me that women are not sexually open minded unless they enjoy anal seems to be a redundant statement.

One thing I have noticed is that usually women that are more into anal are less into oral and visca verca. It doesn't make either seem more open minded just that they have a preference.

 

I didn't say that women aren't sexually open-minded unless they enjoy anal, I said that having an open mind is a prerequisite for enjoying anal.

I've never met a girl who would like to fuck me with a strap-on, and while I would not be open-minded enough to participate in that, it's a moot point because no sane woman would have any reasons to want to do so, unlike for a guy to fuck a girl in the ass. I lick my girl's ass and she licks mine, which works for us.

 

Read this,,,

Then read this

This second quote kind of goes against what you said in your first post in this thread and that's what I was getting at. Keep an open mind buddy, buy your girl a nice strap on and giver a go,,,, ya! Bet she'll love her new power. Never say no till you try it for yourself.

 

-CT- why don't you concern yourself with losing the v-card before you go full throttle on the anal action?