I like this chick and she recently broke up with her bf of secen years.

How long till she gets over him? She tolled me shes looking for a new place since they still live together. They have been separate for four months.

 

If you like her, but haven't come out to her, inviting her to live with you is the wrong first step.

She is looking for a roommate not a boyfriend.

 

^True.

I didn't reply to this thread the other day because I don't know how to answer a silly question like "how long til she will be over him?"---- obviously there is no set amount of time. Could be right away- could be another week, or month or year or years. Could even be never... anyways, the only way to find out how she is feeling on that issue or anything at all is to talk to her about it directly as a friend.. find out how she is holding up and whether she is happy about breaking up with him or not, etc.

 

While she may not be over her previous boyfriend if she is looking for a place to move to it does mean she is moving on with her life.

Be a friend to her and take things really slowly. If it is meant to blossom into a romance it will. Nothing wrong with asking her to a movie or something or just keeping in touch.

Good luck.

 

Listen. A lot. Part of the healing possess can involve playing the field for a while, and if you want long term, now is a bad time to hook up. If you are the jealous type, now is also a bad time to live with a friend you like that may be going through men like tissue paper.

 

Yeah as others have said, getting out of a seven year investment leaves some scars for sure. Everyone is different but I would assume the last thing she wants to do is jump into something serious, and if your main intent here is to get "in" with her and having her move in with you is an aid then I'd say you're manipulating and or trapping her.

Her telling you she's looking for a new place could be just because it's true and she thinks of you as a friend, it may not be an ask or request.

 

I want to be the paper tissue!

 

Then you are not interested in a long term relationship. Tell her that. IF she's ready for a fling, and IF she's interested in you, then you will date. IF she's not, you won't. Either way, you get your answer.

 

It might not take her long to be over "him". But the relationship and the lifestyle itself, takes a while to get over. Think years. But she might be ready to date again in a few months maybe a couple months. Usually the first time you date after a long-term relationship ends really sucks and you have to learn again what its like to be single. The next person you date is usually getting the short end of the stick, so think about rather you want to start dating her so soon. You might want to stick with friendship for awhile if you really want something to happen, like really.