"White males only want Sex from a Woman!"

So after discussing a bit with my parents (because I find white men really more attractive than Asian males), they said something like: White males only want sex and have no feelings. I myself think this is BS because some Asian men also only want sex and are without feelings. What do you think of this statement from my racist parents? And what can I say back to them (because they are heavily prejudiced against Caucasian men).

 

sometimes all we can do is work with our parents crazy expectations and beliefs until we are old enough that they can no longer have any influence....

hopefully you don't need the rents money for a wedding or what have you


also...you liking white dudes better is no different than them liking oriental dudes better....

its the same exact thing

 

yeah this is so not true at all. my fiancé is white and is very emotionally in love with me.

your parents have some racial bias against white guys. which might be justifiable contempt, depending on their experiences and where they're from.

 

I am a Caucasian woman who has recently broken up with her Korean boyfriend of 3 years. Prior to that, I have spent the past six years dating only Asian guys. If there is one thing I have learnt about Asian parents, it is that they always get their own way in the end.

All you can say to them is 'If you love and respect me, you will respect my choice'. However you and I both know that face and you making a match that they approve of is all that matters to them. It would be even worse if you were male.

Sorry if this sounds bitter.

 

Exactly yes, my parents are somewhat racist against white males, which i find to be absolutely gorgeous or cute or hot, by the way. I think it's because they watch too much American movies that they get such ideas about Caucasian men.

 

you say you're Asian but that covers a pretty broad spectrum…Asia is huge, lots of countries and cultures. Where in Asia is your family from?

 

Why must you say anything back to them? What do you expect to achieve?

 

I am Chinese, but I live in Canada. And my parents are very traditional minded when it comes to guys.

But I myself love White guys, I think they're handsome and good-looking. More so than Asian males anyway. And I want to change their minds about White guys.

 

Ah ok. Yeah one of my bosses is Chinese born in China but living here in the USA, I love her to death.

Hmm changing their minds might be difficult, don't get your hopes up too high. If you want to try, then go for it.

 

But how to? I've no idea... they are heavily prejudiced against White guys, even saying stuff like Asian males are cleaner than White men, which is again crap because that's not true. And love, as in having a crush on or romantic love?

 

Well I don't know how exactly. But maybe try not to pressure / push too much. That usually yields more resistance and friction than anything. Just subtly suggest, or do it in less obvious ways, be more demonstrative.

I'm off to bed, goodnight!! xx

 

I think that your parents just don't want you to date a white guy, so they are saying what they think will make you not want to date white guys.

I don't think that you need to persuade them that they're wrong: they probably don't believe it themselves.

You can go down the route of trying to persuade them that he's ok, but it may not work and it would take a lot of effort just to try.

You could also just keep information about your relationship from them, because it's really none of their business anyway.

 

Tell them them this is not true, because some white males want Sex from a Man

 

Lol, haha, anyways, I really am attracted to White guys, I find them Xtimes more good-looking than Asian males. And I think my parents do believe what they say, because they are so adamant about it.

 

If I were you I would've already made a wisecrack saying "okay let's compromise, I'll marry a half-Asian, half, Caucasian man".

 

Our parents just want whats best for us, they believe it better if you dont date white men or marry, it could be because thats what they were told when they were growing up, so they pass on the information fully believing in it themselves, its not worth arguing about, let them have their opinions and respect that, doesnt mean you have to have the same opinions,

if you meet a man, it doesnt matter what race he is, is he caring? loving and does he respect you? are you happy? to me that would matter more, i would tell your parents what type of man he is first not what his race is

 

Sounds like your parents don't want you to date white men. You will have to make your own decision.

On the light side. Better sex than sex and money.

 

What would happen if you called them out on thier racism?

While there is some racism that is understandable, it's never justifiable.
What I've observed with some native Chinese is that, just like some regions of NA, the racism is indoctrinated into them.

"It's not that stereotypes aren't true, it's that they are always incomplete" ~someone who's name I forget.

 

Dirty wide eyes

 

I don't know.