I'll be sleeping with other gals soon...

k thanks for clearing that up.

 

For future reference, when I am responding to a comment from someone specifically, I usually quote them.

Other times when I quote someone, I am either backing them or pointing an abstract concept out that they initially brought up and am adding to that view.

 

Not always. You have a tendency to quote, then continue on and when I've clarified in the past.. you responded by saying you should have minced text so it was more obvious that it wasn't directed at me (since you had quoted me). But ok noted.

 

Yeah haha this thread is done as am I with this section of these forums, sorry but some of some of these replies are just unfriendly judgmental scrap. I realize forums may be a place that people stretch the truth and even fabricate stories. However despite what some may assume I'm not one of those people. Honestly I am more disgusted with some of the self conceited responses from some members, happilyinlove, Sallysmart, and enhacer13 just to name a few.

I posted this for constructive advice, not people telling me I must be doing something wrong relationship wise. Honestly it just kind of saddens me the way some people think and act.

Anyways I'll stop before I start trying to lecture some of you on how to behave, but thank you to the people who actually took the consideration to giver me real advice and not randomly accuse me of things (because I'm a male discussing a one sided open relationship therefore I must be A BAD GUY).

Those who did give me sound advice I thank you, you have given me a lot to think about and have more then likely helped me prevent accidentally hurting the one I hold dear.

But before I go I'd just like to give my own advice, Age can sometimes be a burden to the mind as well as the body, some of you may look at me and think you are wiser, more experienced? Sometimes that may be true, but what does that matter if you can not see past what you want to see or believe? If you can't see others points of view or explain yours in a respectful mature way..Well what good are they?

Also those whos advice was just being insulting and non helpful to me, read all the post I made and then look at yours. Who seems like more of an adult?

 

Sorry one more post just to thank cowboys filly for her helpful story, advice, and just by being respectable. As well as a heavy thanks to just a women for her very insightful take on whats going on with me and my girl, You miss are a smart and good person and I thank you for your help.

 

Like what we said or not it seems you are thinking about it and have even said now what we did all along... Good on you for seeing through and taking the time to think about your loved one.
Next step is to see her for what she probably wants to be to you,,, your everything,,, even if she doesn't have much sense.
I have to say it's not about you being a man,,, it would have struck us wrongly if She came here and said you don't have much sense and you don't please her but she does please you and she wants to roam but you must not... See how that turns and always hope she won't to the same to you one day.
We are and were all along about the bonding you both have being saved.
Hate me if you will but I won't lie to anyone, that's what Most love about me and it makes me feel good. One hater or even a few isn't bad enough to ruin my day. Have a great day! I wish you And your lady luck in fixing this together.

 

Good on you sallysmart. It's horrible that he can roam but she can't. And many men don't have that double standard. But I'm glad he wasn't rude about it.

 

This thread may or not be a troll post, but either way, I have a friend that is in this situation too. Her husband has a really high sex drive, and she really doesn't. They're madly in love, and she allows him to have sex with other women. She actually likes it because he's not bothering her for sex all the time, and they both know it's just sex.

 

And what's ok with that is they both agree and she would likely have the same right to go out and do the same. Sad thing is if she would she might find her sex drive goes up with the right person.
Not knocking him but chances are there is a reason her's is not up there. I get that she loves him and she probably agreed because she has those same rights... Open marriage.
I asked my first husband for that when our sex went for hell and he said no so I gave it some time and left. I wasn't going to let my young years go to waste. We parted as friends because he knew it was over as well.

In the case of the OP his wife is satisfied so likely has her sex drive, he said he is not satisfied and wants to expand his girl friend package to satisfy himself. Meaning his sex drive is up there too but not with her,,, that's when you part ways I think so those two with sex drives can avoid wasting their Young years.
Let's say they don't part ways, he goes out where ever, gets his fill whenever, she waits for him to have time for her needs,,,, that's not what she is there for.