I'm not a lesbian, but I'm very into doing it with girls. I've done it once before & ever since that I've wanted to do it again so badly. I just don't know how to bring it up with anyone.
maybe start with a wrestling match or something, then just kiss her... and if it goes good, great... just a thaught
Hmmmm...if I have just met the woman and am attracted I will always suggest coffee, a drink or lunch and frequently touch her hand, arm, shoulder when passing, etc. if I have known her for awhile I will initiate a neck/shoulder rub or suggest a back rub and see how the response is. I also will flatter her personality and body with a comment in passing such as "the man in your life is a very lucky guy...you are a very desirable woman". If I think there is an attraction on her part I will give her a brief, gentle parting kiss on the lips and watch for a positive response. The other option after a few drinks is do or die..."I would love to move this party to somewhere more private where we can really get to know each other" always maintains eye contact.
There are possibly so many that want to say something but don't in case things back fire. Its a risk you either take or don't.
"Faint Heart never won fair lady." In any romantic situation, regardless of sexuality, trying to chat somone up always involves risk. If we didn't do it, there wouldn't be a human race! Fortunately - in some ways, women are a little more open to a same sex fling than men, who are usually one or t'other. take a risk! There is excellent "how to" advice from flybigirlsea
If I'm interested in a women I use a lot of eye contact and body language and then you react to their body language. A lot of looks your way is a good thing etc. just be open. Even just for a flirty little chat, doesn't always have to end up in romance. Confidence!
In my experience, I've let it be known about my belief that in this day & age it should be perfectly acceptable for women to make the first move, without being judged. In this way it lets them know that I'm open to be approached without any embarrassment either way.
Simple, porn teaches us that all women will spontaneously engage in lesbian activity when placed alone in an area with another woman where they think no one is watching. Add in some sleezy guy hiding behind a houseplant who actually is watching and jerking himself off and you have a fail safe tactic. But seriously, just relax and flirt. Have fun. If you spend all your energy stressing over how to make it happen chances are you are not paying enough attention to the person you want to be with. Just interact with her and focus on her and let the thing run its course. Worst case scenario you get turned down.
I usually let my eyes do the talking. Rarely have I had to start the conversation with any girl, I've been with. This doesn't mean I haven't misinterpreted a glance but in general I like to set the conditions up for her to ask me. Nothing too overt. If over coffee or a night out, if a girl is interested, she will give herself away.
My idea was to visit a lesbian bar after I get back to the US and see if I can chat up someone. Or flirt. Or sit around until someone approaches me. Actually, I have no idea. I think of myself as pansexual/asexual, but maybe I need to find out what kissing a woman would do for me, since they attract me.
I hope a lesbian bar works. Personally I been in those place twice only and didn't care for the mix. I am bi, I like guys who are guys and girls who are girls. I've never been attracted to butchie girls which seemed to dominate the bar when I've gone in. Girls I like are very feminine. I guess it's all who you are attracted to.
OK, how does it work? Who takes the lead? Who pays for dinner, or whatever? I seem to be attracted to everyone (pansexual) but not enough to do anything about it since my genders cancel each other out (asexual). Plus, I'm partially trans. Likely many of the butch women in a gay bar will have varying degrees of trans identity and might be insulted if I try to pay. My experience with women who have flirted with me in the past-they are crazy possessive and jealous and act like we're married if I so much as smile at them
