Ok so..my first post.. I have an absalootly fantanastic woman....she makes me feel amazing.. I love lots about her ...... But our sex drives are not a match...she doesnt seem to want it very much at all..can months...twice a wk and maybe on the weekend would be great..hell i could do it morning noon n night.. Always horny...i can just look at her...or think about her and thats it..im hard... We have experienced and tried lots...and enjoy lots... I litetally can totally masterbate from just a picture n my imagination..my dream girl... So what do i do....i talk to her about it..n its like shes ok with it ...no big deal..but i need to feel that cloweness...the feelings..shes sore from this or that...tired...hips hurt...back hurts..etc...always an excuse....i dont know what to do...n this leads to moods which leads to us having hardly any affectiion.. Thoughts????? Anything will be appreciated
Hey, Im a long time reader first time poster, well here anyway. Firstly, may i say that im glad you have found someone who makes you happy, well, i dont think you said that, maybe she makes you horny would be a better description. Anyway... Well there could be any number of reasons for a lower sex drive. (Or the once in a while that she wants it is her ideal number/amount) I can certainly relate, wanting it daily while the fiancee wants it maybe twice a month. (Thats if im not seducing her and getting it closer to once a week. As i said though, there could be any reason, from work, to freinds, to weight gain/loss, meds(birthcontrol or anti depressants), illicit drugs and the list could go on. I guess it would be difficult to gauge with the little info you have provided.(time of relationship,intimacy, etc.) but a good way to gauge it is to compare how much sex you are having now, to when you first started seeing each other to see if something is a miss or of its dropped off. Actually maybe if your your just outta that honeymoon period the sex has dropped off and thats why its like it is. Dont just go off that one line though, think about when you do get sex,and think about what you have done, or she has done, or you both did to get in the sack. Maybe she feels she has to be wined and dined to unwind enough to then feel horny. .? There are so many possibilities here, from you not working for it, to her not feeling sexy you know. Sorry if im not much help, maybe if we could get more deets, like your ages, length of relationship. Are you living together, ? You should certainly express yourself to her, about how you feel, why you feel like that etc. Another thing to think about is what the quality of the sex you do have is like. So say the quality is there for you, but not for her, she would be less inclined, thats an example. Maybe the quailty is there and thats just it. She is satisfied with the once a month as its a good 4 hours sweat inducing bump and grind fest, and she needs time to recover.... Anyhow, take it easy.
O and for your other thread edwards99, LOTS O LUBE, lots, start small then work up to the bigger stuff. Take it easy.
You say it all in your post: your sex drives don't match. I don't think there is a permanent solution for that. Temporary ones, yeah, but short term. Bad luck. :-(
Pretty much this! You are just going to have to decide if everything else you have together is going to be enough to keep you happy in the long run. From my experience in the past the rest is not enough for me to feel fulfilled without a healthy sexual relationship as well.
