I'm 19, female, and have a long term girlfriend. Up until a few months back, we had a fabulous sex life, although I've never been the easiest to make orgasm, my girlfriend never left me disappointed. Then a few months back, I started not to orgasm at all during, didn't think too much off it, but I don't think she's made me come at all since then. I can't even make myself orgasm when I masturbate anymore...unless, I watch porn. I don't have an unhealthy obsession with porn, I just find it the only thing that can make me come. I'm not bored of my girlfriend, she always makes sure i am very aroused and turned on, which I always am and note, we do use toys and even they aren't working.... not even the trusty rabbit.... I'm pretty sure this is psychological as i CAN still come, it just takes porn ... which is a bad habit i don't want to continue...but have no clue how to go about solving this, it's ruining our sex life. MY girlfriend feels selfish because she's the only one who is satisfied and feels like a failure - which she is far from. is this worth going to the doctor for? is there anything phsycial that could be causing it? ps i haven't been on any medication... nothing has changed any suggestions? has this ever happened to anyone? how did you over come it?
Sounds like a chakra blockage. You're sexual energy is locked up. Sometimes this is an indication that something is amiss in your life. Try sitting or laying down, put one hand over your heart and the other over your vagina. Slightly open your mouth and breathe in and out. Focus the breathing into your heart. You should start to feel your energy moving more freely. It'll awaken a new level of the sexual high. Look into urban tantric sex. Some people just need to combine energy practices with physical sex.
I haven't had this exact problem before but do have a suggestion. If your girlfriend knows about the porn and what is going on then open up the communication even more. If she doesn't know then I personally wouldn't give up info that could hurt. Either way, try getting rid of all the porn even if it means content filters. Create the porn images in your own mind with you and your girlfriend only. Make the story lines up as you go along. This may transition you from porn to only real fantasies of your girl. Real fantasies you will want to become physically real. I sometimes watch porn but never in a relationship. I find it causes me to be more and more distant. Distance would have been catastrophic as I was playing straight as it was. (Now completely out.) I doubt you have a medical problem. To be blunt, I think the porn is the problem. Hopefully you and your girl can work through all this quickly and smoothly.
If you require porn to orgasm (meaning you absolutely cannot orgasm without it), and watching it is ruining your relationships - thats called an unhealthy obsession! I have an idea, stop watching it. Cool it for a week or two. Stop masturbating as often. When you go back to it, you'll probably climax without requiring so much stimulation / sensory overload. Also…….what kind of porn are you watching exactly, hmm?
Yeah I'll definetly stop with the porn. It's always cause I'm bored more than anything so I can give it up. But to answer the above question I usually watch threesome/group ... I think cos there's more to look at. We had sex last night and I was really turned on and my poor poor girlfriend went down on me for like an hour and I was close to coming like 10 times but it just felt like it was locked up inside and it just would not be released it was frustrating but I was really trying not to think about it or tense up cos that makes it worse. hopefully that will work :/
