How to confront cheating wife?

Yes, it is better to deal with one cheating situation at a time since every situation differs in the details. Ideally the cheater should leave indeed, and ideally the other person remains as civil as possible, but this is of course all theoretical talk about a couple we don't know. If we were in this situation ourselves (which is different from Mama's or happilyinlove's) we would see things are not ideally and it depends on the person (the OP in this matter) how he should confront his wife. I think the most civil I would get is leave and not talk for at least the first 2 weeks (and only later to arange things we must) if it is clear she cheated.

 

That was another thing i had in mind. Right before she wouldve left to spend her night with him. I was going to ask who so-and-so was. when she denied it, then say i have a pic of him saying he loves you. But you can go enjoy your night with him without feeling guilty now.

 

Homie_B…. part of me thinks you still want to be with her. Am I right?

Could you forgive and move on with her if the opportunity presented itself?

 

I think that's very admirable. I'm all for forgiveness when there's a willingness to change, but I'm also for using your judgement and intuition to make the best decisions. I wish you the best, and hope you find happiness.

 

id drag her out of my house and leave her on the curb, but thats just me.

 

well thats not the type of person i am.

 

That is a very small part. I think anything is possible as if life is a movie or game but i can differentiate the reality at hand. We've been thru this before, i forgave her then.

"willingness to change"...i hear that a lot from her. there's never a real change tho.

 

dont give me that face.

 

Then it sounds like you know what you need to do .

 

The fuck are you going to do aboot it, eh?? >:[

 

ill slap chop your face, bitch >:[

 

:smilielol5:

 

You rent? And she's cheated before?? So, no house complications. With all due respect, brother---find a place to live and when she's someplace else---move! OR---confront her and ask/tell her to get to the guy she professes to love and take her shit with her. Immediately. And do the legal paperwork. As many have said, you don't have to be mean--be man. Look, don't be a cheaters stepping stone to an easy transition for someone that has no respect for you. You going to let HER make the decision to move on--when SHE WANTS TO??

 

well....its over

 

Well.. ok.

 

That's never fun. I hope you find peace and happiness soon, homie.

 

"Once a Cheat, always a (potential for to) Cheat" - with Probability over Possibility a more likely scenario.
Consideration should be the Self - Taking a lead in the decisions you make yourself shows leadership - for which (if there is a real desire) another will follow

 

Someone said something really good in a recent cheating thread. Something like, "She has taken all of your power away and by staying with her you are letting her keep it."

I've always felt that this kind of cheating, the ongoing, secret kind, is like making a complete joke of the person you are with.

When you are with someone, you should be on the same team, not teamed up with someone else to make a fool of them.

 

Everyone has potential to cheat because humans are not infallible.

If you really think that because someone has never cheated, that they could never ever cheat - you're wrong.

If you really think that because someone has cheated, that they would absolutely make the same mistakes again - you're wrong.