Maybe not everybody has a somebody...

you know people always talk about soulmates. well what do
you think? i think that for those people who aren't meant to
be alone there are a few people out there, not just one that
they'll come across. so you know if you miss one, it's okay
because you'll have a few more chances. then i wonder if
some are just meant to be alone. ya know those that don't
have soulmates at all. im just wonderin about it so what do
ya think?

 

well i do believe in soulmates. Perhaps some people have more than one, or none...But obviously you'll encounter many people in your path and will have special connections with a few...you may think they're meant to be in your life, but only time will tell.
i'm sure there's somebody for everybody...well, i really want to believe this.

 

Yeah Zep I can agree with some of what your saying and Blackie I'ts not that I'm afraid to be alone, I'm actually used to it. I'ts just sometimes I wonder if that is what is meant for me. I wonder why everyone bores you after a while? I could see some people boring you after a while but everyone? Maybe if you explored new things with them I don't know maybe just maybe they wouldn't bore you??

 

Your point of view on this is totally cool with me. It's You're A okay just being with yourself and you know exactly what you need and don't need in life and your happy and that's a cool place to be. You seem interesting to me.

Oh yeah so you don't need kids, etc. So what, do u have a lot of one night stands

Just wondering

 

i think everyone has a soulmate- someone they're supposed to be with.. youre just meant to be together forever, but i dont think it'll happen in everyone's lifetime, i really lost myself there

ok, i guess just because you don't find him or her in this life, doesn't mean that you won't find them in your next. this time may just not be the right time

 

But what if you're a bug or something in the next lifetime

 

I totally believe in soul-mates, but I would say that ya have more than one, and it doesn't mean you will always be together in this life, it means that while you are together you had a soul-connection, mucyh deeper than normal relationship love. I've had a few already. But one of us grew in a different direction at some point. I've averaged about 9 years with my soulmates. I figure that's not bad for a hippie relationship!

Muah, Viv-

 

For awhile I thought that I met my soulmate already and we f#cked it up. Those thoughts made me sad. Now I figure we all have more than one. I think I may have met another one. I don't think you always have to be sexually involved with soulmates either. I think my mum might be another one of my soulmates. I think that for some lives people are loners or at least may not have many lovers because mayhaps this is whatneeded to happen in order for them to learn? But really I don't know if any one can really do anything but ponder these things, not many know for sure.

 

I have a difficult time believing in soulmates. Perhaps that's because I haven't found mine! But seriously, what does soulmate mean? Someone who is exactly like you? Someone who compliments you? Balances your extremes and flaws? Someone you're intirely open and loving towards? All of the above? What if you or your other change either in belief or personality?

Also, if you look at the history of "true love", etc. you will see that the idea of a soul mate did not widely exist before the late 1930s with advent of love songs in pop music and hollywood. I have to make exceptions to that, of course, Shakespeare, Chaucer, etc. poets and the like, wrote about love and its tragedy, but this idea was reserved for those who could afford to think about it.

Perhaps we should "love the one your with" and open your heart to those that are around you and already in your life, rather than dream about a mystical mate. Then again, a soul mate, mmmm....

 

Personally I would agree with goldmund for the 'love the one your with', cause yes all along your life you'll meet some people wich will have a special connection with you (probably some soulmates). But IF you want to have stable life with one person, you have to make the choice of being with that person and assume the concequence that surely you'll meet other 'soulmate'...But then again, it's just a question of choice between developing a very profound relationship with THE one or just having a lot of quick but funny relations with different person that you love.

For me the 'love the one your with' is the right answer...

love and respect

 

I love the one I'm with and he is one of my soulmates.

 

theres no such thing as people being "meant for eachother". just like there's no santa clause, or how just like there is a 50 pecrent divorce rate in the USA...

 

I'd be just happy with a set of friends that I totally connect with. That too is like having soulmates. However, soulmates isn't always about love; its about finding someone who just "works" with you. These are the people who drift in and out of your life or are in your life until you die. That to me is what soulmates are. We all have someone we connect with either as a friend or lover. Could be a human, could be an animal could be your freakin' car. Something just works and it works for a long time for some normal or strange reasons.

One can't say there isn't.
One can't say there is.

urby

 

are any of you believers of fate?

 

i definitely definitely defffffinitely believe in soulmates. i dont think you have just one, but i do think there are people who are MEANT FOR YOU. i dont know if it's just the hopeless romantic inside of me typing, but i know i await that girl i'm waiting for, and when she's around i'll know it's her... it's just that personality that everything about you needs and wants, you know?

 

then do you believe that fate can be screwed up or
like, how do i explain this...
can somethin happen to change the way it should
have been? like somethin interfierin or...
you not takin an opportunity that could have turned
into somethin else or someone screwin up that opportunity
and since you didn't take it or it was screwed up, you missed
out and changed your fate. so just, what im tryin to say is do
you believe it can be messed up or is fate just fate and what
will happen, will happen?

but then i guess you can say that since you didn't take that
opportunity or it was scewed up that that is your fate but...

 

well, i think if you guys are right for eachother, beautiful things will happen.

 

thanx but now im not only talkin about relationships, im kinda
talkin about fate in general.

 

FATE

For
All
To
Enjoy


Be patient - it will all make sense someday

 

eh. i dont truly believe in fate. every individual's thoughts and emotions are WAYYYYYY to fragile and unpredictable for me to believe in fate. by fragile i dont mean 'oh you hurt my feelings', i kinda mean... the tiniest of experiences can effect future emotions, thoughts, perceptions in such huge ways. not only with humans and emotions though, but with this world also... now imagine us IN this world! ah! just stay pure and good things will happen. your state of mind reflects your state of life.
i'm sure you can look at it as "if THIS didn't happen, THIS wouldn't have happened", and i guess you can call that fate, but what if something else were to have happened, god knows what would have happened in effect. i think it's more cause and effect then fate, because we all initially determine the initial action (or cause)... i guess the effect is just what happens when you put every related individual's emotions and actions along with the worlds into the equation, and i guess that's why things are very fragile =P
love and light beachbum, i hope everything turns out beautiful.

what happened to your old signature, that picture of the two children was always so pleasant to see in these forums =)