Has anyone actually done this?

Made their man sleep on the couch if you were fighting?

I've never had a fight bad enough with my fiance that when I got too tired to keep arguing that I could resist letting him hold me. It doesn't mean the fight is over, of course. But I could just never do it.

 

No. Honestly we don't really fight but I will say there have been a few occasions over the past 17 years that I've been so pissed that I'll get out of bed in the middle of the night because I'm so annoyed by him that even listening to him breathe pisses me off. I've been known to "sleep" on the couch. I never really sleep. I end up laying there awake and pissed off all night. That has only happened a handful of times and hasn't happened in a long time because now we don't go to bed mad otherwise I'm just really pissy the next day. We work it out before bed. As my dad says "Never go to bed mad because that's the best time to make up" He actually said that in a speech at our wedding.

 

I can't imagine that I would let my girlfriend order me around like that. If she doesn't want to sleep next to me, she can go and find herself some other place. I will not be told by anyone whether or not I may sleep in my own bed in my own home.

 

What Ruby said. If I get pissed, I sleep on the couch for a few hours and collect my thoughts. Usually, I get over it pretty quickly. Honestly, we almost never go to bed angry anymore.

 

No. I can't really imagine making someone go sleep somewhere else. I think when it comes down to it any argument can handled with some love and affection. I'm not saying that solves whatever the problem was to begin with, but I think it helps to get through it when the emotional anger has been softened. There have been times when we've slept separately when upset, but I was never the one to leave the bed. I tend to get over things pretty fast and easily though. I don't hold grudges but I do expect problems to be worked out and like Ruby said, preferably before falling asleep.

ETA: I don't think every argument can be solved with love/affection, but I think compassion goes a long way and you're either going to stay or go. If you're going to stay then mad as you may be, you should still be reasonable and caring. I can't argue/fight/live with people who like to fight in order to hurt people and I think by saying, "go sleep on the couch" it's meant to intentionally hurt/punish someone. I just think that's cruel.

 

This. I've only lived with one gf, and that only lasted for 9 months or so. She tried a couple times but I wasn't about to sleep on her crappy futon while she slept on my cozy bed.

 

My wife hasn't made me sleep on the couch yet, but I've done it voluntarily a few times.

 

Yeah. I could never sleep when I'm still upset. We always work it out before we sleep. Then after you made up, the cuddling is such a relief. And that's really sweet, what your dad said at your wedding. And good advice.

 

my boyfriend and I don't go to bed angry but I think I would feel silly asking him to sleep on the couch if it ever did get to that point. I don't really see any reason why we couldn't share a bed just because we're mad at each other.

My ex boyfriend ended a relationship when we were living together and I didn't have anywhere to go for like 2 weeks after that. It was really really awkward and I asked him to sleep on the couch. It was my bed so I wasn't going to give it up lol. He refused my request though, so yeah...did i mention it was really awkward?

 

Yeah, it seems really stupid of a thing to make a guy do but there's the whole joke about it on like every TV show about how the man will fuck up and the woman will make him sleep on the couch. I wondered if that was a thing that people actually do lol

And yes, that sounds extremely awkward. Yikes.

 

You should have done what my wife does - be mean. I voluntarily go to the couch. Even when I'm right, lol.

 

Yeah I think TV shows often play up the same ideas over and over again. They're formulaic. It's sad if you were a kid (like I was) who watched so much TV that you actually learned how relationships worked from TV because at some point you'll have to learn that you were dead wrong!

 

Did you up and drag your mattress out of the house?
that's absurdly awkward

 

If she's that mad at me she's more than welcome to sleep down on the couch cuz I'm not going to.

 

I know that if I told my fiance he couldn't sleep in the bed with me because I was too upset, he would. But I'd never ask him to do that.

 

I think I'd be madder that someone would take something so seriously that they couldn't even sleep in the bed with me. I just feel like if you're that pissed off that you can't be around me while I'm sleeping...well, you might as well leave altogether.

My thing is, no matter how mad you are, you should be able to get to the point where you remember who the person is and how you usually feel about them. Let that shit go and go to sleep!

 

Exactly. This reminds of a cute picture I saw on Tumblr.

Here it is.

 

I know that if my boyfriend and I got into that bad of a fight to where if I asked him to sleep on the couch, he would. But I won't ever ask him to do that.

There was only one time to where I insisted on sleeping on the couch because I was really mad, upset, and being irrational. He was upset even more because I wouldn't go to bed with him.

I woke up a few hours later and was looking all around the house for him.... I got scared and worried because I couldn't find him. Went outside and found him sleeping in the car. He was just sitting and smoking until he fell asleep. I felt bad, stupid and guilty..

I woke him up and we went to bed together.

 

Yeah...it feels really odd to sleep in an empty bed when you're used to sleeping with someone. I feel like I'd have a pretty hard time actually sleeping in the bed in a situation like that.

 

I have a hard time falling asleep by myself too. It just feels like something is missing and I just can't get comfortable.

I'm usually the one who walks away first in an argument but he never leaves me alone for too long. He'll come find me, slump down next to me, and we'll just be quiet for a long time. God I love that man. He never doesn't want to touch me.