how do i get my wife to do this for me?

So wait, first off you married a gal without her even ever sucking your dick? Okay maybe you had some pre-marital sex off limits or something. But then after being married she's never sucked your dick in 3 years or ever???

All I can say is WOW!!! Have you ever gone down on her? If not that would be a place to start, or try a 69 with her. Basically I would be honest with her and just ask her if she'd go down on you. You use the word "Classy" whereas I'm thinking "High maintenance." IMHO a person should want to please their partner. Heck once you are married unless you're into swinging (which I'm not) it's the only partner you're ever going to have. So I would think you'd want to sexually please her however you could, and her the same with you.

However the fact that she hasn't ever and in at least 3 years time tells me she has no desire to do it or please you in that way. Now that said IMHO you should not try to "change" someone in that if she has no desire to, you shouldn't look at it like "well maybe she'll change her mind someday." If you're stuck with a cold fish, then you're stuck with a cold fish. That said I'm bewildered that you let 3 years slip by with never notioning or simply asking.

Good luck to you, I think you're going to need it...

 

If she wanted to--she would have done it out of passion by now. She's not interested in that part of it. But you could ask, you know. Find out for sure, man. And what Willy said.

 

Careful with that one. It doesn't work for everybody. If my husband would try that, that would be the day of the year I'd neglect his delicious cock.

OP, if you give her oral and she has never returned it, she just doesn't like it. Even if you ask her to do it, she won't wanna do it. She may, a couple of times, but that will be it.

I'm just guessing, of course.

You could talk to her and tell her she could lick it so to avoid pre-cum and cum. Lots of women just can't get over the dreadful idea of getting gunk in their mouths. If they'd have some guarantee you wouldn't gunk them, they would, perhaps, at least try.

 

Yeah I just have to chime in again here (for the OP's sake).

OP, however stupid, it may be possible that she simply never thought about it and maybe you never brought it up and 3 years just past. Maybe you two are more "prudish" than the average couple. So I need to reserve judgement here...

There could be other reasons she's never done it too, similar to what Just a Woman mentions, or it could be she fears if she does it you'll lose respect for her... Or maybe she's never done it, doesn't know how and is embarrassed to try. I'm reaching here but bottom line you really should just ask her about it. I'm guessing you guys don't communicate much about sexual stuff, so it may not be easy for you to break the ice on this one, but again if you ever want to find out if she'll go down on you, then by all means man up and bring it up with her.

With that do it tactfully, not a "Honey can you please pass the sugar and oh will you give me a blow job tonight?" but find a time when you guys have privacy, tell her there's something that's been on your mind you want to ask her, but when you bring it up make sure you don't do it sounding like you are putting pressure on her. So don't say something like "Why in 3 years have you never gone down on me?" Instead lay it down as something you've wondered about and would like to see if she has an interest in trying. It may be you make some interesting discoveries here.

Again I really don't buy the whole "She's to classy BS." Basically there are givers in this world and there are takers, and there are people in the middle. You saying she's "Classy" makes me think she just wants everything handed to her on a silver platter and she just bats her eyes and needs to do nothing in return. BS!!! Life is not a fairy tale. If that's who / what you married, some trophy wife destine for the easy road, then I have no advice for you whatsoever. Marriage is a joint adventure in which two people commit to a life together, going for the same goals and doing the best to make their partner happy. It's actually kind of part of the vows if you remember. If she cherishes & loves you, then it would make sense that she would also want to try to make you happy and please you too right?

You're either in for a long one sided boring marriage with a "classy" woman, or you even the playing field, express to her that there is a void in your sex life and get it out in the open. I'll tell you one thing, you don't want to be looking back someday when your 50, dick in your hand and think to yourself "What the hell did I do?"

Okay rant over, good luck!!!

 

Give her a good book about fellatio....

 

Three years? Without ever...damn. I think for my parents' generation it might have been you needed to apply for a nuptial sub-contract to even file a request for a blowjob. For me, child of the 80s, oral sex was the new holding hands. It would usually be girls might not want to go all the way just yet, so for the first month or so I would have to settle for 'just' a hummer. Something I could always live with.

What I could not live with is being with someone who had all these restraints and restrictions. Oral sex can be far more intimate than regular sex, in my opinion, and some people have a problem with that. Does she even like french kissing? Or communicating beyond the everyday chit-chat level? The turnside of 'classy lady' might well be 'cold fish'; better, like Madonna sez, put your lovin' to the test.

As for how to breach the subject, maybe 'classy' isn't what you should be going for - because maybe 'classiness' is a category that won't further the marital plot, and adhering to conceptions of classiness will only ensure each of you stays perfectly isolated and unsatisfied in what, get this, in theory should be a joyous union of two persons, no?

I was thinking something along the lines of asking the old lady out for dinner and a movie. Get one of those tubs of popcorn, then when the lights are out and the film starts, stick your cock through the bottom for her to grab.

OK, maybe that's a more advanced move. But how about when you're making out, you suck on her tongue a bit longer than normal, or just slip a finger or two in her mouth to see how she responds. Make it clear you love her mouth. Be blunt: just ask her to take you inside her mouth.

At any rate, I'd ask her in the heat of the moment, rather than having one of those 'dear, we have to talk' conversations over dinner or something. Men are horny pretty much all the time, so eating pussy sounds great irrespective of the moment. For women it seems to matter considerably if they're turned on or not, whether any particular sexual practice sounds appealing. That's also why women, in the event of extra-marital transgressions, are prone to try things they would never do with their lawful partners. And unless you sort this out with her, that's what this marriage of yours looks to be coming to, eventually.

 

Get her so hot she can't stand it and just slip it in her mouth. Do you eat her pussy? If so stop until she sucks the dick and tell her why you stopped and if you don't lick the clot you might wanna start.

 

I'm sorry, but haven't I seen you post that you've never had a blow job before? I hardly think this is your area of expertise lol.


Anyhow, OP why not just ask her about it? I never understand why people start these threads asking how they can persuade their partner to do something. Just talk about it. First find out WHY she doesn't give you head, then maybe we can all give some useful advice to remedy the situation.

 

Put some Grey Poupon on your dick. Classy ladies just love that shit!

 

:iagree:

 

oh mama ,i didnt think you would know what head was!

 

Um....excuse me?

 

oh most awfully sorry

 

Mmm baby please lick it. - that would work for me.

 

Make it a game to introduce it to her. Ask her what she wants, then make her want it badly....then tell her what you want. I'll give "X" if you give me "H" (for head). No givie, no receivie.

 

Say this...

"Honey, tonight we're either trying anal sex or a blow job, but I'm a nice guy and you're a classy lady, so I'll let you choose!"

 

I think classy is ridiculous. You may like going down on her, but I would have to give an ultimatum. If she won't, you won't. Sex is about pleasing each other. I can't believe she won't suck your cock. Why have you waited so long.

 

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I LOLed.

 

ask her if you should shave your crotch area and then ask her to help if she says yes. And hope it goes from there