Wife not a virgin

Why the hell shouldn't she choose to have sex with other guys - especially before you came along.

I know you claim to be a Virgin Groom, but why should a genuine 'White' Wedding be expected of the Bride, whilst it's also generally accepted, if not expected that the Groom be thoroughly experienced in such matters.

As previously stated in this thread, if anything, the only fault, if it can be seen as a fault, is by her not telling you in the first place - although as far as I see it, her sex life, previous to your coming into the picture, is really none of your business. After all, she has rights as an individual.

It's the old story of Double Standards.

 

I appreciate all those who have commented on my original post. Some have been helpful, but not all. But, I do hope that all can understand just "where" I was when all this happened.

I was 22 years old. I had never fucked a woman, nor considered that I had that right, given the very strict upbringing I had had. And I expected any woman that I would marry to have had the same standards before marriage. That's the way it was in the particular social strata in which I grew-up!

So, when she threw it up to me after about ten years of marriage, that she had, indeed, given fucks to several other guys before we got married, I think my response of feeling hurt and cheated was pretty normal. It was only after a period of agonizing and suffering that I came to decide that the only way to survive was to somehow get "in control" of my own sexuality, and since I had a wife who was basically a "Slut", the only option I could think of was to use that to my advantage.

I Knew that there were guys that I saw somewhat regularly who had fucked her, and who were probably laughing at me behind my back, even discussing it with others: "Hey, did you know I fucked J's wife?"

Since there was no way to go back and change the past, nor could I fully control the present, (since she was, even then, giving fucks to other men) I knew the only choice I had was to either divorce her, which was impractical since we had kids, or somehow become "involved" myself in what was happening, and that was when I started making her available to other men to fuck. One of my closest friends told me "I sure appreciate you letting me fuck your wife! She's the best pussy I've ever had!"

I am not claiming that what I did then was "Normal". All I am saying is that it seemed to be necessary if I was to survive.

 

(I haven't...yet...read the other replies to this thread so this may have already been said, but...)--- um, you'd rather be the guy who shares his wife w other ppl than the guy who suffers b.c it is happening? But....um, yea--- finding out your wife wasn't a virgin when you married her (which she also never told you she was, lolz.), isn't exactly suffering through ppl fucking her... it really makes no sense.

Then again, I suspect a :troll:

 

Just wanna respond to this... I think in a lot of situations the answer may be no. However, it is possible..and not only possible, but not weird at all.
Before I met my husband ...over 13 yrs ago....we both were friends w this guy, Jeremy, separately- meaning we both knew him and were friends w him before we knew each other. And I had briefly dated n had slept w Jeremy... then when that was over Jer and I went to being friends without things being weird at all. We are still friends and my husband is still friends with him as well. We are all CLOSE friends...have gone on various week long vacations together.....Jeremy recently (fairly recently!) went to my son's 2nd bday party, etc. (and on n on..)- funny thing (to us, it's funny) is sometimes Jer n I will look at each other- being such good friends for so many years now and just say "hahaha, I can't believe we slept together before"--- not cause we're like "ew", but because it seems like another lifetime and we actually totally forget about it. I guess that's my point- it's not even something we think about. At all. And of course my husband knows about it but he trusts this guy 110% so it's never been an issue in any way whatsoever.

 

uh, what?

 

oh my. god hahahahaha.... what a way to get over it hahahahahah ohha haha

im curious, does the wife share you too? uhm have you encountered any doms who wanna make a sub couple out of you two?

hey why dont you share her a little bit more and gimme some pics of her

 

Ten years is a long time,

 

Lets see. Was my wife a virgin? I think not. The first clue I got was the 9 year old child following her around and mommy not knowing who did the dirty dead.