Hi I am 15 and my dad passed away a few years ago. My mom started dating again and her boyfriend is a huge asshole and should go die in hell. BUT he has a cute, nice, friendly, sexy daughter which I have a huge crush on. And two weeks ago we went on a cruise ann she my brother (hes 12) and I shared a room and me and her the bed which was quite hard for ´because I have a hard time being around her but also not seeing her is a bad thing and she is not lesbian and always is talking about guys in her school. Btw. she lives in a different city then me we are like 3 hours apart I see her like every 2-3 months for one or two weeks. Some help please Because this is getting to difficult.!!:love:
Does she have any interest in girls at all? If not there really isn't a whole lot you can do here other then moving on. I know it's hard but sometimes it's what you have to do
Type in sentences. You are really hard to understand at parts. How old is she? Do you know if she has interest in girls? How do you two get along?
Crushes suck sometimes. I am so hung up on my roommate, so I understand how you feel. It sounds like she isn't into girls, so I guess just work on trying to move on. It can take awhile. I'm trying to move on from my roommate, but its a hard thing to do when you are really into someone Try to find other people to hang out with, join and LGBT group maybe? I signed back up for college and have started doing other things to try and meet new people to help me move on, hopefully it works.
She is nearly 15 and we are best friends. We do a lot of stuff together like movies, amusement parks and such and we talk about most issues. And this whole crush issue only exists because of the fact that I am not 100% sure if I do or dont have a chance with her.
You could always ask her. Hard to get the guts up to do, but if its eating away at you constantly wondering it might be best.
I have had that thought in my mind to and I am still trying to bring up the guts but I just thought that people in this forum would just post something, I dont know motivating or something.
Well, you have a few routes you can go. You can ask how she feels about that kinda thing, in a general sense, to get more of an idea. You can ask if she's ever experimented, and then express interest tailored to her response. You can ask her if she's ever felt interested in girls, in confidence, and see her response, then if favorable, use that as a segue. You can just start flirting with her in a semi-serious manner and see where it goes. Or you can straight up ask her. Good luck
I was going to say asking how she feels on the issue of gay marriage or other such current world issues might be a gauge to see how she feels on the matter.
Well, Eleelei, you're going to have to find your own motivation on this one. We're all on your side here, and hoping it works out for you. But you know much more of the circumstances than we do, and we can only ever work with what you choose to tell us. Crushes CAN go on to become full-on relationships, but let's be frank about this - it's rare. And hitting on a stepsister can leave a massive legacy of awkward issues if the approach isn't welcome. So whatever you decide to do ... play it carefully, take things one step at a time. Don't rush anything and always leave yourself room for manoeuvre if things start to turn a bit tricky. That having been said - you can plan scenarios a bit that might give you the edge. Suppose, for instance, there was a nice lake somewhere near, and you knew there was a nice secluded bit of the shore. You could suggest a family outing up there, and then say to her "Come on - let's go explore a bit" Then you can find your way to that shore, and say somethign like "Oh wow ... just look at this! It really makes me want to go for a swim! Such a shame we don't have our costumes with us" Then look around, giggle, and say "But nobody will see us if we go skinny dipping. I'm game ... are you?" Then ... lead by example! You gotta be the first one to strip off and go in. At this point it really doesn't matter if she does or not. If she does, you can comment on what a lovely body she's got, and see how she responds. If the response is negative, back off and she'll probably think nothing more of it. On the other hand, if she doesn't come in, when you come out you can say something like "Ah - that was wonderful. I don't think we've seen on another's bodies before, have we? What do ya think of mine?" Again, if her response is positive, fine. If not, then you just play the scene as though your enquiry was the result of normal teenage insecurity and body image issues. That's just one example of how ya might do it. What you actually do all depends upon the circumstances and opportunities to you. But the key is to plan an opportunity to get some alone time with her, and then ask abotu it in a way that is sufficiently ambiguous that if her response is negative, you can turn the conversation aside in a way that doesn't look as though you were trying to hit on her. Is that encouragement enough for you? Good luck, and have fun! :daisy:
