A question for you men

I have many times and have some great sex and some very poor sex

 

I mean i have paid for sex but in different ways asking a girl out on a date taking her out to eat and a movie that i paid for isn't that like paying for sex lol

 

Paying for sex? I thought that was called marriage.

 

why would i pay for that?

 

I haven't but know a few who have.

 

Beng self employed I very often get home with cash in my wallet. Sometimes I wave £50 at my wife and ask her what that gets me. It always gets me something even if it's only a handjob!
Does this count as paying for sex bearing in mind she would have got the money anyway and knows it?

 

No way 30 to 40 per cent figure accurate. I never have but know guys who have.

 

My ex-wife was a prostitute for 10 years before we got together but I knew her for the last 5 years of her doing it. I never slept with her while she was doing it and it was even a few yearsafter tthat we even started. In all that time I met plenty of other prostitutes though and fucked quite a few. Never once paid for sex in my life though.

I still talk to my ex daily and we have remained good friends but the permanent psychological effects of having been used as nothing more than a piece of meat to deposit sperm into and constantly enduring the john's attitudes from, "I always wanted to hurt a woman" to "I always wanted to save a prostitute and make her my wife" and everything in between is so great that even as I know and understand, I could not continue as her spouse to help her find peace in her life.

As a teen I knew another prostitute who had only just turned 18 that had a child that was taken away by child services and she was charged and sent to prision. She phoned me 3 times a week for the first 2 months but then stopped and I never heard from her again. I think about her periodically to this day and wonder where she is at.

 

I also would like to point out that, in my experience, the largest variety of johns are insecure young men, middle aged married men, sexually strung out old men that can't find what they want elsewhere, men recently released from prison, men with mental health issues that leave them unable to have normal social relations with women and men who travel frequently (sailors, military, salesmen and whatever else) and in most regards none will ever usually admit to purchasing sex except within the social circle of others that also do.

At 17 years old I was writing down licence plates for street girls safety and I have seen a fair bit.

 

I once fell in love with a prostitute. I never had sex with her though. I did buy a really nice jewelry box very expensive but never got any sex

 

No I have not.

 

Nope never have and to be honest I wouldn't even consider it to be an option!! One of the best parts of having sex is the hunt, weather your single, married, in some sort of relationship... You have to hunt to get what you want..... Be that a sexy massage, a nice meal..... Whatever it is you do to get your partner to have sex with you it's all part of the same game "the hunt" as I refer to it is an essential part of sex. Paying for it is not going to be satisfying at all, at least not for me!!

 

I bought my current lady an expensive present she had been dying for for months. Her thank you was a night of intense, passionate love making. She started by doing a strip tease for me, and on getting down to her rather slutty lingerie she bent over, I smacked her ass and slipped a £10 note in her briefs as a joke (keeping up with the game!) and I got slapped, my cock squeezed and two beautiful breast in my face to suck on! She kept the money as an 'apology' for the joke but it's now a little game we play! Not the payment you are on about but it's the closest I've come to it!

 

why do the numbers matter? and where do we draw the line at for "sex"?

I paid for a vibrator, so I got to orgasm. Is that paying for sex since my pleasure was the motivation?

I paid for porn. This means I paid people to preform sexual acts for my pleasure. Is this different then prostitution?

I have had guys try to force me to let them buy me a drink because they believe it will get them laid. Sometimes it does, with other people. Is this prostitution?

In terms of it possibly being a predatory and dark place, maybe. But dating can be the same. Some women brag about how well they can fake a climax so their SO thinks they are amazing in bed. Any given woman can lie about your performance, she doesn't have to be a professional hooker. If you cum, it was about your pleasure, but can you really know it was also about hers?

And attitude on a sex worker can vary a great deal by country. Japan had a whole class of worker you had to court and only got near if you impressed her enough. It was not a right to bed her, but a privilege. In this case she had all the control and was choosing lovers rather than clients, much like a gold digging wife, but without the household and family strings attached. and sure, its one case, and some sex workers are little more then slaves, but some wives and girlfriends are too.

 

No. Never will either.

 

In the Military it is a custom to pay your Escort...I have never paid a prostitute in the US....

 

Isn't that the truth! Same here

 

never..

 

No, but I might under some circumstances. It's easy to tell guys that they just need to get cleaned up to find a woman (or another guy) to have sex with... but life can be much more complicated. Some have personality problems, or physical or learning disabilities which make it difficult for example even to get a date. Or they may be in a loving relationship, but with a partner who has a much lower sex drive, or is unwilling to do something they desperately want to try. Not saying this is a "free pass" to pick up a prostitute, but life is more complicated than some seem to believe.

 

Must admit that I have.But only once over 25-30yrs ago on a trip to Las-Vegas.Wasnt planned at all.I was in the old Frontier hotel & Casino.I was in my early 20,s and from a really conservative small town.I didnt have a clue what to expect in a city like vegas.Was in the lobby trying to decide the best way to loose my money..lol.When the most beautiful girl Id ever seen in my life walks up.She was tall slender with big tits ,long sexy legs.Blonde hair & blue eyes.Wearing a low cut tight fitting gold dress and gold spiked heels.As she made eye contact with me she gave me a sexy smile an wiped her hair back to one side as she very seductivly cocked her head to the side as she blinked her sparking blue eyes.Then she ask in a very sexy voicee ask if I was looking for a date.My wife and I had been into swapping with other cpls,3-somes and had been to a cpl of swinger parties.So I was getting plenty of sex from some very hot girls.My wife was a knockout.But something about this hot blonde just blew me away.She looked like a playboy centerfold or a model.And it wasnt just her looks.She was just so sensual in every move she made and every word she spoke.I was already get ting a hard-on and hadnt evesn spoke to her.Finally I got myself together and I ask her how much? She said casually as she gave me a sexy grin $100.00 for an hour.I paused for a min and she put her hand on my chest an said if you arent interested dont worry.I knew as I said it I shouldnt.But I said yes and before I knew it we were in my room.I gave her the mone y an she said she,d be right back.She took a bath as I laid back on the bed.An she,d made sure to tell me my time would not start until she came back.She walked in the room in a sexy white garter & stockings with matching bra & panties and heels.And a sheer white see thru housecoat.As she began to slowly