I don't even know where to start, but I've just gotta rant about it. My boyfriend has kids young. His girlfriend in school did that whole pregnancy clique bullshit with her friends and they had a little boy. So Eric got a his diploma, a full-time job, a house, and married her. She cheated on him over thirteen times, was a complete bitch, did no housework, and treated his family like shit. One of the time she cheated it was with her cousin, knowing it was her cousin. They had a baby together and she sold it off to a couple in another town. For some reason my boyfriend was dumb enough to keep her around and they decided to have a girl. After a while she left. She took everything with no warning. She said he beat her, beat their son, and raped her when it wasn't true. She said he was crazy and didn't let him see the kids for close to a year. Of course they got divorced and she was pregnant with another man's baby during court for it. He got visitation every other weekend and blah, blah, blah. It was obvious to me that she wasn't a great mom before all this other stuff happened, but now she's fucked herself majorly and acts like it's no big deal. A month ago she was put in the mental hospital for trying to kill herself. As time as gone by and we have been working on what we need to take her to court, we just keep finding out more and more. None of it has been good. Like a dumb ass, she told us quite a bit. But it got so bad that her own parents have sided with Eric. They apologized for believing everything their daughter ever said about him and said they realize now she was the crazy one all along and is not a fit parent. She's been a stripper for a while now (even though her parents offered to pay her bills for a while to get her to stop) and she has to go out of town to work. The guy she has been with and is living with has no job. He doesn't want to quit smoking weed for a job. She leaves the kids with him while she takes off her clothes for money, cheats on him, and does cocaine and molly. She left for a month once and left them with no food. She told my boyfriend she has had sex with thirty different men since the divorce and had seven STDs. SEVEN. Apparently this guy she is with sleeps around on her too...and she pays for it! The kids tell us all the time how much nicer and cleaner this house is, they're happier and more relaxed here, and they want to live here. They freak every time we leave somewhere because they think we are taking them back to their mom. Since we're doing joint custody right now, they always beg to stay longer when we do have to take them back. They say her boyfriend hit them. They also tell me quite often that I hang out, play, and do more things with them than their mom. They say she doesn't do anything with them and it's noticeable in their behavior. I have a new craft I do with them every time they come over and I look up all the stuff that is going on around us that we can take them too. Their daughter called me mommy around her the other day at a fair and she punished both of them by taking them home. They tell us and show in their behavior that they love us more and see me as more of a mom to them than their mom. It's just all very disgusting to me. I had to rant about it so I don't just snap on her or something like I want to.
That sounds like half of Jacksonville FL.. He should probably get a lawyer and sue for custody. You sound like a good person and would be really good to them. You sure you are willing to take that on though? I mean.. you're only 20.
if there is a state child welfare agency, they might have some helpful advice he might be able to get free legal help from a local legal aid group the behavior of your bf's ex likely has at least partial origin in abuse and trauma in her past. you don't want her to abuse her kids or anyone else, but otherwise a sympathetic view is called for getting custody of the kids with as little bad blood as possible is probably the best approach
We already tried the nice ways to go about it. He asked her, then tried to bribe her. We talk to DCFS and they said they couldn't do anything because all the grandparents were so willing to step in when there was no food. It's fucking retarded. He's already got everything ready and been talking to a lawyer. He has one of the best lawyers for this kind of case in the city, all he has to do is talk to him again and tell him it's time to go to court now. His family has said it would be a lot to take on all at once and that I shouldn't have to so they are going to work with us to ease me into it. I love these kids. They get on my nerves because of the bad habits they've learned from being at their moms, but they change their behavior in a matter of days when they've been switching back and forth so I don't think it will take too terribly long to change those habits. Plus I still haven't moved all my things over here because we had a roommate before all this and now that most of it is over here and organized, I'll need something to keep me busy. Also they are both starting school in like twelve days. His boy will be starting first grade at a new school for gifted children and his girl will be going to the same school, only for half day preschool.
If things are so bad why haven't social services removed the children from their present house? Surely that is the first step on proving unfit parenthood!
You are his current one talking about his ex though, so I'm sure its all objective (unlike this post to show me how wrong I am)
Baggage. I'm sorry that this is happening to your boyfriend and you. Part of the burden of dating someone with children. When you date someone you have to date all of their baggage. Crazy baby mamas and all. There is always his story, her story and then there is the truth. In every bitter relationship. Try to reserve judgement if you can.
If you had read what I already typed you would know that we called them already and they said they couldn't do anything because they had grandparents making sure the kids were taken care of. I have heard all of this from her, her parents, and his parents so I know what's true and what is not. I'm sure he wasn't perfect, but with the way he treats me, I can guarantee he wasn't an asshole to her without her starting some shit. This bitch was an ungrateful, popped ass ho. He bought everything she wanted, payed all the bills, did the cleaning, took care of the kids...all while she sat on her lazy ass and fucked any dick she could get...besides his.
