Is This Normal During Oral?

I'm really inexperienced with giving oral sex, the guy I'm with now was my first bj. The first 2-3 times he kinda had to guide me and tell me what to do, and he never finished in my mouth, he always pulled out and jacked off to finish. But after those first couple of times I felt like it got better, he started giving me less direction and he's been finishing in my mouth now. However, every time he'll grab my head and like move it himself, or he'll push my head down farther into him. Sometimes he'll move his hips so he's the one pushing it into my mouth. Is that normal for guys to do or is he not enjoying it?

 

It might be normal for him.
Sounds like he's just enjoying a jolly good BJ.
Is he in any way demeaning or hurting you?
Do you feel okay after completion?

Just try talking to him about your perceptions.

 

It's a blowjob nothing you described is unusual.

 

Maybe by him pushing your head down - he's trying to get you to push his penis into your mouth rather than doing it himself? He possibly wants you to dominate him in that way instead of him taking control ?
Next time he's in the mood, you take hold of his penis instead & give him a bj the way he may prefer it - you seduce him instead?

 

He is young and inexperienced.
He is acting out what he has seen in porn. Think about it, first it's the whole "pull out and jerk to a finish" bullshit, only works in porn for the visual, otherwise it's lame.
Then he evolved past that but is still doing what he thinks he "should" be doing.

Tell him to relax and stop imitating the bad sex he see's in porn.

Granted, all the actions you mention are fine and good, but if it happens every time, he isn't confident yet and is "acting".

Just my opinion.

 

Sounds like he is fucking your face! Nothing not normal about a guy doing that if you are fine with it. You could always talk to him about it. That is the best way to know what your partner likes.

 

Talk to him - but just not when he's got something in your mouth lol

 

yes it is normal.

 

i don't ever force a woman's head down... i prefer to watch and let her do it on her own. but, if it doesn't bother you, it's ok. he's apparently really enjoying it.

 

Apparently your boyfriend wants to cum in your mouth. That takes some effort. You need to suck it vigorously hard and long and fast to get him to cum in your mouth. If you are uncomfortable with that, you need to talk about it.

 

I really don't think there is a "normal", as in like a standard procedure when it comes to this stuff. Experiences vary. Everyone has a sort-of unique preconception of how these things should go down. I think what your boyfriend is doing is normal in that a lot of other guys would do the same. It typically has nothing to do with how good or bad you are doing. It mostly has to do with his preference for control.

There's a notion nowadays conceived through many porn videos, that during oral sex if a guy wants to be in control and force himself on a girl, then he can. That may well be the case, but, one would still think that a guy should make sure that the girl is okay with that first. Unfortunately, it never even occurs to some guys... This is where porn sets bad examples.

Don't take it as anything other than your guy has bad manners. You're doing fine, he's the one doing it wrong. If you don't like him pushing you down, then pull away when he does it. He should get the idea to back off of that habit.

 

Tell him to grab you by your shoulders, not your head.
Yes it is normal for a man to thrust deeply when approaching orgasm.
Holding you by the shoulders gives you some control of how deep into your mouth his thrusting will go.

 

A former girlfriend of mine always wanted me to cum in her mouth, so she could swallow. However, I always preferred to follow through. Eventually we would take it in turns. If I followed through on one session, then the next I would pull out when I was getting close & then masturbate to the brink when she could finish things off Orally. Overall, a reasonable compromise.

 

Advice to guys: If you want the same girl to give you more blowjobs in the future, let the girl have control. Let the girl enjoy your cock in her own way.

 

great advise , NikeGirl!

 

it happens to me a lot.

 

If he hurts you...bite him.mmmm

 

Sounds like your doing a good job if your finishing him off. But if he's making you feel uncomfortable by forcing your head too much tell him to back off a little.
Its all about variation, maybe try going down further on his dick sometimes and don't forget to give the head of dick attention with your lips and tongue.

 

Take it as a compliment ! It's just something us guys do when we are enjoying a good BJ.

 

This is just him taking a little bit of control and maximizing his pleasure.

 

If he likes it, and you like it, and no one is getting hurt then all is well, I would say. If you don't like it, you should feel free to tell him so. I remember the boyfriend I had when I was 19 used to push too hard, in a rhythm I couldn't always match, and the physical discomfort made ot impossible to enjoy blowing him. So, I'd ask him not to, bit sometimes in the heat of the moment he wohld forget. So, I mocked him gently, in a way that I knew was okay for us, and he got the message and was more mindful of my limitations. Just communicate. But if you're already having fun, it's already fine, and you can communicate that too!