thoughts? 1st date

okay so i really kind of hate posting in the relationship forums but im a little tipsy and i'd like some feedback so here goes.

this past week this girl i had seen at a few parties hit me up on facebook. the conversation started casual then she started asking me if i had a girl and telling me im cute and we should hang out. so i went with it and she started texting me pretty flirty all week.

im not really a fan of texting but i figured i'd humor her and see how it went.

we made plans for this friday, and i even went home from work early so i would have a little bit of time. but when i talked to her she said oh sorry i got called in at work i might be in till 11 or 12. fine, i work that late quite frequently, so i was hopeing we could set a precedent for spending time together late at night since that's when most of my free time is anyway.

after she apologised for not getting back to me for a few minutes and told me she would be at work late i told her i got off early and invited her over. i didn't get a response that night and i texted her the next afternoon asking what happened. still no response.

i really hate it when girls don't follow through with plans like this, because it totally ruined my friday night waiting on her.

i'm not really that into her but i kinda digged her coming on to me so strong like that so was willing to give it a shot. which is confusing because she was coming on real strong then all the sudden stands me up.

so what am i supposed to make out of all this?

should i give her a second chance if she asks for one? or tell her to get lost and she missed it. or just move on in the event she doesn't get back to me?

 

it sounds like she wanted a hook up but then found it elsewhere

 

seems to be plenty of girls around for that. not really looking for just a hookup.

 

Second chance.

/Third strike and she's out.

 

when was I younger, I would meet girls at parties and they would be like lets fuck now .. a day later, dont know ya..
we didnt have cell phone to play tag with either. much easier time for let downs..

 

No its clear that you wer not the one . she backed out at last min. so go do you ! not worth worring about

 

yea the whole time i was trying to get her over asap and fuck her before she changed her mind, but i guess it didn't work.

 

This would be the operating word for me. I'd move on unless she came on to me again. Then, I would tell her specifically that she stood me up twice and that would be her last chance.

Plus, I would set up the date at a more convenient time for me. 99.9% chance she's the usual flake.

 

Too desperate.

 

Tell her to get lost! Lol. Ripper response.

 

was a shitty time for a letdown, but a good time for a date.

 

That's hilarious. I think not saying that is precisely what's desperate.

Before I commit more of my time and plans to her, the very least I would require is "I'm so sorry." I wouldn't even entertain the possibility of giving her the benefit of my company and time before I got the sense that she valued them.

Everything *else* is desperate.

 

yea i guess the time could have had something to do with it. maybe i should just chill out and give it another try at a reasonable time. i'm just working all the time. 2 jobs and school, it's so hard to find time.

 

Forget her, let her come to you again, THEN consider if you want to give her a 2nd chance by dangling the line "well i don't know last time I agreed to this you stood me up".

If it doesn't happen, move one.

(Disclosure: usually i'm a give em a 2nd chance kinda guy, but for whatever reason I'm tweaking that advice slightly)

 

Yeah, I had a giggle myself ..... bottom line is you can't let people yank your chain like that.

How the fuck am I going to trust her in bed if she can't even send a text?

 

OP, I don't really get what *you* want from reading your posts. Thread title calls it a date, you said you're "not that into her" "not looking for just a hookup" and "wanted to fuck her before she changed her mind"

Then you said you would try again later.

It sounds kind of like you're only just sore that you didn't get laid on Friday and it doesn't really matter what kind of person she is or what her reasons are because you are not into her anyways.

So why sweat it?

 

That's what I wish guys realized a little more. 'Cause you know chicks do it, only because dudes let them get away with it.

 

Werent you the one with the 13 yr old daughter telling everyone how they should be raised?

 

Btich ! And any man that pulls that shit is an ass too.

Do you give her a 2nd chance? 1-find out if she has a really good excuse 2-confront her and see how see handles it 3-is she super hot. Then decide.

 

Two to tango, right?