Have you ever heard of anything like this?

(The story of how this cam to light is really uncanny.

Also, there is another uncanny story of how one of my son's best friends is my estranged husband's 2nd cousin and no one knew this until we'd been married for 3 years.)

But, that is totally off topic for Clintonson's thread. I might post them in another thread sometime.

 

oh ya, it's perfectly normal for 13 year old boys to wonder about sex. that doesn't require drugs either.

http://www.extension.purdue.edu/providerparent/child growth-development/SexualDEV.htm

every parent dreads the 'birds and bees' talk. sounds like it's time you guys step up. just be creative in your approach.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L54bxmZy_NE"]Astounding Mating Dance Birds of Paradise -- High Quality - YouTube

 

bravo!

 

i take slight offense to the comments about public education. i think public school is a valuable thing. and since i'm married to a teacher, i feel the need to stick up for her.

i just don't think that the public education system is simply a 12 year brainwashing program. i know that my wife has a major passion for what she does - and that's to help each child in her class to learn and grow to be a better person. she pretty much treats those kids like they were her own, and she cares about them deeply.

there probably are some teachers that suggest drugging a disruptive student (my wife is certainly not one of them), but ultimately that responsibility lies with the parents. blame also falls on the doctors and drug companies, but really a parent should fucking know better than to give their kid pharm grade "meth."

 

rite on...

im not here to argue philosophy with anyone anymore, i didn't know that about your wife PS and don't take anything i have or will say as a dig against individual teachers. they're just like cops, and, i know your stance on police.
those and other jobs like fireman, emt's, etc usually attract the kind of person that wants to help people. i admire that greatly in a person.

ITS THE SYSTEM, MAN.

http://www.wnd.com/2013/04/radical-increase-in-kids-prescribed-ritalin/
http://ksj.mit.edu/tracker/2013/04/ny-times-scoops-cdc-agencys-own-data-did

i'm proud and glad that i opted out of public school, for my daughter and our family, only. i don't recommend it to anyone. however her track record in jr college, transfering to uni next year, and the scholarship money she's had thrown at her, is all due in part to some most excellent individual teachers she's had over the last 2 yrs.

remember that concept the next time you go off on a rant about law enforcement.

:love:

what do you call roughly 16 million children give or take depending on who you believe, inappropriately drugged, for part or most of their primary school years?
sounds like brainwashing to me.

 

nah, fuck police

they don't compare to teachers

 

Don't forget that the population of our country is often used as guinea pigs for whatever the latest drug or product needs pushing for profit. Advertisers happily take the ad money to help them along. Again--for profit. Remember Lawn Darts? Real concern for kids there. "hey--let's put out some big-ass darts that kids can throw up in the air over their heads". "Uh--wait. What if they hit themselves on the head with 'em. Wouldn't that be dangerous"? Whater 'ya--a fuckin' commie? Start production". Of course,feeding drugs to kids is much more serious. I say a heavy dose of love and attention would help much more the drugging them down. I know in some cases--they help and are needed. Consider yourself lucky that the kid was honest with you.

 

Hahaha.

On a serious note, you need to find a different doctor, and a good therapist. Prescribing Abilify was a terrible choice by the doctor. I assume he's only taking 1 or 2mg, but still. You need to talk to your son about what's appropriate and acceptable, and what's not. If you can't do that, then you need to find a good therapist who can do that for you.

 

ah.

es perfectamente claro :sunny:

 

Has anyone sat down with this boy and talked to him about sex? I'm not saying that the public school system doesn't do a good job of educating kids about sex (in fact, in my opinion my schools did great jobs!) but sometimes kids have specific questions that they don't want to ask in public.

Another thing to ask him is if these thoughts BOTHER him? They may just be natural, curious thoughts for a boy that age, but perhaps he's been made to feel that these thoughts are "wrong" and that he should feel bad about what he's thinking.

But there is another possibility (and I only mention it because I knew someone who had a problem similar to what OP has described). Some forms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can include unwanted, obsessive thoughts of a sexual nature. I am NOT saying this boy has OCD, I am merely pointing out that some people with OCD do have unwanted thoughts about sex.

I would also advise finding out as much as you possibly can about the medication he is on. Medication is not always the best solution, especially for young girls and boys who are hitting puberty and have crazy hormone changes going on.

 

I think it's the meds making him honest.

 

its perfectly normal for a boy of his age to start becoming curious about sex.its called puberty.two things that concern me the most is 1 that he described his thoughts to ye as bad or nasty.where did he get to associate anything sexual as bad or nasty.and why did it creep ye out ? he's a 13yrs old boy for godsake.of course he's getting curious.why just assume that normal for his age curiousity is in anyway linked to ADHD ?that saddest thing he has learned now is,if i talk about my feelings to my parents again i'll be brought to the doctor and drugged up.that nuts! the problem is'nt with him.it's with ye not being comfortable about talking to him about sex.thats not his problem and he should'nt be the victim of it.if anything ye should have been very happy that he felt safe and secure enough with ye to be able to talk about it to ye.i fear his trust will have been affected now bigtime.

 

It sounds like you are treating this more like a threat to yourself than as an issue for your stepson. I know firsthand that over-medicating a child can cause serious psychological damage, not the least of which involves that the child may no longer trust you or his mother with what's going on in his life. If you be a man, talk to him, and explain in simple and honest terms that those thoughts are natural but that he needs to find another target besides the two of you, it will most likely go away and you can keep the communication lines open with him. Thirteen-year-olds can have some pretty weird thoughts and an Oedipus complex is really not something that should have you running to the pharmacy.

If you really feel like you need medical help, see a child or adolescent psychologist. They can help get to the bottom of this and explain things to you and your wife better than a forum post can.

Lastly, you might want to keep this low-key. I can only imagine that your stepson would be horrified to find out that you shared such an incredibly personal detail over the internet. I mean, he shared with you one of the deepest and most secret feelings that a child can have, or any age human for that matter. For his sake, be discrete and respectful. Children are fragile.

 

Humm, wondering whatever happened to ClintonsSon and how he's doing, along with his step-son.

 

Thanks for asking! I'm fine and he is doing fine. Apparently it was one of those Tween "glitches" and his ADHD doesnt help things. His doctor didnt seem to think it was much of an issue and so things got "normal" again (Now our problems are more the usual things : getting him to do his homework and clean his room and get off the XBox and go to bed. We were worried for a bit but so far so good. I was reading all the interesting posts and I appreciated ALL the feedback! :2thumbsup: