Have you ever heard of anything like this?

I have a 13 year old stepson here at home. He is just your typical kid. Plays outside, loves video games and even has started liking girls. And all was fine until about two weeks or so ago. And then he came to his mother and I and started telling us that he was having "bad" or "nasty" thoughts! At first he said they concerned his half sister (who is 21 and looks pretty nice) and I thought...."Oh well...just hormones,etc". But days later he started telling us things that he "imagined",etc about US!! SEXUAL THINGS!! Creeped both of us out! He has ADHD and we took him to see his doctor and she put him on Abilify along with his regular ADHD meds. My question is "Have you ever experienced anything like that? What happened? Any suggestions?

 

it's a little weird that he would be that forward about explicit sexual thoughts.

How long have you been his step dad? If it is relatively recent maybe he feels threatened by the idea of your being in a sexual relationship with his mom.

I don't like that the doctor reached for the prescription pad so fast. Maybe a pill will make the problem "go away" for a while, but I think it's worth trying to figure out where this is coming from. Seeing a councilor might be a better idea.

 

Just keep giving him pharmaceuticals until he stops thinking about sex.

 

I dont think all the drugs are really that good of an idea . You might tell him its healthier to think about girls of his own age .

 

Or maybe get him a playboy. That way he has someone else to fantasize about.

Yep, pharmaceuticals and porn are definitely the way to go.

 

I actually have heard of something similar...(must be in the water here in Georgia, lol)

I was friends with a couple who had a 12 year old daughter together, and a 13 year old daughter who was only the man's daughter. In other words, these two girls were half-sisters.

The 13 year old had been estranged from her father and his other family her whole life until she had to come live with them when she and her mother became homeless.

This girl had ADHD and was on Ritalin - maybe something else as well - not sure.

Her presence in the home was totally unplanned for so the two girls shared the bedroom.

One day, the 13 year old came to her step-mom and told her that she thought she was "gay" and was having sexual thoughts about her 12 year old half-sister.

I don't think she really was... I've known her for 6 years now (weird twist is that we found out she is also my estranged husband's third cousin...but that's another story.) and she has had nothing but boys in her life. No more girl crushes. I think she is sneaky enough to know that if she said that, they'd all freak and want her to move back to her mom who had recently moved in with someone and gotten off the streets...maybe her mom told her to say it...I don't know.

I just thought it so weird for her to come out and tell her step-mother that she is having sexual thoughts about her half-sister while sharing a room with her...

Maybe Clintonson's step-son has an ulterior motive to "admitting" this.

 

Certain personality types would not think it awkward to admit to sexual thoughts. Guide him in the direction of appropriate sexuality. If you're unsure about age appropriate, get a book.

 

All I know is that it was very very unsettling for us. He is otherwise a good kid and this is the first time he has acted out this way. The doctor told him that those thoughts were similar to hiccups and like the hiccups he should just not fret over them and they would go away on their own. Surreal!!

 

I don't really understand why he was prescribed abilify.

 

There is the Oedipus complex . I thought this complex was just a guy sexualy attracted to his mom , but it applies to girls too .
http://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Oedipus_complex
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oedipus_complex
http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/425451/Oedipus-complex

 

The big drug co.s give the doctors lots of free stuff for pushing there drugs .

 

Most likely he will grow out of this . I dont think you need all the drugs .

 

I first would question the Abilify, why put a child on this at such a young age. Abilify is an antipsychotic which in children and young adults can cause suicide and suicidal ideation.
Also not all conditions that seem to be caused by mental health only are. I as one who has Klinefelters also known as a xxy male have experienced this. Not all of us experience mental health problems but many do and it is unrecognized by if not most or all mental health providers. Bringing physical problems into the mental health realm of psychiatry confuses them and they almost refuse to except it.

All said please check all possible avenues of your childs health before putting him on possible harmful if not deadly drugs.

 

I agree, its most likely Georgia

Yep, Georgia

 

90% chance this is a troll thread.

 

Does the kid post in "Real Kinky?"

 

I'm thinking the drugs are the issue. Check the side effects. You may see things like, 'inappropriate behavior, poor judgment,,,,etc.'
You may want to contact the FDA, give them a heads-up. Your step-son may not be the only one.

 

that doesn't really qualify as "acting out" in my opinion. he came to you guys as his parents and was honest with you. and what's his reward? getting pills forced down his throat.

what was the doc's reason for prescribing abilify?
i would reconsider giving that to him...

 

"what was the doc's reason for prescribing abilify?"

I doubt that the doctor gave a reason. To answer your question, it's because that's what the medical world does.
Got an itch? Take a pill.
Sad? Take a pill.
What that pill didn't help? Take this pill with that pill.
Every pill has side effects.
The insurance companies would rather authorize the bill for medication than for therapy.

 

can't help but notice...
the one single thing people key in on... drop the drugs. hmm...

where was "ADHD and ADD" 30 years ago? Restless Leg Syndrome wasn't much of a problem until they had a drug that needed a syndrome. this is just my opinion (and others) but the primary force behind schools drugging kids with "ADHD" is to get them to "behave properly".

imma jus say this... how come ADHD is practically an "epidemic" in schools but not in the general adult population? why don't we have 1/2 the adult labor pool on ADHD drugs like the primary school population? is it possible that a little Abilify or Ritilan along with a nice 12-yr brainwashing program (primary school "education") is really just about making mindless drones, incapable of individual thought beyond the latest Kim Kardashian drama?

every child is different and unique. drugging them because their behaviour isn't always "appropriate" does nothing to address the needs and development of a child. nothing replaces parental involvement and love, not even ritalin. myself, i would never trust ANY so called child expert that wanted to prescribe brain drugs to a child whos brain hasn't even finished developing, let alone had any sort of advanced, mature life experience. when my daughter was little, i couldn't imagine handing her over to someone else to raise. we home schooled her and kept her away from institutions and the so called pedagogical experts and raised her just like she was our own child.

good luck, its one of the hardest things you'll ever do is help raise a child.