Girl Doesn't Like To Be Touched.. Help!!

Need help from women only... what can I do??

I have become friends with a really cute girl (she knows she's cute) and I would like to me more than friends. I have learned a lot about her in just a few weeks of talking. She has told me a few times that she doesn't like to be touched, I tried innocently brushing her hair and got the same reaction.

I suggested giving her a massage, she said she wasn't sure because she doesn't like to touched.

She doesn't seem to have any problem with being touched/tickled by girls she works with thou.

She told me that she really likes to cuddle... but most guys want more..

By the way, she is 20, I'm 33. Most of her relationships have been with older guys. She dated a guy that was 22 and she considered him a kid.. She is very mature for her age.

If your wondering, I think she's really cute and something special about her that puts a smile on my face and would really like to see if we can go further. I get turned on giving a women pleasure (not just sex) so touch is very important to me.

She told me about 2 relationships in which the guy has abused her and she hasn't had sex in about 2 years (with one of these guys)

Now I understand that more than likely this is the reason for her not liking to be touched.

I NEED YOUR HELP!!

Please let me know how or what I should do..

I do understand that I have to gain her trust and make her feel very comfortable with me.

But I don't want to basically be put in the "Friend Zone" and not be able to move forward.

P.S. I'm not a real talkative guy, she knows that.. she keeps asking me to tell her a story and got nothing.. but a smile.

Oh she has given me a lot of personal info: phone#, address, describes her place... but seems like she keeps giving me reasons not to come over or changes the subject..

Any help or ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

 

Move on guy. Women are like buses, there's always another on coming.

 

Keep hanging with her and don`t try to touch her. She clearly trusts you more than others, so she likes you I`m sure. Tell her you like her and that you`ll be respectful of her/her space. Eventually you`ll earn her trust if you continue to be mindful of her wishes, just let things progress naturally.
Abuse is hard to get over, but once you have the trust of someone like that, you will have the best companion/gf/mate you could ever wish for.

 

I think she just wants to have a friend. Since she's been in two abusive relationships she might like the fact that there is a decent man out there with whom she can just be friends, without any drama or worse things.

It is also clear she isn't ready for any kind of romantic/sexual relationship. She likes that you value her and likes you as a person but that's probably it. I think she understands that you like her, which is why she discourages you from anything that could put your relationship outside the friend zone. Stop thinking how not to get friend zoned, because you already are.

I do think she trusts you though and would probably let you touch her if it wasn't sexual. Since touch turns you on and that's not where she wants to go with you, you have the 'don't touch me' rule.
Even if she actually does something intimate with you in the future, I doubt it will ever be more than friends with benefits. Are you ready for that?
I am saying this because when she met you and started spending time with you she wasn't ready for a relationship, had bad experience with men and needed healing. I doubt that she would want to spend time with any man that she saw as potential boyfriend/romantic interest material. You were a safe choice, she likes your company and you're helping her heal. When she's healed and ready for a relationship, she will meet another guy, start seeing him and will want to keep you as a friend.

I'm sorry I couldn't give you different advice.

 

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I think you'd better tell her a story!

Sounds like she wants to get to know you more, not meet Mr. Octopus on the first date.

Can you win her heart (without being all touchy feely)?

Hopefully it's not to late for you man, good luck!

 

It sounds like there's more to her story than her just being "abused"; in fact she may have redacted parts of her past because she's embarrassed about what she went through.

If you really like her, be patient with her, don't force her to touch you but let it be clear that your offer of things like (holding hands, massage, and other forms of touching) should be admitted on her terms.

Offer the suggestion of going to counseling.