Rather Break Hearts or Have It Broken?

I hear a lot about people's hearts being broken. And I don't hear many say that they've broken people's hearts. So I started wondering, would the average person rather have their heart broken or would they rather break the heart of another? Mind you, having your heart broken sucks so some may want to break someone's heart to prevent the pain or simply out of spite or pleasure. And if you would break someone's heart, would it be out of pure pleasure, spite or to avoid having your own heart broken?

 

(C)- None of the above.

 

isn't it pretty much inevitable sometimes? unless you choose to lead them on forever, or stay in an unhappy relationship. or do that thing where you act like an asshole so they have to break up with you.

just look at your statement here. you hear a lot about hearts being broken and not about breaking hearts. this is probably because having your heart broken is a traumatic experience, and while breaking a heart generally sucks, it's not even close to the same level of trauma.

i'm sure there's a few people out there who would do it out of spite or pleasure, but i would like to think they are a pretty small minority.

 

The last few guys I knew I didn't even know I'd broken their hearts because they never said anything. I think if they had been more open I would have reconsidered staying or dating them further, because there is nothing more beautiful then a poet in distress.

 

That's why I don't put my heart out there.

 

Tell me about it. I'm a poet and my best work comes from being down in the dumps.

 

So are mine. It's hard to not get involved though, even though it's only just another rainy day!

 

Not in my relationships. We're always cool when we part ways. Maybe choosing a level-headed person to have a relationship with, and being a level-headed person yourself, makes the difference.

 

We need both. How else would people sort themselves out for compatibility? Just lifes lessons. Still can't "tell a book by its cover" and the "contents" may prove unpalatable with enough exposure.

 

Neither, what makes one worse over another is a case by case basis.

Both suck, but if getting out of a toxic relationship means having to break their heart to prevent yourself from living a lie then in that case the lesser of two evils is "break their heart".

While on the other hand, having your heart broken gives you more control on how you can react and handle the situation, and opens the door to other opportunities otherwise not available (hobbies, jobs, free time, other partners generally speaking).

 

I completely agree with this... but if forced to pick one, I'd prefer to be dumped... then you don't have the same feelings of guilt

 

ive been through tremendous ache, so BREAK 'EM!

 

That guilty feeling is the worst feeling in the world. I'll drag my feet for weeks before breaking up with someone because I can't really stand the thought of hurting someone. The only exception is if they don't treat me well, then I have no problem with breaking up with someone.

Being dumped sucks too but I'm good at break ups. Its a process. You allow yourself to wallow and cry hysterically for a week, then you go get drunk. Then you feel like shit about that because it makes you realize how empty your life is, so you try to fill it with something more meaningful. Then you have a rebound. And you realize how empty that also made you feel, so you live like a nun for a while. Throw in a couple of listens to "I will survive" a couple more drunk nights, an embarrassing drunk text or call, and you're eventually ready to move on.

 

Neither one.

 

Wow! Quite a process you got there.

 

breaking hearts sucks big time, i've actually cried while breaking up with a bf because of the guilt.
but now that i'm in love, i think having my heart broken would be 100 times worse, i don't know how i would react and get over it. hopefully it won't happen.

so for me, breaking hearts would be less horrible

 

i'd rather have my own heart broken than break someone elses.they both suck,but i don't understand how anyone could feel happiness outa something that causes hurt to another.as for people doing it out a spite or for pleasure.who'd want ta give their heart ta someone as selfish and cold as that anyway.life is life.shit happened and you just accept it.do the right thing and move on.

 

I recently got out of an abusive relationship with a man who has been through a lot of emotional trauma to make him into the person he is today. I couldn't handle it any longer and I finally left him.
I know I broke his heart, and it hurt me to leave him too... but leaving him was like a huge weight lifted off of me.
I hate hurting people... I'm a very empathetic person. It killed me to see him so torn up. It's been months and he still texts me and e-mails me on a weekly basis. I haven't replied to him since the week we broke up.
However.. I've had my heart broken pretty badly before, so of course this is easier on me.
I could never choose though.. I believe things go the way they are meant to.

 

you did the right thing blue.but if it was an abusive thing i don't think you should be feeling anyway bad about it at all,as getting outa that was what any normal sane person would do.so i don't think that counts at all as breaking someones heart.and not replying ta the texts is wise.its whats best for you.welldone! your a strong woman.

 

If people get their heart broken they often feel the need to talk to somone, or to write on forums like this. If they break Another person`s heart, well that isn´t something you brag about, right.

Maybe some people break peoples heart for fun, but mostly that is not the case.