am I being used or is he genuine? Please help I'm confused

yeah, i really don't see anything that should lead you to the conclusion that he's using you. i mean, it's possible, but based on what you've posted so far it sounds like a pretty random conclusion to come to.

 

It doesn't sound like your getting hitched anytime soon. I would wait a long,long time.
It does seem "off" that he's there all the time, then he's gone for a week.
I don't know, be honest with him.
Is he going to call you during that week?
I would date him for at least 3 years before marriage.
you never know he might be a great guy. Go with the flow for now.
Good luck

 

Ohhhh gees this is what I don't like either. Everyone has been saying positive things but I think this way too a lot. He said he wants to come home early now and see me because he can't wait. I really need to have a little faith, I'm just at that point that if I get hurt I seriously think I'll just crack my head on concrete. I've even thought about letting it all go weather it's good or bad just so I don't risk it but then I'll doubt someone else and end up with nobody
But he has been texting and calling flat out just to talk to me

 

Try to be strong within yourself. Don't let your happiness depend on anyone other than you. Im letting it go and feel stronger already. It's a state of discontent and gut wrenching. Who needs that. Life can be hard enough without being messed around by some one whom may or may not want you. Speaking from experience.

 

You think I should let him go?

 

You both sound unstable. Like Cherea said, you're not paying or doing anything, so why not leech/stick around longer. Or you could crush this man because you're scared and only you matter. The best advice of all is come online mad insecure and take everyone else's whimsical advice.

 

I get what you're saying and can't disagree, but I might hut him by giving him up or hurt myself if I get too attached and there's something more sinister going on. But I have two options here. I think it's something I'll sleep on tonight and make my final decision in the morning.

 

Stop living in fear.

 

He's being genuine, but I'm not so sure I'd want him the way I see it. Too much pressure, too much smothering, too controlling, too dreamy. If you're into that.....fine. It is curious how you can go from feeling secure to feeling insecure. You might give that some thought.

 

Based on what you said, he seems okay... but maybe theres more that you pick up on that isnt being relayed in your post? Generally I think the rule is if you have to ask, that isnt a good sign

 

Agreed. I didn't notice any red flags either. Sounds like you're the one who's paranoid.

 

Yes I was the paranoid one I thought it best to end it he'd already bought me a $200 bracelet I didn't know about and he broke down in tears. He said about the other stuff he's all mouth but come to the crunch he's actually shy. This stems from me not taking the time to know him first. Now I know why this is so importaint as a first step in a relationship thanks heaps guys xoxo

 

I don´t really understand this. Do you mean that he is kind of bisexual or something? In what situation was he naked? At some sauna, or some beach, or in a bedroom?

 

The OP just meant her Significant Other's best friends were swingers. She never said anyone was actually naked in that "swinging" scenario. He basically told her he wouldn't mind if that ever happened, and she in turn told him something that perhaps indicated she wasn't comfortable being naked around someone who wasn't her partner.

It's been a long time since she made this thread. I hope she's still happy with the guy in question. If not, then I hope she's happy somewhere in the world...

 

OK! I hope so too