so, to start off i'm an 18 year old male, still in high school, grade 12, should have graduated this year, but have to go back next yr for another semester... and missed my prom year cause I had no date ffs, and without having a date that graduated, I couldn't even go alone... but anyways... ive always had trouble meeting and talking to girls, and I cant find a way to just mello out and be more talkative around women and being more friendly and flirty in a way that girls might find creepy (keeping in minf girls my age thing every other guy is a total creep). ive always had a little what id call social anxiety but I think im just really shy, and im always afraid ill say something they might find weird or creepy or just think im a uncool in general, lol. I just don't know what to do, its been a while since ive had a girl I could call mine and I miss it, its literally like the best time in my life when I have a girlfriend, I don't use as many drugs and shit and don't smoke as much dope, and girlfriends always keep me out of trouble. im always happy as fuck when I have a girl and I love being able to spend time with them and show them my love , lol sorry if that sounded a bit cheesy, but its true, I just feel like im a much more positive, upbeat and happy person when I have a girlfriend or someone I can be on that level with. and alright, now that that's out of the way, moving along... I really need some major help, its been over a year since ive had any real relationship with a woman, and it and all the other relationships have been shit. mostly because I used to be around a lot of immature and slutty girls and a lot of the girls I dated when I was younger, I dated just because I was so eager to mess around and whatnot. I lost my virginity at a not so bad age of 17, seeing as all these little kids are getting pregnant at ages like 14 and 15, but I was drunk as fuck and had no clue what I was doing, and didn't feel comfortable at all, overall it was a very akward experience for me. fast forward to the past December... I had gotten back together with an ex girlfriend of mine (not out of desperation, we struck up a convo somewhere and decided to hang out, and it picked up from there) and we had a not-so-bad relationship, the reason we actually dated before is because she liked my sense of humour and I wasn't afraid to speak my mind and come out of my shell around her... I really liked that girl, I had a lot of great times with her, everything was great, until it came down to sex. I feel so fucking embarrassed to say it, lmao but I just feel akward in bed, and I think its because I haven't had so much experience (only slept with 5 women, and that's only I think 14 times ive had sex in total, and I only had sex once with the girl I'm talking about now, which is this story). ill say one thing, she loved my oral, haha I can move my tounge real fast and find out what she liked, and got a finger in there and kinds pressed up towards her belly/vagina... had her nuts, lol:willy_nilly: but when it came to the sex, I felt akward again and feel like I didn't now how too touch or grab her or where she wanted to be touched or grabbed. and what are some good, friendly (lol) positions/techniques I can use to maybe make myself or the girl more comfortable? im a vary caring guy and I feel like both times I might have been trying too hard to please them and just ended up being akward. I don't know what to say to women during, how to talk sexy/dirty or whatever to them, and I don't know how to get at it and get ito a position where I can hit the spot or something and make her feel really good... lol Im sorry for the super fucking long posr guys, holy shit , but I just really need some help and tips, because im really starting to get lonely and im trying to build up my confidence and get out there and start trying to meet some women, because im starting to get kind of lonely these days and the only real good buddy I have is moving away in a few days for the summer so im going to try to get out a bit more and meet some new people haha thanks for any and all help, so greatly appreciated! take care :2thumbsup:
ok dude you are rambling these sound like incredibly common problems don't know how to talk to girls and not sexually confident = most 16-22 year old guys
yeh sorry bout the bullshit post im just stressed out because it seems im retarded in the world of women
That shit will fuck you up, lol! If you're lucky, in 30 years' time you'll have women figured out. j/k Edit: There isn't a single guy whose dad took him by the hand to the whorehouse when he was 14 who's ever had trouble picking up chicks! :biggrin: Alpha males, ftw.
You depend on your woman/relationship for your happiness instead of on yourself. This is not a desirable trait. We (women) like attention but being the center of someone's life is a bit too much. Be happy because of who you are, because of the tings you are passionate about (interests,...) and because of what you do with your life. You'll be happier and more confidant, which girls notice and like. A few suggestions: Only do what feels natural to you (and you'll be fine ). Sex is a fun thing, so don't take it too seriously. When you're both happy and laughing, there's really not much that can go wrong . For now keep it simple and observe her reactions. Watch her face and you'll know what she feels like. One option is that you start in the missionary position, keep eye contact with her and then raise her legs towards her shoulders. This will allow you deeper penetration, so don't start too roughly. You can hold her under her butt, raise her hips a little and find the right angle. Or you can put a pillow under her hips instead. This position is good for the girl. The second option is sex in a sitting position, with her on top (on a couch, etc.). She has all control and can do whatever she likes. If she's inexperienced, hold her by the hips and help her keep the rhythm. Start really slowly and try different depths. Than go a bit faster until you find the right rhythm. Some girls like it if you change the rhythm from a slow to a much faster one a few times, other don't. If her legs get tired, hold her under her butt and move her yourself. The most important thing is to just be honest. Don't say things you don't really mean. A great way of making your girl more comfortable is telling her that you would like to see/make her smile. When you tell her that she's beautiful or give her a compliment for her looks, don't forget to add something about her personality as well. Some women like caresses and kisses on their neck, massages of the scalp and slow, gentle pulling of the hair away from it, others don't. It depends on the girl and it's trial and error. Good luck!
