Ok i have a question for you ladies who have been with men also. Did you have any trouble going down on a female compared to a male? I can honestly say i have never had the desire to go down on a guy and knew early on that i was into females. I'm asking because the girl I'm kind of with, who is in a relationship with a male (if you read my prior thread, you'll understand) is concerned she wouldn't be comfortable going down on me. i explained that it isn't an issue for me, and if she decides she wants to try it fine, and if not, that's fine too. she doesn't think it's ok for her not to. anyone have any advice i can give her? I don't want this to be the reason she doesn't give me a chance. so how do they compare?
Just tell her that there's no pressure on her to go down on you if she doesn't want to. If she does eventually decide to do it, then you'll probably have to tell her what you like girls to do when they go down on you. The key here is to be patient with her, to be supportive and encouraging and to make her as comfortable as possible.
Thanks...trust me I couldn't be more patient than i already have been. if you read my last thread you'll understand. and yes i told her it's not really a big deal to me. if she decides she wants to try later, I'm fine with that, and if not, that's fine too. we talked about it yesterday and she feels better about it. I'm just curious to know how they compare?
I just read your last thread and it does seem like she's going through a lot. I don't know what advice to give in regards to that. My heart goes out to her. She's been through a lot. I'm not sure what you mean by 'how they compare.' Do you mean how a guy goes down on a girl?
Yes, she's been through a lot, and I've been beside her the whole time. she's never even thought about being with a female before me. i mean she said she has had possible feelings for a female, but ahe pushed them aside. since she's been with him (10 years, he's her first and only) I'm the only person she has let in. she is so close to leaving him, i can feel it. but before you judge me for all of this, please read my prior thread. it explains everything. i am so close to having the girl of my dreams. To answer your question...i mean how does going down on a guy compare to going down on a girl. as i said, I've only ever done it with women because i wasn't interested in trying it with a guy. I know a lot of women have been with guys before thet realize they prefer women. so i guess what I'm asking is is it difficult to go from going down on guys to going down on women? Which tastes better? Is there any advice i can give her to ease her mind? She's afraid that if she tries it she might not like it and would make things awkward. I told her that I'm fine if she doesn't do it, it's not a big deal to me. i love her and want to be with her no matter what. she however says it's not fair to me since i do it to her.
I actually had to sit for a few minutes and seriously think about how I could answer this. It's not an easy question. It's actually a very different thing altogether. I made the transition between the two, but they're both totally different sex acts. Neither one tastes better in my opinion, but I never liked the taste of either, to be honest. The general consensus amongst my bisexual friends of both genders seems to be that women taste better, though. Even though I never liked the taste too much, I've gotten used to it, and I enjoy doing it. It's something that takes a little getting used to. There's a chance she might not like it at first, and the only way for her to know if she'll like it or not is to just try it. It's an acquired taste that might take some getting used to, but she probably will eventually. My advice (and my partner's advice) is to just tell her all of this up front and to reassure her that you're fine if she doesn't like it. There are other ways for women to have sex with each other. Oral sex is just one of many. You could try a 69. That's what worked for me. She might be too focused on how good what you're doing feels for her to worry about the taste and texture of it. Let her be on top, though. That way, she can stop more easily if she gets uncomfortable. I hope this advice helps. My partner and I are both rooting for the two of you. Good luck.
Ok so that was issue #1 and we have basically resolved it. she texted me about a very descriptive dream she had concerning the subject. All is well there. now issue #2 came out this morning. she's not sure if she can be with a female because of her parents. she has never even considered it until she met me. her dad is very against same sex relationships and it would kill her to lose her parents. now we are both 26 and I've been through this already with my parents, 6 years ago. i told her that story. my mom kicked me out but wouldn't let me leave. They've come to terms with my lifestyle. my dad will ask me how my significant other is and my mom and i will talk occasionally about the subject, but we don't go into details. i wouldnt say they accept it, but tolerate it. i told her that her parents will probably do the same. i understand her concern, but this is who she is and she shouldn't hide it because they might not approve. i feel it would help the situation that she dumped her asshole boyfriend (hopefully soon) who they hate, and that she woukd be able to go to family functions again. She hasn't in years because of the boyfriend, but she doesn't seen to think it would help the situation. i feel like she is really wanting to consider a relationship with me as this is the second issue that has come up in the past week. anyone have any advice i can give her?
