I have met someone who is female and likes being a dom, I am male and would like to experience being a submissive but not sure what to allow her to do to punish me as I don't want to be put off on the first occasion by too much pain. I think that when she comes into the room I should be on my knees. The scenario that I envisage is me licking her arse and pussy, with her punishing me for not doing it correctly. Any advise would be gratefully received.
It doesnt really sound like you've discussed this? The first step should always be an honest and frank discussion about what you desire, expect and limitations. Fantasy and reality can be very different, the last thing you want is to be tied, gagged and not able to prevent more than you can handle..that may be a hot idea but seriously it's not sensible. As an example personally I like to be fucked by 'strangers'. That takes discussion with my partner on what I want and don't want. Then my partner has to find and filter potential 'fuckers'. It's a lot more than someone just turning up to my home and fucking me. If you're serious, be serious. Respect each other and have fun! Shayla x
Shayla, you are correct, I have not discussed the idea yet, I just wanted some feedback about being a submissive before I spoke to her. I especially would like to know what sort of whip or flail inflicts the least amount of pain, I assume the shorted ones?
Communication is key!!!! Let her know what is absolutely off limits and what you aren't comfortable with. Any good Dom will ease you in and slowly push your boundaries. When she comes in, generally you should be on your knees in the submissive position (On hands and knees with knees shoulder length apart, head down) looking in her eyes is a big no-no! Don't look at her face without permission, either. It's generally good manners to say 'Master/Mistress, (insert name)' and kiss the left foot. All in all just be a good boy, and don't ever be afraid of the safe word! I'm sure your pleasure is in a way her own. You won't wreck anything by calling it quits.
You need to define "submissive" for yourself before you do much else. Do you desire that your service be only sexual, or do you wish to surrender more to her, or even all to her in the fullness of time. Before you enter into any arrangements, for your own safety and well-being, be certain you're both on the same page. However, if you indeed wish to be punished for being displeasing, then you need to understand that punishment should not be something you enjoy, but something you'll dread being made to suffer and something you'll dislike suffering, else it's a reward for misbehavior.
