I'm not sure if I'm a full fledged Lesbian. The idea of having sex with a guy is just weird. Where as I've already done stuff with women and I enjoy that more. I see myself with a woman but I always assumed I would end up with a guy. But now I'm wondering if that was some sort of image that was pushed onto me. If I'm a lesbian.. I just don't have anyone to turn to and so I'm asking for any advice that anyone can offer.
A lot of people struggle with this, i did as well. From a young age we are taught you grew up, find a man, get married, and have children. The problem is, not everyone wants thar. it's a head vs heart situation. your heart tells you that you ate attracted to women and want to be with a woman, but your head says otherwise because of what your parents have taught you or what is socially acceptable. you need to find out who you are. if you aren't comfortable with guys, try a relationship with a female and see how you feel about it. you can't just decide to be straight or gay, you have to find yourself. hope this helps
I feel that with females, I am more challenged and anticipating what will happen next and there's this uncertainty - and I, most definitely, know that I will fall in love with them. Whereas, for males, there's predictableness, some sort of security, and normal-predicted contentment... I would not fall in love with a guy, however. I would adore them, but falling in love? I feel like I would force it.
Be aware that being lesbian is far more than wanting to have sex with gals, and not wanting sex with guys. Lesbianism is far more profound than just sex. Sex, in many ways is easy. It's the emotional part of your life that you should be regarding more closely. It's called "having a relationship" and all that that entails. I'm not talking having a crush on another girl, I'm talking falling in love. That's why same-sex marriage is such an issue. Lesbians fall in love with other women
i agree with silk. sex for me is only an expression of love (im a monogamist XD) and that sex without love is really just exercise. it is the relationship that counts. people think that gay/lesbian/bi people just hang around and have sex with the same gender because they choose so, but being homosexual is just an attraction to the same gender. This would entail everything that heterosexual couples want including finding the person who you want to spend with the rest of your life, and sex. the best answer for me is, if you fall for a girl or a guy, it is the same thing. get to know them and if you're lucky, it would blossom into love, if not then try again. lesbian/gay/bi/transgender are all just social constructions like gender vs sex. don't think too far into it. I had a lesbian friend who thought she was a lesbian until she met a guy and they are happy together, and i've had a straight friend who thought she was straight until she met a girl and they are happy together. don't get too tied up with labeling yourself. you are who you are and if you like them, try it, if they reject you or it doesn't work out, then try again. it'll hurt but eventually you'll meet your special someone that you will love with all your heart regardless of gender.
