I'm a 27 year old male, and I'm wondering about decreasing my sex drive? They make pills like viagra to increase sex drive, so is there anything out there specifically designed to decrease it? I don't want anything that'll kill it long-term, just something to manage it and keep it under control. I'm at a stage in life where I need to focus on career/etc and can't have this affecting me, its already cost me one job as it is. Basically, my sex drive makes me moody and depressed. This is how its always been since I turned 13-14 and its always gotten in the way of school, work, etc, it makes it so I can't live life and focus on things I want to focus on. It also makes me antisocial and irritable. I've tried masturbating enough to decrease it, which worked for a while. It used to be that if I knew I was going someplace that would get me...."aroused", I could masturbate and that would calm me down for a few hours. Now though I'm expected to work 8-9 hours a day surrounded by beautiful women (that I have 0% chance of ever getting with). Seeing them, being around them, etc, makes me moody and has cost me one job already since I tried masturbating more before work (which made me late). Getting laid, getting a girlfriend, etc, isn't an option. I've tried plenty already and have never had any luck. I know that's how most people cope, if anything arouses them throughout the day they just channel it into sex with their partner. I've also tried herbal remedies, which have been inconsistent at best. I'm not forsaking it forever, I just want to be FREE from it for a while so I can get my life straight, then embrace it when the time is right. I've heard that SSRIs have this sort of effect? Does anyone know about this, have experience with them, etc? And how would I get prescribed this? I don't have a doctor, haven't seen one in years, etc, and I'm on a budget. And oh yea, I haven't had sex in...6 years? Though I'm not a virgin.
Meditation is nice, but I don't have the willpower to maintain that mindset throughout the day. I see one hot girl, with nice hips/ass, etc, and it sets off my depression. I need a drug that forces me to be asexual. To the point where I can look at a girl and not feel anything at all. Its complicated, I don't actually like sex. A hooker wouldn't do anything for me at all. Back to the original topic...will my idea work? If I get on an SSRI, my sex drive will vanish? For those on here that have been prescribed SSRIs, what's the best way to go about getting prescribed? I don't want to spend too much money, can I just go to a clinic that charges $50/visit and tell them my symptoms and I'll be good? Is this something I should actually go to a psych for?
You need help brah. More than you can get online. Taking drugs to decrease your labido is a fucking awful idea. You need to see a therapist or some other head doctor.
I highly doubt that. This is something I can't control, I lack the willpower. Unless there's something altering the chemicals in my head and forcing it, it won't work.
That's your opinion. I've known plenty of people who've gone a lot longer without sex. Some people just aren't meant to have sex, be sexual, etc, and their sex drive is more burden than something to enjoy. That's how I feel, I've tried for years (hell, probably over a decade) to get into a relationship and girls just don't like me that way. I've gotten a random lay here and there but that just isn't for me, I don't enjoy it. I see hot girls and it makes me depressed because I'm seeing something I can never have. All I'm asking is to not feel that need. It makes me moody, it makes me lose focus on work/study (you know, shit that ACTUALLY matters), and it makes me antisocial. I end up not wanting to go out and do anything because I'll see girls and it'll make me feel like shit. It gets in the way of working, living life, etc. The testosterone, aggression aspect of it has also made me do foolish things, like get into a car accident. I want to be cool and calm, not be a sex-driven testosterone-fueled idiot. What's wrong with that? The only issue I can see is that it might be a lot worse when I eventually come off the meds, but by that point I'll have achieved what I want in life and I might even have a partner and then I'll be able to embrace my sexuality.
Forgot to mention, I'll probably need this soon. I may end up in a living situation where I can't jack off at all, and for the past few years that's the only way I've been able to manage it. Hooker won't work because I still wouldn't be achieving what I want. All men are different, we have different sex drives, different things that turn us on. Just sticking my cock up inside any vagina doesn't hold any appeal for me. Also the same reason why I can't just lower my standards completely and get ANY g/f, because I'd still be left wanting.
I know what works for me and what doesn't, and I've tried things like that before. I can meditate and assume a mindset, but unless I were to hole up in my room and meditate like that for months where it gets ingrained into my personality it wouldn't stick. The first time I'd see a hot woman jogging in yoga pants and my mindset would instantly shatter. My body can override my mind and what it wants, in order for this to work I'd need a chemical that overrides my body. Hitting the sex drive right at its source.
Yeah and I bet you smoke weed, drink, and probably take psychedelics? Chemicals are chemicals, if I want to alter my mind its my own business. Back to the original point, does anyone have useful advice? lol I'm just trying to verify if this will work for me, and wondering what's the best way of getting a prescription?
op, there is much which you do not yet understand. I'll tell you one more time, microcosmic orbit meditation.
You are right about the pills you originally asked about, they can cause sexual dysfunction and a decreased labido. Here is a list of other side effects. nausea/vomiting drowsiness or somnolence headache (very common as a short-term side effect) bruxism extremely vivid or strange dreams dizziness mydriasis (pupil dilation) changes in appetite insomnia and/or changes in sleep excessive diarrhea weight loss/gain (measured by a change in bodyweight of 7 pounds) increased risk of bone fractures by 1.7 fold[28] changes in sexual behaviour (see the next section) increased feelings of depression and anxiety (which may sometimes provoke panic attacks) mania tremors autonomic dysfunction including orthostatic hypotension, increased or reduced sweating akathisia suicidal ideation (thoughts of suicide) photosensitivity[29] paresthesia cognitive disorders Syndrome of inappropriate antidiuretic hormone hypersecretion You are going to be hard pressed to find any sane person who would reccommend abusing these drugs.
Abusing? lol I'm not talking about abusing. I have depression. Thing is, its tied to my sexuality. So if I'm going to go talk to a Doctor, Psych, etc, I want the right meds that'll actually work for me. I don't want to spend money on a Doctor's visit, tell them my symptoms, etc, for them to just say what you've said (that decreasing sex drive is a bad thing) and give me an anti-depressant that doesn't effect sexuality. That's why I'm looking for advice here. If you were in my shoes, how would you go about this? Is this something I should be asking in the mental health forum and not here? I know its like....drug seeking behavior, but I know what I need. And its not like I'm trying to get opiods or anything, most people don't like SSRIs and they sure as fuck aren't recreational. I was also hoping to hear from people about their experiences, what antidepressant has the most libido-decreasing effect, if there are any that might have the opposite effect (really would like to avoid those), etc. Meditation is nice and all too, but.....that's like asking me to meditate instead of drinking coffee in the morning. If I had the willpower to do that, I wouldn't fucking need it in the first place. What I'm looking for is something that FORCES it, like how caffeine forces me to be energetic. Edit: When I see a hot girl, it makes me want to die. I feel the heat from the sex hormones, and at the same time they make me feel like absolute shit. At this point, any sort of medication, even a SSRI with all of its side-effects, is worth it. And I don't need therapy, I understand why it makes me feel the way it does and no amount of talking about it will help. Unless a therapist is going to magically get me a girlfriend. Hell, the SSRI will likely change my mental outlook, make me much more positive in general, and make it so finding a relationship isn't so crucial; so in the end it'll probably help me get a girlfriend. As it is, the moody sexuality is actually in the way.
