Let me give some background before I ask my question. It's been almost 5 months since my relationship ended with my ex. It was a painful & confusing breakup (he broke up with me out of the blue without an explanation) especially since he & I had such a wonderful, loving relationship with a deep spiritual connection. A little while later I discovered why he did that (he went back to his cheating, drug addicted, abusive ex...a manipulator) & I decided if that was the decision he made then that was his choice. Anyway, I continued on with my life, leaving him in my past, but all of a sudden now he haunts my dreams. Every freaking night. I don't know why or what to do about it. I need answers on a psychic level as he & I had a deep psychic connection when we were together but I am cautious to contact him & open myself up to any hurt. Any help or ideas?
Lol. I don't have to... He's with his curse now. She causes more misery than I ever could. Thanks for the laugh Irminsul
Hi SkyeWatcher When ever two people make a connection they begin to form layers of energy around that connection. The connection then takes on a life of its own. This is a bit like creating a tapestry, or painting. I was working on a painting recently and my daughter asked me as a joke how many layers had I done, or would need to do to complete one picture. Smiling I realized life is like our paintings and relationships. We allow the creation within us to take us places we had not imagined, or dreamed. What is happening when forming, or going apart...breaking up is asking us to not become lazy in our own truths and changes. We are here to grow. So you both grew. The dreams are just showing you some stains and moments unseen to those around us that go deeper inside us. Healing and moving into change will ask us to let go. This is so we will not take the past into a new painting or relationship. Some relationships are so riddled with expectations and demands they become addictive and love is no longer what holds one to another. As much as you want to move on...and you do this by each choice you make, he is bound by his own emotional addictions and self made prisons. One of the reasons You are having dreams of him is because he is becoming aware he lost the best thing he had ever had because he could not deal with being open. This is one way on some level for him to say he is sorry, or to set you free. His spirit is looking for healing. You can not help him on this journey and path he has chosen. For you, do not hang on to the energy of the images in the dream. Honor the past knowing He made a choice that affected and effected both of you. Put some lavender under your pillow and get used to being in graditude of the greater awareness. Burn white sage and find a rose quartz crystal to put in your bed room. Love is not what is done to us but what we become. Our hearts were made to love many times throughout our lives. This is one way to grow beyond what we know. I had one foster mother tell me that when you are having nightmares or shitty moments keep in mind you are looking at the ass end of the energy and not the face of truth. I spent many years trying to figure that one out until one day my daughter said...mom, shit happens...get up and get on with your life. Yup she was right. Keep a sense of humor and be glad for the love and good times. Let the past go. You have graduated. You are just healing on many different levels, and sometimes that takes time.
Thank you so much. That makes a lot of sense and I understand what you are saying. I tried before to help him but know I could only warn him about the path ahead of him, giving him insight but it was up to him to make the hard decision to break the chains that bind him to that pain. He made his decision & I know I cannot go with him down the path he chose. I have lavender & a rose quartz & I'll get some white sage & follow your suggestions. Thank you again.
