what is wrong with this chatmail transaction?

I thought it would be comically cold, so I wrote more.

This makes me a 'bad flirter.'?

Maybe I'd have a better attitude if this hasn't been my experience with texts/mails.

 

Chill and don't over think things.

If she doesn't get back with you then she wasn't worth it.

 

ok...when she asked ''do youremember me from such and such''?

this was your chance to determine where you stood immediately...you should have answered ''of course i remember you...i been carrying around a crush on you this whole time''


see?...then its out there but you havnt gambled alot yet by asking her out....plus...now you wait for what comes next and then take it from there

 

You should've just asked for her number (or sent her yours and told her to contact you) instead of writing that last FB message. But she's likely not that interested in you cause I know I have people that message me on FB and I often don't have time nor want to conversate with them.

It gets annoying, especially those people who love to try and chat with me when they see me come online . I dislike FB more and more all the time.

 

^ wasn't a chat. a message or two. Spread out as well. faawking can't/don't wanna believe one message kills me like that though.

I don't like cheesy admission of like, 'specially right away like that, but i suppose it's alot better than compensating conversation. :/

Since I was already fucking up I gave it a shot though.

I just dropped a:

I would've preferred to meet up in person and had it went well to say so in person.. but maybe this is better. I have no clue. Going for a smoke break :willy_nilly::redface::leaving:

 

you can turn chat off. or turn it off except for certain people.

 

I know, I just went off on a rant for a bit about chats. My point was that it's hard to spend your time replying to people in a message that you really don't care to deal with. So you should've just sent her your number. But at the same time, the fact that she didn't respond tells you everything you need to know.

Oh, I know. I've had to make use of that feature.

 

She answered you! She said "haha sure". So set the place, set the time, and go. Keep it as pragmatic as you can. Don't look for bad, or think there is a fight.

 

what thread did you get this from?...........where did she answer him?

pragmatic....wtf?...explain this as i can be slow sometimes...is this something that they are doin in california now?


what did i miss for chrissakes

 

Pragmatic just means in this case he should not worry about things that could happen or how he would be perceived by the girl if he's a genuine person (I think that's what calgirl means). They do it everywhere, you seem quite pragmatic at times as well rolling Not all the time though, cause the answer you ask for is in the original post of this thread

 

ok yoda...i thought she had returned a second time...calgirl wa referring to the first one?

...i admitted i'm slow,right?

remember i'm a stoner ....i looked up pragmatic....its a 3 dollar word......it doesnt sound right coming out in my rl speech

 

I use pragmatic in rl too (the dutch version anyway which is pretty much the same word) and I am a stoner as well. Won't admit I'm slow though

 

See below in red. That is where she answered. My suggestion is that there is nothing between the lines here. Much effort has to be made to not be presumptuous. So to reach that point, be pragmatic. To me it means take things literally so that you can be functional and efficient with no emotion. Besides, its way too early to think any of it is personal. That happens way later.

2:59pm
kokujin
Hey -i'm going to accept your FR, but do you wanna hang out sometime? No relation to April fools.. I'm being for real for reals.

4:19pm
Heart Breaker:
haha sure. do you remember me from #####?
Monday

9:35pm
kokujin
would be strange if I didn't yet still asked u to hang, wouldn't it?
I see you're still working @ Place Of Work. haha sorry I wanted to laugh about that.

 

try meeting girls that can use pens and paper..

 

Is it possible she thinks your laughing at her for still working at the place you guys met at?

I just read the last line again and figured that maybe that's what put her off if indeed she's put off by something in your post.

 

what are you? some kind of lawyer?

i know already...we straightened it...i wont highlite it in red though...asmodean follows me around correcting me...i could use him inrl to be more pragmatic...the dutch version anyway....:mickey:

 

That I use the word pragmatic does of course not automatically mean I am pragmatic myself

 

fuck sakes...where my thread update....kinda left us hanging

thats what i get for being dogmatic

 

you fucked up son.. you dont ask a girl out over a message.. at the very least you get the phone number and then call them to ask them out.

 

The 2nd message got a response, albeit not as impressive anymore.

she said "lol I had no idea! I happened to see your name on the ##network and added you. blah blah work comment." (not in that order)

So, it seems, I would have to start from friendship/mild interest on my part. Nah...

(I'll stay in contact but I'm not going to push it hard)