Women who prefer to play their 'role'

For the guys, do you prefer women like that?

And to the gals, do you prefer to do that?

That has always been my type of woman, one who understands what she's supposed to do and what I'm supposed to do. DON'T GET ME WRONG, I'm not trying to be sexist or misogynistic, and I don't mean this in a derogatory way.

Not literally the 'barefoot in the kitchen pregnant' stereotype, but a woman who understands her man, cook dinner when I'm tired from work, do little things around the house, comfort me when needed, and not nag or play games. And I would do what I have to do: make her feel appreciated, bring home the money, talk with her and listen, etc. And of course, if someone is lacking in an area at some time, the other one would take over for a while.

I always felt that's the best kind of relationship. Feminism, although originally with good intentions, has turned into a movement to change human relationships which have existed since the beginning. While I won't club a gal on the head and drag her back to my cave to reproduce, I do like it traditional.

THOUGHTS?

 

I'd rather play their "'role'"

 

I can never see myself not working, at least parttime. I also don't plan on having kids, so it's not like I want to be a stay at home mom. Personally, I believe in trying to keep duties equal in a relationship, particularly where you guys are living together. Divie up the chores... you can do the ones that your partner loathes but you're ok with (my mom and I do this... I vacuum and she'll scrub down the counters, especially our coffee area counter). I really don't want to play that "role" you describe, of a stay at home gal. I enjoy cooking and all, but doing it every day would drive me nuts.

 

Well if you're talking staying home with the kids, also, then I think the woman and man should take turns each night with dinner. I mean, just because the woman isn't at a paying job, doesn't mean she's not working. A house has an unbelievable amount of upkeep that comes with it... and especially with kids. Mealtime should be a shared responsibility. I think it's a good system just because it works (if the man gets paid enough to support them comfortably), but I don't think it should be strictly woman at home, man at work. It's a good system but men can stay at home doing housework and tending to children while women work too. We're in a civilised enough society to be able to do both roles.

 

i thought i liked that tradional woman , but I found out the hard way I am so not into that.... i prefer a woman who loves me, who loves herself and is not of the normal everyday girl, she needs to have desires, be willed to follow through and explore her sexual desires, be open to me and not hide or hold back, if hse wants to cook , ok if not then we can order a pizza and have sex while we wait for the delivery, or we can go out get a bite to eat, look in to each others eyes and melt, we can have spontaneous sex and spontaneous moments just sharing hugs and kisses.....Good luck guys, i found her and she is all mine...

 

'Nother non-traditional girl here.

When my youngest was born, I went back to work before my fiance did, because he could jump in and out of his job more easily than I could.

I like working; I couldn't give up what I do to be a full-time stay-at-home wife.

 

I've had the good fortune of being both a SAHM and a working mom. Both have their own set of challenges and stressors.

I stayed home with my kids when they were little, I felt lucky that I was able to do that. But, now that they are teenagers, I don't think I need to be home 24 hours a day. And being a single mom, I need a paycheck, so my boyfriend doesn't have to pay my rent.

There was a time, when I wanted to be a SAHM and I was resentful at being forced into working. But now that I have been working for several years, I have found that I really need it. There is a certain amount of social interaction with adults that I will not get, if I don't work, and I need it. The only way I could stay home, is if I could go to school. I HAVE to get out of the house, for at least part of the day. For my own sanity. Else I fear I would become a complete hermit... Not only that, but it is nice to have some money and it feels good to know that I have provided for my family.

The best thing about living with just me and my kid though, is the housework. If I am tired when I get home and all I want to do is order a pizza and sit on the couch, I can do just that, whether the house is trashed, or not. In a traditional role, I would be obligated to clean the house, even when I don't want to. No thanks. Home Ec.y Becky, I am not.

 

I think lots of women would like to stay at home really, and why not. I'm not suggesting it is for everyone, it's not. The thing is, it's vitually impossible for most working class people to do so. It just costs too bloody much to support a family. Way more than one wage can offer. I think its pretty common these days for both man and woman to be working in a relationship, not for choice but out of nescessity. Its a little unreasonable to expect a woman who also works as much as the man, to pick up all the tab in the home.

Thats just unfair, everyone should pull their weight. Women, Men, Boys and Girls

 

I don't know I like my independence but I like to be taken care of too. Fortunatley I work for a company that is wonderful with maternity so I wouldn't have to lose that independence or personal security, but at the same time if I had a child and it issues that needed more than a working mom than I would want the option to stay home as if I ever become a mom I would prioritize anything over it. as far as making dinner everynight-take out is a wonderful thing

 

My mother is both the professional executive type and a feminist, so I was raised to expect an equal balance out of relationships rather than subservience. If I ever find myself married ( ) and my wife isn't working, I will still split the household shit. Cooking dinner together is much more enjoyable than sitting on the couch like a lazy redneck drinking beer while some woman cooks for you. That's bullshit. Even if she wanted to do it all sometimes because of the womanly nurturing thing, I would be in the kitchen talking to her while she cooks. Drinking my beer, of course. The assholes who demand food on the table when they walk in the door should not have wives.

 

you mean changed relationships were a woman is your equal.....

 

Yeah, my thoughts are that this post was dumb...no offense but get off your lazy boy and know that women can work and dont have to cook and take care of you, we are not your mother...
And I can bring home my own money and dont need a man to take care of me, I can take care of myself and love it that way...
no offense, but your post did sound rather rude...

 

RE: I don't know I like my independence but I like to be taken care of too.

Read "I want to have my cake and eat it too"

 

I would love to stay home, take care of kids, bake cookies all day, have doors opened for me by gentlemen, bags carried for me.

Thanks Women's Lib

 

RE: I would love to stay home, take care of kids, bake cookies all day, have doors opened for me by gentlemen, bags carried for me.

's what our house is like. Believe me, you wouldn't love it.

 

I am a traditional woman. A stay-at-home mother and housewife. I pamper my family to the point that many, many have accused me of spoiling, but I do it out of love, not obligation.

I'm fortunate because my husband acknowledges all that I do, and always tells me thankyou, compliments me on dinner, and admires that the house looks nice even after a chaotic day. He's good about that. He respects my role, and I respect his.

Although I'm not a professional career woman bringing in money, I am a professional at mothering, and the rewards I reap from being able to surround my family in love and the comforts of a good home life far outweigh anything else, and my husband feels the same.

That being said, I still consider myself a feminist. I stay home out of choice, and for me, being a mother is one of the most womanly things there is and I am damn proud to be one.

 

and entering data into spreadsheets for a vulgar, womanizing, gambling addict is no treat either.

 

Honey, you have no idea what it's like. No idea at all. When you have children of your own, and you stay home to care for them, then you can talk.

 

/me agrees with hippychickmommy, both posts

 

Thank you Iron Goth.