Can a bisexual man be monogamous to his female parter?

yeah, as a bisexual I'm emtionally closer to women but love the sex-play with guys. I'm very happy to be female monogamous with my wife, I don't feel the need for another woman, I love her (as it sounds OP that he loves you too) but love the non-emotional fun with guys.

I don't have Cherea's luck to go thru' guys like a hot knife thru butter

Simon :sunny:

 

Vanilla is right here... I would've dumped you just for going through my emails.

 

I think you should take it slow and explore both of your fantasies together. Introduce some toys. Maybe he likes anal and would love to have you perform it on him. I know that I have certain fantasies, but that does not mean I will physically act on them.

 

he couldn't be monogamous if he ever met me. It's that simple.

 

First, if you (OP) feel insecure about your partner's sexuality, having a threesome won't fix the problem. Your boyfriend isn't bi-curious if he has cheated on you, he is just restricted in the exploration of his own sexuality at the moment. Can a man who is bisexual be monagomous? Definitely. Is he likely to be? No, at least not without it bothering him at some point. Let me add on a couple more things: Could a bisexual male be content with using porn as his outlet? Sure. Are you likely to be okay with him getting off to gay/bisexual porn? Based on this thread, no.

From this thread it seems as though the problems between you and your boyfriend run a lot deeper than which way he swings. I see a lack of trust and insecurity, to start. You do not have to be 'okay' with his sexual preferences, and it is okay if you aren't. He doesn't have to be 'okay' with the restrictions placed on his sexuality by your relationship, and that is okay too. You need to understand that men sometimes turn him on, and he needs to understand that you don't seem very open to him exploring that side of himself if he is with you. If not, perhaps it is time for both of you to think about finding more suitable partners.

Unless the two of you are willing to come to a mutual compromise, you are just prolonging a relationship that is extremely likely to end. If you see yourself getting upset every time you find out (through any source) that he has been seeking ways to satisfy his 'bi-curious' urges (be it porn or cheating) why are you still trying to fix the relationship? If he is going to cheat on you (or lie to you) to satisfy his desire, why is he begging you for another chance? Be honest with each other, and yourselves, even if it hurts. (I am not saying 'end things' as that is up to the two of you.) Sometimes the truth hurts, but in the long run it is better than living a lie to please someone else.

 

Good post

Simon :sunny:

 

Between dating and marriage, I was with my ex for over 19 years. I am bisexual and proud to say that I never cheated on her. Did I fantasize about having sex with other people? You bet your ass I did. I had daily fantasies of having sex with other women and men, but I couldn't betray my wife and act on them. Most of my fantasies actually included her. We were a straight woman and a secrectly bi gay, but that's far from what I really wanted. I always wanted us to be a swinging bisexual couple that was madly in love with each other. She would never even consider a situation like that and she would not have accepted my bisexuality if I had ever come out to her. Did I marry the wrong woman or what?
To answer the original question, yes, bisexual men can be monogamous.

 

Yes, I believe a bi man can be faithful. I'm bi but I have no intention of cheating on my wife. All I want is to be able to accept my desires and who I am and maybe do a little online flirting.

I do understand how women have trouble believing that though. My own wife has said she would never have married me if she had known I was bi. I think much of it comes from the woman's insecurity because she perceives she can't provide something the man needs.

From my point of view though I'm just happy to have her and my fantasies of men. At the end of the day I still find women attractive and I still love sex with her. Just because I fancy women doesn't mean I've cheated on her with other women, I haven't. I feel the same can apply with men.

 

Once this was posted, there wasn't even a need for further conversation. Sexual orientation has exactly dick to do with one's ability or willingness to be monogamous.

 

.... he can't be monogamous 'cause he is a man.. not 'cause he is bi.....................

 

Ouch starrybee, that hurts.....

 

........ A joke if ya gonna battle sexism .. I guess that means ya can't be mean to men either...

 

I feel that the point you were making is true, but just wanted to give you shit for it. :juggle:

An individual is or isn't monogamous regardless of sexual orientation. Its a decision that has to be made from within.

 

Speaking from my own limited experience!

I hope he can, I hope it is not a question of if he is Bi or straight, rather than of his commitment.

Can he play with guys whilst being in a relationship with a female? That is up to the the couple as a collective.

The point is I believe is he is just as capable as the hetero male and his individual sexuality has little to do with it.

I can only look at it from my point of view. I enjoy both male and female equally (well as close too as I can pick). Having said that I love my girl friend dearly and she knows what I am (very Bi without a doubt). I feel a very large commitment to her and I will not jeopardise our relationship for the sake of some fun. Is this really different to a committed hetero guy?

 

..... oh, ya playing with me driftwood74 ha ha! And I was worried you was offended ......

 

From personal experience, yes. I'm a married bi male who is remaining faithful. It helps that my wife knows about my sexuality, ofc. For me a loving relationship comes first.

 

My thoughts exactly.

 

well i may be noted as the nosy girl as well but i did stumble on some texts between my bf and his two close friends."hurry up and get over here"
"we're gonna fuck hard"from one of them. there have been plenty more but i did bring this to his attention and it was played off as that's how they joke advice? the same friend who texted that also told him to give a girl an under shirt massage and he listened to him and disregarded my feelings bc he thought it wasn't a big deal

 

Can a bisexual man be monogamous to his female parter?

Great ? ...have always wondered the same. *reading replies after sniffing butt*

 

Yes, he can! I am a newly open bisexual, married male. I have been faithful to my wife for 20 years. Knew I was BI when I was 13, had a bi experience with my best friend in high school. We were I guess what you called boyfriends? Even after I got married I still think about what I might be missing out on, if I had came out then would things be different now? I don't know, would I cheat on my wife with another guy, no. She and I are still working through this together. Yes she is peeved, replied when I told her, I knew you was different, I love to give oral, then said are you !@#^)(* me. YES YES, YES he can be monogamous, most Bisexuals are and will always be monogamous with the mate they are with. Have a heart to heart with him, let him explain why, to you?