Let myself go

But you like trying to communicate via international text messages that often get delayed by days, if they even get delivered at all? Sounds like you need to find a man in your own country.

 

Of course I don't! No one does like that, but when you like someone its hard to let it go, especially when they leave you confused or s...like delay happens, you don't know what to think. I can't help it unfortunately, its all really strange. I hope I will let it go soon because long distance doesn't make any sense.

 

Good Luck Violet!

 

For a "romance" to fizzle and for contact to continue is ok. But it's not really a game, it's positive personal interaction. The thing is....if he starts to give "signs" of restarting something, keep it forefront in your mind that he doesn't do it in a way that is suitable and pleasant for you. So take it with a grain of salt. If the friendship develops into something valuable, then yay. If it fades, then ok.

 

This is nicely said! TY

 

We will see, you are right too. I am not taking it seriously or thinking yaaaay, he likes me or something. I am not naive.

I just don't undrstand why this guy will not let me go. I basiclly told him goodbye and wanted him to be honest with me and that he should of been honest long time before not to string me along. I told him also that he is my friend and that friendship is not about being a boy to just go away without notice, but that I can understand it and that sometimes its not easy to be honest and direct with people. Not by those exact words, but...I wanted closure and to say goodbye, thats who I am.

He replied to me immediatelly that he likes me with all bunch of :love: smileys and he says he is sorry, but that his boss died and that he needed to take care of things, that he travels 2 times a week. And when he gets over these rough times in his life, that he will be able to talk to me more and have me in his life.

I don't know what does this mean at all. I was shocked and confused. I don't know what to think. Was he just being nice and feeling guilt, but blew me off between the lines or he likes me as he says, smiley faces confuse sometimes! Or was he lying. Wierd.

I mean I felt sad when I read it. I didn't know if he was joking or what. I was numb for 2 weeks and didn't answer. Then I told him that he doesn't need to apologize to me or make exuses. I even told him that I have :love: on him, but that I wanted to say goodbye with my letter I sent before. (stupid me) I wanted to get it off my chest. No worries, I wrote dignifed and normal things, short and brief, a bit cold, but who cares.

Time will show, I will move on eventually, but its hard to forget a guy that makes you feel special when you are together and threats you with respect, those are rare, but when you are apart he is a total douche bag. Complicated. I still believe in a fact that when a guy says he is busy, he is not that into you, but then again my story is not like the others since he doesn't live near me. If he was here and acting like this he'd got strikeout long time before.

 

You need to read a book and its called "He's just not that into you". Get it at the library, its a quick read and you will see this guy in each chapter. Like yourself more than you like this guy and move on.

 

I bought it for to my friend for her bday long time ago. He is just not that into you doesn't work. Because I think rules are different when you don't date someone and when that person doesn't live on your continent!
If he lived in my city and if he acted the way he is, I'd tell him to go away 2 weeks after I met him!

But never mind I just want to find out if he likes me and he isn't lying to me, or he is a psychopat. I guess I will know my answer by time passing by!

 

If you refuse to use modern day messengers like Skype, etc. Then email is instant without delay. No excuse.

Regardless, you cannot have a relationship with someone who lives in a different world than you. It doesn't work. Take it from someone with experience. The best you can do is have an international fuck buddy whenever you visit the country.

 

Ok, he told me he likes me way more then I know! He wants to see me soon. I am shocked.

 

You are right about that. It's hard to work those things out, I think 1 in a 10.000 manages to work it out. I am taking it slow for now. I got my answer with what I wanted to know. I will see