Is this an orgasm? It's nothing great like I've heard people mention.?

Discussion in 'The Orgasmic Experience' started by Farmgirlgreen, Mar 16, 2013.

  1. pipgirl

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    How do you do it???? :bigcry:
     
  2. Farmgirlgreen

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    All I've felt before my current boyfriend was the feeling a tingle around my vaginal opening. It felt like how butterflies in your stomach feels but the feeling was around the whole.

    Weird I know but make sense?lol

    I just thought orgasms didn't feel like anything strong.
     
  3. calgirl

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    It takes about 5-10 minutes of gspot stimulation. The guy has to search around for yours, and then curl his fingers on the vaginal wall somewhere around the 10:00 and 2:00 position upward toward your stomach, and then press against it. I ask him to pump his fingers/hand, and if you start to tense up, concentrate on relaxing. You'll feel it build.
     
  4. calgirl

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    The climax is strong. The butterflies means you are very very close. Relax your pelvis....and you'll get the big spasm.
     
  5. Farmgirlgreen

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    I'm incredibly attracted to him. Everything about him. The way he makes me so comfortable with myself. And always wants to pleasure me. He gets off on it.

    He's the first who's really made me feel so good with oral sex. He lets me simply take as much time as i need to get comfortable. I find with oral sex now Im getting incredibly wet and I get so tense and shuttery (if that makes sense) from in between my legs to my whole body. It feels so good but I push away. It's like I don't know what's about to happen.

    Often times I'll go on top of him or he'll raise my legs straight up while I'm on my back and actually take the time to almost search for sweet spots with his penis lol. It's amazing.

    With the penetration I'm feeling the same type of tension between my legs but I find a wave of pleasure going through my body. Starts out in my genitals and almost paralyzes my body for a few seconds. I just dig my nails into something.

    I remember when we first started having sex I was thinking in my head "he feels better then an orgasm"

    I'm starting to think after speaking to all of you that I haven't experienced any kind of orgasm before this man have I? lol
     
  6. pipgirl

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    He can find it, I can feel it, and I have the 'I need to pee' feeling, but it doesn't go away :)).
    Were you always able to do it, or did you 'learn'? Does it get easier?
     
  7. Farmgirlgreen

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    With the butterfiles down there it wasn't strong at all though. We did keep going and it simply went away. This was with my past boyfriends and very early on with my current boyfriend.

    Now I'm starting to get WAY stronger sensations that almost scare me lol
     
  8. calgirl

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    Is it penetration or fingers? I wouldn't get it with cock, I don't think. It does feel like pee! So if you relax your pelvis the sensation gets stronger. As you feel closer to climax, the finger action actually draws it out.

    Nope I'm a recent squirter. First time was about last fall, but with the current guy, it's nearly every time. He loves it....and so do I.
     
  9. calgirl

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    Keep up the same action of what brings that feeling on, and ask him to intensify it. Like faster, or deeper, or harder, or slightly change your position so he hits you just right. Don't stop.
     
  10. Farmgirlgreen

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    Well now with my current boyfriend I don't get a butterfly in my genitals feeling. I get this heat and tension that seems to want to just release. It's very strong. I just get scared.

    In the past the tingle I felt was just small. Very small and a few seconds long. Me and my partner didn't change anything. It just went away and I figured that was all there is to it considering I usually didn't even get that feeling.

    So to elaborate from what I've read. The slight tingle in my past wasn't really anything was it? No chance it was an orgasm?

    It seems whats happening now is me getting closer then I've been.

    I'm just trying to learn from more experienced women.
     
  11. pipgirl

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    With fingers, I don't feel the same sensation with penetration either.
    Ok, usually after a while of the peeing sensation I can't take it anymore, and I make him stop, but I'll try to get through it. Who knows, maybe I'll be able to squirt someday too :D.
     
  12. calgirl

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    right.....it has subtle differences, so let it happen, and then as you become more familiar, you'll get more confident that it's not pee.
     
  13. pipgirl

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    No, it wasn't an orgasm, Calgirl explained the whole process really well .
    You can do it Farmgirlgreen! You said porn got you aroused, what was the feeling then? Try watching again, and when you get aroused, just observe the feelings. And start playing with your clit. Experiment. And if it still doesn't work, toys really really help!! :D
     
  14. Farmgirlgreen

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    Ya I'm getting how wrong I was now. I was more elaborating on just how Minor the past tingle was. Butterflies in the stomach feeling was really weak it was just so rare that I felt it that I assumed it was an orgasm. I had no other feelings to go on.

    She seemed to think I was right on the brink of it happening. Being right on the brink should be more then just a warm little tingle should it not? I'm legit asking lol. You all seem to really know your bodies and feelings.

    I just figured even though it was such a small feeling it had to be one because of it's rarity of occurence
     
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    I think she said the tingling was 5-10 min away from happening, so not right on the brink, but if you continue you'll get there. And when you do, you will definitely know. It's awesome
     
  16. Farmgirlgreen

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    Ya you may be right. She said I was So close I just read to far into it I guess.

    You two seem very intuned with yourselves. I admire you. Thanks for sharing your knowledge
     
  17. pipgirl

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    For me it just came naturally. I remember being 13 and trying to remember when I first started masturbating (and couldn't even remember). I also remember before that, being a kid and wondering what the hell was I doing (I didn't even know the word), I didn't even know it was something sexual.
     
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    Also I think me and her got mixed up on the tingling lol. She thought I was getting butterflies on my stomach but I was just using that as an analogy of the type of tingling I was feeling right at my vaginal opening. I may be the confused one though lol

    I thought that she was thinking I literally had butterflies in my stomach and that's why I was 5-10 minutes away because I was aroused without even starting sexual activity.

    I thought she was implying I was right about to climax when I felt a slight tingle in my genitals.
     
  19. calgirl

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    So.....here's how I have the similar sensations of tingling, body heat, vagina tightening ("butterflies"), clit hardness, then climax. Those might be little mini orgasms leading up to climax. They all are part of the arousal stages. They might come, then fade, or come then build. The important thing is to continue !!! Enjoy all the great feelings. Keep it going and they will intensify. Then the spasms gets really strong, and you'll go into a full orgasm. Hope that makes sense.
     
  20. Mr.Writer

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    When it happens, you won't be here asking "was this it?" you'll be here saying "IT HAPPENED, I CANT BELIEVE I HAVENT EXPERIENCED THIS IN ALL MY LIFE, MY GOD EVERYONE IT HAPPENED".

    so until you feel with that kind of certainty, keep trying :)
     

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