Is this an orgasm? It's nothing great like I've heard people mention.?

Yea it is not as intense as if I go for an hour or so, but I still intense enough to be an orgasm.

Along with the sensation around your genitals, there is also a feeling through your whole body. A bunch of endorphins are released. It feels like you threw out a bunch of junk and it kind of resets and recenters you. Once you know the feeling it is much easier to obtain.

One thing is right before you orgasm you can feel it all built up like your about to explode, and at the point you want to keep going, push through the explosion. If you try to slow down or get distracted and change thoughts at the point, you might kind of miss your orgasm. You still have it, but you won't absorb it as efficiently.

 

I'm sure it is, but I wouldn't know, I've never had a G spot orgasm

 

Most porn is made to get guys off , not all of porn is close to real life . Its more postions that make good camera angels . desert rat

 

Oh well, luckily it gets us off too
But yeah, I agree, not necessarily close to real life

 

If this is out side your belief system thats ok , but you can focus energy at your sex chakra http://www.aznewage.com/chakras.htm you can make an orgasm more intense . This is one of many methods of circulating energy through your chakras , a post made by me on a now closed forum . http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/psychic-paranormal/68328-circulation-white-light.html If interested you can check our tantra yoga . desert rat

 

One g.f. realy liked porn cum shots , maby its a girl thing or some thing . desert rat

 

Oh yeaaaaah, those are hot as hell, I used to watch compilations all the time.

 

I have heard that cum is hard to get out of hair . I find cumming on a ladies face discusting , but if that gets her off or others off watching ,then I say go for it . To Farm girl green , you might jerk off your b.f. /hub. first then get on top , that way you can go for a long time . Press down on your clit and just rub . Its getting me off just thing about it . desert rat

 

Well there's your problem right there in terms of sex, the guys you've been with have simply not been good. 2-5 minutes is considered quick for foreplay alone, much less the main show. Just for a reference my gf and I typically have oral sex for 10-20 minutes, before having vaginal sex for 30-90 minutes. This allows her to orgasm 1-3 times. Sometimes even THIS is not enough to make her orgasm, due to stress or drugs, so this should give you an idea of what kind of performance or exertion you are looking at reaching in order to achieve those insane body orgasm you've read about.

The other side of the coin here is that you are 32 years old and have only masturbated once in your life, and you didn't like it. This is very surprising . . . this definitely points to the mental side of what's going on here, on your end. If you could elaborate, do you come from a culture you consider sexually repressive? It is simply very unusual for someone your age to have not even achieved an orgasm solo, even more unusual, to have not tried very hard. This makes me think there is some sort of depressive issue at foot here, specifically anhedonia, a lack of pleasure from normally pleasureful activities. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pleasure_Dissociative_Orgasmic_Disorder). Believe it or not, there are people out there who are medically diagnosed as being unable to feel pleasure from an orgasm, arousal, sex, etc. This might be what you are experiencing, although it could really just be that you've never done enough work "down there" to feel an orgasm, to even know whether or not you like it.

The tingle you feel is just the first 1% of arousal. That tingle builds and builds and builds to insane heights, and when you are relaxed, aroused, and skilled enough, can extend throughout your whole body, and come crashing upon you like powerful waves of sensation, that literally cause your mind to blank, you muscles to tense and shake, and put you in a kind of momentary seizure of pleasure. That's an orgasm. A good one

Pleasure will feel different depending on where it's coming from. Most women find it easier to orgasm from clitoral stimulation, but for some vaginal is better.

You should honestly watch some porn and see some techniques for self pleasure. you can go on pornhub.com and just search for "solo" videos or something and get an idea of what can happen. Some women are even able to ejaculate fluid when they orgasm.

PLEASE write back and update this thread

 

I have compleetely forgot about the p.c. mussel . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pubococcygeus_muscle http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_muscle_control_when_having_sex http://www.rahoorkhuit.net/library/yoga/tantra/female_pc_muscle.html desert rat

 

There's no mistaking an orgasm. If you have to question it then no it wasn't.

 

Some one that I for got was Dr Ruth ,, her fav. word ? Orgasm ! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Westheimer
Dr Ruth would not settle for a little tingle . desert rat

 

Not so much as a culture that forbids it or anything. I was just never surrounded by it. Had boyfriends but never had any who asked what I liked or did anything out of the ordinary I guess. My girlfriends never talked in detail about it. Just that they liked sex.

Sex was always just sex to me. Not bad but nothing overly good as well.

 

The tingle I felt just kind of appeared and just went away. We didn't stop or anything it just kind of dissapeared.

Not an orgasm I'm guessing lol

 

Ya but originally I didn't know any different. So I was pretty sure. Didn't give it much thought I guess. It wasn't until I discovered some info on it that I developed some doubts.

How's someone gonna know what they've never had right?

When I heard people talking about what they felt is when I started wondering.

 

If you still dont have an orgasm after longer sex , or using some toys ect., you might check with a doctor . You could have a medical problem . desert rat

 

Sex is largely a psychological journey. If one is distracted one can not enjoy it. Enjoying it is the key. My suggestion is to keep touching yourself and just focus on how nice it feels to be touching your clit. Just play with it with the aim of making it feel nice. Once you're really enjoying it you'll eventually get to a stage when you may feel like you're going to pee or something. Don't stop and many, many nice things will happen! I remember my first orgasm. It was not self induced but courtesy of some nice girl named Anita who i never saw again. Mmm geez she was good Anyhoo .......

 

Also I'm realizing now the tingle went nothing much really. The thing is with my new BF I get much stronger physical feelings during sex and foreplay.

I've only tingled with him once very early on. Now I get much stronger physical feelings.

Am I supposed to be feeling that tingle everytime? I've only felt it about 5 times before in my life. I figured it may have been an orgasm because it was a rare ocurrence. I wasn't distracted or anything during sex before. Just wasn't all that interested in doing it. Low sex drive I guess.

Now I get like a rush or a wave of a feeling going through me. The tingle is non existant. It's with a new BF so we're learning much about eachother. He's a big advocate of performing oral sex on me. He says it's a big part of a woman's orgasm.

Before it was like "butterflies in your stomach" feeling but in my genitals. I'm learning from all of you guys and gals that wasn't much of anything. Again is happened seldomly so I figured it was something significant happening.

Now I'm starting to get this wave going through me during sex. And a more of a shiver at times as well.

Is it normal that the tingle is gone and the physical feeling are much more intense now.? Or am I supposed to be feeling that tingle? LOL the tingle was a minor feeling but rare. I now wonder what it was lol. I'm a bigger fan of the waves and shivers. Very tense but in a good way.

The masterbating thing I'll have to get more comfortable with.

 

The butterflies in your stomach are the horny feeling you get when first getting aroused. Then you'll get a tightness in your vagina....and begin to get moist. The tingling and the wave of heat comes 5-10 minutes before the full climax. It is delicious to have an orgasm!!! When I do my own it's clit orgasms. I hope you get used to masturbation soon, because you will enjoy it. One thing I did was do them in the tub especially when reading a sex scene.

When I'm with a partner it's vagina orgasms. I'm also a squirter. Turns out, I squirt regularly now.

I think they are very different. Not too long ago I had a vaginal orgasm, squirted, and my partner kept going and then I had a clit orgasm. It was great.

 

This 'wave going through you' extends to your genitals at all?
I'm not really sure what you are describing.. Does it make you want him physically?