Is this an orgasm? It's nothing great like I've heard people mention.?

Hi there. I'm a 32 year old woman and just had a question to the more sexually educated women on here.

I think I may have been mistaken about what an orgasm feels like and wondering if someone could clarify to me if I've had one.

I've never had much of a sex drive at all and really felt little during intercourse with any partner I've had. I've only masterbated once many years ago but didn't like it. I'm not a fan of oral sex either.

I always just figured people who talked about orgasms just blew it out of proportion.

Okay...

...I never felt much during sex but once in a blue moon I'd just feel a slight warm tingle around my vaginal opening. Once in doggy style and about 5 times from being on top. I've never had long sex sessions. about 2-5 minutes I'd say the average.

I've heard people mention tingling before but it was usually strong and accompanied by other things such as throbbing, muscle tension or pulses as well as some kind of a full body feeling or at least it going past the vaginal opening.

I've never felt these other things or anything "Great" or "Really good". It felt okay...maybe good at best.

Is a slight warm tingling around my vaginal opening not an orgasm? I there really more to it or do women blow it out of proportion?

I now think I've never had one.

 

The tingling is part of the arousal curve. I get it in my limbs though. The full climax is contractions, and tightness, and pulsing, that can last 5-20 seconds. Some are deep within the vagina, and some or more surface around the clit. Keep at it with masturbation, so you can learn more about your body.

 

Haha damn your missing out on big part of life. It is one of the few experiences where we transcend the mind and feel pure ecstasy.

That slight tingling is only the beginning of pleasure. You can't have any great orgasm in 2-5 minutes. You can have a okay one if you know what your doing, but sense you have no idea it seems you need a longer time to build it up.

It such a natural thing, I wonder how some women find it so hard. I remember my first orgasm as young as 7 or 8. It just happened from exploring myself.

Think of when your boiling water, you have to heat it up and heat it up, get the temperature rising, get it moving boiling and bubbling, then only after you get it to a certain point does it release itself into the air as steam.

In sort of the same way the orgasm works. You have to get everything moving, all the juices flowing, get everything rising, your excitement, your emotions, your pleasure, your energy, you got to get it all rising... Then when you reach that certain point, it all releases itself, there is like an explosion of energy, and everything gets released.

It feels like giant wave of ecstatic pleasure is radiating from your sexual organs throughout your whole body. It is totally submergence in pleasure... It is not just a slight tingle, it not being over emphasized, you are just missing it completely. The orgasm is an overwhelming sensation!

Now the longer you go, the more desire, the more emotion, the more love, the more tension you build up, the better the release and the better orgasm you will have. It can be anywhere from few second shiver that goes up through your body, or a 10 minute convulsion of pure bliss and ecstasy! It depends on the circumstances.

Like if I feel like it I can flood my brain with sexual thoughts, wack off for 5 minutes, and get a nice 5 second tingle of pure pleasure. But if I have sex with a girl I really like, and I we have passionate sex for 45 minutes or more, when I orgasm Im gonna be surged with ecstasy and probably fall over and stay in the good feeling for quite some time.

Maybe look up Tantric sex techniques for going longer. Or possibly masturbate, feel out your pleasure spots, get in touch with that sexual side. That or just be celibate, and be celebrated by the monks.

Hope this helped! Never be scared to love yourself!

 

I think its going to take most women more than 5 min to reach orgasim. I had one g.f. say she saw Jesus , or God . I am not exactly sure what she felt , but it was more that a little tingling . Play with your clit. buy a vibe , to see what an orgasim feels like . desert rat

 

So no I haven't ever experienced an orgasm have I? lol

Thankyou all for the info. I've only masterbated once many years ago. Didn't see the big deal. I'm guessing I did it wrong.

 

So the slight warm tingling I felt is just a feeling of sex and not an actual orgasm?

 

So you masterbating for 5 minutes and getting a tingle is still somewhat intense? An orgasm? Not just slight?

 

I am not you , but I think its like looking at a good meal and getting hungry , but not realy eating it . You need to keep going until you reach orgasm . I hope this wiki link helps . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clit http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm Some women take a long , long time to reach that state . desert rat

 

Mine was just around the hole. Felt it slightly and then it just dissapeared. Didn't feel any type of build up I've heard about, just kind of came and went quickly and nothing major happened at all. Never felt and muscle contractions. My breathing never sped up. Nothing like that.

Guess I've never orgasmed before. Looks like I have a lot to learn.

 

That's actually a great analogy. The weird thing is me and my partner did keep going for a short time. The tingle came quickly or not at all. Slight tingle that just came and then simply dissapeared. Even if the sex continued. Never felt any kind of build up or anything.

An orgasm, whether through penetration, masterbation or oral sex I'm guessing now is so much more then that.

 

It seems like you don't get horny at all.

I'm just going to put this out there: Sex Enhancing Drugs.

 

That was just arousal. You need to learn to masturbate, orgasms are amazing.
If you can't do it normally, try a bullet. It takes me a while to have an orgasm by hand, but i can have explosive ones in one minute with toys .

 

Also to get horny you can try watching porn.

 

The 5 second tingle of pleasure isn't what happens when you orgasm from masterbation? You meaning that's just the start of what you're feeling after a few minutes of stimulating yourself?

Also an orgasm achieved even in the short 2-5 minutes if someone knows what they're doing will still be more then just a tingling?

 

I was actually watching porn a little while ago and that got me hornier then any real life experience did. That normal?

 

I've heard that said before that a tingle is just arousal but the weird thing is even as it was happening I didn't find it improved anything really. Just figured it was an orgasm because it was something different then usual.

 

So there's no such thing as a tiny orgasm that's just a tingle?

Damn! I got some learning to do

 

Well I don't really know your sex experiences, if you've never really had good ones, then yes. Porn can get you really really aroused.

Some orgasms are not as powerful as others, but the feeling is still so different from just tingling that you would know. I think that if you are unsure about having an orgasm, you probably haven't.

So especially since you said that porn got you aroused, try watching some more and experimenting with some toys. Those also make things easier.
Good luck!

 

Thanks for taking the time to share some information with me. All of you.

It's funny. For so long I thought that tingle was all there was to it. I was sure that was an orgasm and there was simply nothing major about it.

Then I hear about all these other things that happen and realize I haven't experienced any of it.

As for my sex experience some guys felt a little better then others I guess but it was all pretty much the same. The more I cared for them the better it felt I guess. They all did the same things. Guess that's why I never became an easily aroused woman.

 

The feeling is different from a tingle whether my orgasm comes from penetration or clitoral stimulation?