I wanna fuck my friend

I go after women for my husband. He's introvert and it is easier for him if I do the hunting.

Sometimes he hunts alone.

 

Fair enough. If that is the case, you should stop blaming him for what you're feeling now. After all, you are where you are entirely of your own volition.

 

I still revindicate my right to feel bad sometimes and to vent, Sig. It really isn't a matter of blaming either part. It is about genuine feelings and people struggling to cope with some issues.

I think you've perhaps missed the part where I "excuse" him myself: I said he just can't change those things that offend. I've also written that he isn't a bad person. After all, I did marry him.

 

You're deluding yourself. It isn't that he can't. It is that he won't. Everyone can change if the desire is there.

 

You did put a smile on the lips of an otherwise sad woman.

About being exclusive in sex: I don't need other men. I only need one. I need the one man who'll care about giving me an orgasm. But if my man doesn't feel the need to pleasure me, doesn't find my pleasure interesting enough to pursue it, then I need other men to make me feel like a woman.

 

If I thought you could be right, I'd leave this minute. I trust with all my heart that he just can't help it. I really think he can't. I think he tries and forgets. If I thought of the possibility he's doing it on purpose, I'd really go.

 

Understood. I really hope you two figure out how to keep going where both of you are getting everything you need.

 

I just need the sex. My self-esteem is pretty high. What I lack isn't compliments, but physical contact. I need sex, that's all, but good sex, not only the kind of sex I get at home.

He's ok with me having sex with strangers, but the problem is that I can't really relax and enjoy sex with strangers, because I'm afraid of STDs. Another thing is that a great part of sex for me is giving oral to a man. This is the thing that really arouses me. With strangers, the fun isn't there, because I'd give oral with a condom. I hate this.

If I could fuck people I trust, I could be my wild self in bed, instead of holding up for fear of STDs. I'd fuck my friend without condom. I can't have children and neither of us has STDs. So, no condom would be necessary.

 

He's failing at being a husband.

A possible temporary band-aid solution is that perhaps you'll have to make guy friends that he doesn't know about. That way you know them but they're strangers to him.

 

That's a good idea, but it'd involve lying to my husband. And that, I can't do. I'll think of ways of using it without lying. Thank you very much. This is really a good idea. Perhaps he won't have problems with new friends.

 

Please remember some action can make a person temporarly happy, but be careful it can also make someone permanantly unhappy.

 

are you kidding me?

you are conflicted about wanting to fuck someone because your husband says no when both of you are already fucking other people?

you are trying to respect something that is beneath any respect. Marriage = Monogamy. You have already made a mockery of that. Fuck your friend. Let him fuck you in the ass and then lick his shitty stick then invite a bunch of random dudes over for a Bukkake party and let them spooge all over you. When you're done take a shower and go file for divorce because what you have is not a marriage.

 

lol!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Sounds like he has a nice little "sad " routine when you express your feelings to him when he doesn't follow thru on his promises to consider them. You're afraid to leave because he doesn't have anyone at all to bond with? He has you hooked and is using you in his own way, I think. Dead is a long-long time-so while you're alive,please find some true happiness for yourself. I don't think you were born to suffer someone elses shortcomings. And if you do leave --you will then know that with which you will NOT put up.

 

Yeah well be careful because my advice there, was a double-edged sword.
Tell me, does he have other girls on the side besides you?

Part of me wonders if both of you just didn't go with the "open relationship" label to sound hip, cool, and non-jealous to each other during your dating phase of your relationship, and then you sealed it off with marriage without clearing up that issue.

 

Actually that is unconfirmed, I think it's possible they have a "open relationship" in name only situation.

The real problem is that the husband is selfish, and implies he doesn't really love her, and she feels it.

 

you're probably right. my observation is that most men are incredibly selfish,

 

Quick question fx. Comparing this person's situation to Jacob's in the other thread we had a huge conversation-debate in, which situation is the lesser of two evils in your view? Is say Jacobs was because both individuals were at least happy.

 

I can't believe I read through 5 pages of this crap . I just want to dispel some of the myths and lies being peppered around by the OP.

^^^ This is completely untrue. The risks of contracting an STD are the same for a stranger as it is with a friend. The only way you know if someone is clean is if they've been tested recently and you've seen the test results. And the chances of catching something from oral sex is practically non-existent. So no need for a condom during a bj.

 

I disagree with your last 2 sentences. But that's all, can you provide proof to back up that claim?