The real 100+ sex partners thread

Exactly.

Unfortunately medically speaking I predict a surge in drug resistant bacteria both the normal sickness kind and the STD and STI kind.

So that might spark a small resurgence in monogamous relationship trends, but long term people tend to drift to liberal social sexual behavior I think.

 

I would say that still falls under the realm of "the norm." That reality is far removed from the reality of people of these people who have had sex 100+ people.

 

Exactly. The only real reason to forsake any and all space that is entirely your own, is to control your partner's sex life.

Thank you.

Northern Europe is miles ahead of the rest of the world when it comes to gender. And even the post-WWII generation of Japanese.

It's not surprising that marriage, as a pre-industrial practice, wouldn't hold much water in precisely the most industrialized societies. Likewise with Christianity, which is what got us into this Cinderella mess in the first place.

I've heard 'taking the initiative' and being straightforward about sex, something that will remain like witchcraft to the overwhelming majority of American women until their dying day, is fairly common in Sweden, Germany, Estonia, etc. Places like Berlin and Zurich are 80% single. And I've also heard that in Sweden, couples who opt to have separate living spaces are far from uncommon. Same with 'going dutch', I don't think the expression is mere chance.

Sounds too good to be true, but to me it would be reason in itself to consider living in those societies.

 

Unfortunately, a lot of those young people will be forced by their parents to live a more conservative lifestyle, many years into adulthood. Freedom costs money.

No kids. When we decided to get legally hitched, we agreed that it wasn't going to change anything about our relationship or daily life. We liked everything exactly like it was.

Even though the whole thing was really all about paperwork and nothing else, we decided to have some fun with it and go down to New Orleans for a voodoo wedding! That was a blast! The priest read vows that we wrote, which said nothing about monogamy or traditional religion or morals. It was all about love and respect. A street band played jazz, and I flashed the crowd at the end. Even on a weekday afternoon, you can get by with that shit in the French Quarter. The whole event cost us about $300.

 

The 'norm', as I recall the last American to make nation wide headlines proclaiming "I am normal!" was Tricky Dick Nixon.

As to the main question of this thread the last time I counted (1985+/-) I was well over 100 lovers most of whom I'm still in touch with. I'm sure this most likely applies to many if not most of those of us who came of age in the hip communal culture of the '60s

 

Yeah I have no way of knowing the trend of how many people are actively going to be attaining 100+ sex partners.

Most of the promiscuous people I know in RL have had messed up home lives and if I do know any promiscuous secure people, they keep it so well hidden that I wouldn't know unless I asked them or was their partner.

Most of my partners have been pretty vanilla.

(Note: to Karen, I just wanted to say the true interpretation of the Christian faith does not preach monogamy only UNLESS its put into the marriage vows by choice then its a binding life contract before God)

 

ehhh, I think it is dangerous to make predictions like that.

Then why, may I ask, did you get married?

 

I'd be willing to bet it will become less common than it used to be, for a variety of reasons.

Dangerous? I'm just being honest and realistic. You live in somebody else's house, they have a right to make the rules. And they can pressure you every day to conform.

The state GOP has been hard at work changing all kinds of laws and rules and regulations, especially banking and real estate regulations, to make it much harder for unmarried couples to live together and fully combine their lives. A lot of it was aimed at making homosexual couples miserable, but it affected straights too. We finally decided we were fighting a losing battle that wasn't worth fighting anymore. Signing a marriage license wasn't the end of the world anyway, since nobody was forcing us to change our lifestyle at all.

 

Dangerous probably wasn't the right word. Bold, perhaps, and borderline foolish. This is a big, diverse country. Who is to say rules like that will be made across the board?

Ahh, ok. I suspected it had something to do with that.

 

There are only three possible scenarios, when two generations are forced together:

1. You are more conservative than your parents. No problem.
2. Your values match those of your parents. No problem.
3. You are more liberal (morally) than your parents. Problem.

Some of the parents in the third scenario will decide not to interfere. Some will. Nobody knows what the percentage will be, but it can't be 0% or 100%. Can we agree on that much?

I can absolutely guarantee you that I did things as a young adult (with my own income and apartment) that my parents wouldn't have tolerated, if I had still been living with them.

 

I think the numbers can only increase. Society is continually becoming more and more sexual. And you can see that change looking back over time. Young girls today are having more sexual experiences, faster than that of generations before. We've already determined that the proclaimed "average" number of partners for women (4), is way out of touch with the young generations today.

That's not to say that there's going to be a decrease in the amount of prudish, high moral value girls out in the world. But I think the number of girls reaching the 100+ club will definitely be on the rise.

 

NEVER!!!!!!

Nah, seriously though, I can agree with that.

 

this explains almost everything.

 

They are also getting married several years later than they used to, allowing time for a lot more partners, on average.

 

Hi Karen! I don't think I'm highly competitive in this area, and I like speaking to you!

As for this thread, I qualify for the 100+ category, but a big part of that was in college with a lot of alcohol. It was a different time in my life. My husband knows EVERYTHING about my college years and thereafter. Similarly, I know his past, and we've made peace with who we are, and the rest isn't important. We enjoy a happy, healthy, and varied sex life. We also have a young daughter. These days, the choices we make about our life path are made together, taking into account each other's feelings as well as our parental responsibilities. We're hardly sugar and spice :hide:, but what's the point of keeping track of sex partners? Does 1 mean something different from 5, 50, or 500? Does one's history affect his/her right to have children or ability to be a good parent? Believe me, we sweat every decision about choices we make as parents - everything from choosing her name to whether she should go to daycare to what schools we have planned for her.

So, yes, I've had sex with a lot of guys. My husband had sex with a lot of girls. We're at a good place now. That's all that matters!

 

You are a wonderful exception! :love:

 

not around here, unless they used to get married while still in high school. damn small towns.

 

Naturally the number will increase as the population gets larger, the question is will the ratio of liberal vs conservative people about sex increase on the liberal side? (ie. the specific kind of liberal about sexual attitudes and views that is implied based on the context of what we have discussed so far).


I remain neutral on any predictions on that, simply because I hang with the 16-25 year old crowd at the moment myself currently, and there's just as much drama as ever shaping their views on what they feel they can comfortably doing as far as casual sex goes.

I've noticed that people form clicks, or smaller subsets of closed off groupies; and sometimes (to me it seems like it's very often) relationships usually form outta those these groups.

But I am not seeing the stereotype of someone who is promiscuous serially as if it were a sport to rack up a 100+ list of partners anymore.

I only know of 5 chicks who are like that, one of them being the sister of a friend of mine.

But I don't know I wasn't around in the 1970's so perhaps someone can compare how many people they knew who were very open sexually compared to how many I know or knew in modern day 2013.

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As for the younger girls who are starting their sexual awakening earlier than previous generations, I don't know of many cases where the girl was actually ready for it on her own accord, lots of times there's peer pressure involved. (I'm talking elementary and middle school age range here 10-14)

As for high school girls today VS yesterday, I don't have enough data to make a comparison, all I know is that the baby boom generation was promiscuous, but they were quiet about it. The only reason I know this as a fact is because my parents told me of the shenanigans that happened to their high school peer/friends. Sex happened it was just like taboo at the time and not talked about much (until 1960'ish specifically 1968).

Now it's a LOT less taboo to talk about, but I don't know if the rate has just increased or if people are just more public about it.

 

You don’t have to go about sex like a sport to reach 100 partners. If you just averaged 5 partners a year, in 20 yrs you’d reach 100. I’d say people are usually "extremely" sexually active between ages 20-35. That’s 15 yrs where anyone could easily be at 75. Throw in a few extras from your days at Uni and you can get to 100 on cruise control. No sport needed .

 

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