it's just shady as fuck. how would you feel if an old female friend of yours started contacting you to talk about sex, and then you found out it was actually your wife snooping on you? maybe communication couldn't get worse, but neither could trust after you do something like that.
I know that it is bad it is just out of desperation, if you have any better suggestions feel free, but please dont go on about "communication" I have tried to talk over and over again and it results in an argument.... Who thinks she is getting it elsewhere?
It doesn't matter. If she doesn't want sex with you, then she's not going to want a 3-some, 4-some, or orgy with you either. But you can't even talk to her to find out what's going on anyways. Frankly, I don't believe this story. But on the off chance that all this really is true, I would suggest counseling.
That is beyond ridiculous! "Should I pretend to be her bi-friend that she is no longer speaking to?" Seriously???? Of course not!
Invite him over if you are cool with sometime during the festivities you have two big hairy balls on your chin, and something resembling a large warm cucumber spurting in your mouth.
