me and my girlfriend have just recently split up, the thing is i love her and dont want to lose her altogether, so we have decided just to be friends, she is my best friend, we were best friends before we got together. The thing is it is really difficult, knowing that one day someone else is going to have her and they will do all the things that i want to do with her she means everything to me, the thought of someone else having her actually kills me. We can't be a couple because all we do is argue and i don't want to lose her forever, i want her in my life forever. I just dont know how to cope
This will probably sound pretty stupid, but try one of these: 1. Couples therapy! See if you can get her to go with you! 2. Take some MDMA together. Always strengthens the bond between me and my girlfriend. This is very sad indeed, and I wish you the best of luck.
So you still would like to get back with her? Then The Best thing you can do right now is date someone else. Make sure she knows about it and pretend your having a really good time. Make her jealous. Love does not flourish on just being too familiar with one another.
Sorry to hear that. It's exactly like my gf and I, all we do is argue (usually because of our ways of speaking make both thought we are rude to each and also how jealousy I am if she is being nice with guys or her ex). Well after a huge argument, we talked seriously. Like really serious, to let her know how much I care about her, how much she cares about me and how much I wish that we can talk peacefully every time we communicate. We are now quite good (less argument, hopefully).
Does she want to get back together with you? Do you think that you will have any sort of a future with her if you do? I suggest that you stop contacting each other for a while, otherwise you both will never be able to move on. It will be so painful for you to have to be around her and not be with her, and putting that love and attention into for e.g your family or friends will help you to heal. Break ups are horrible, but they give you the space to become your own person; and to strengthen the bongs that were perhaps weakened by your relationship e.g. you didnt see your family or friends as much. Dont torture yourself by following around someone who doesnt want to be with you, if she doesnt, you'll find someone else who does. Just give it time.
If you love her that much, try to mend the pieces. A lot of couples argue. If there isn't any violence, and you trust each other, then time heals many wounds.
