Is This Normal For Guys To Do?

^^^ What he said...

 

You sound like you're doing fine! Perfectly normal. Keep up the good work!

 

I had an orgasm from oral sex for the first time in my life 2 days ago. First time ever. I've received probably around 500 blowjobs in my life. I've had to finish myself off every single time except this first time recently. The orgasm was INSANE. it was full body, i shot so much.

oral feels AMAZING but it's not always the right kind of stimulation to achieve orgasm for a guy, especially one that's used to using his hands. it comes down to repetition and practice.

 

In my experience, a hand job from a woman is not as good as what I am used to.

I'm used to getting hand jobs from a man who has practiced many, many times with my penis. My normal hand job provider is intimately acquainted with my penis, knows what I prefer, knows when I am in the mood for something different and is instantly aware of the effectiveness of their touches. My normal hand job provider also shares a social security number with me.

When a woman give me a hand job, its not her fault that she isn't as personally experienced with me as my normal provider.

It took me a while to find the right mental approach to receiving a woman's hand job. Both in terms of my expecting perfect timing and pressure and in terms of how to guide her to what I want.

"Women aren't as good at giving hand" is similar in truth to "men don't give head as well as a lesbian." Both are an invitation to the receiver to not focus on the purely physical but instead to focus on the shared sexual experience, to see one's partner as a part of the sex act and not just a provider of sensation.

No, its not unusual for a man to want to take over the manual part of a BJ. Your boyfriend needs a little practice in being graceful about it. Perhaps you could talk to him. Perhaps a session where the two of you practice jacking him off together. (Four hands, one cock. The geography of the situation requires taking turns. You'd get practice in both the strokes to use and trading off the stroking.)

Then the two of you could practice fingering you. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. He is as inexperienced in masturbating you as you are in masturbating him.

 

What was the difference from the other bjs?

 

Next time tie him up

 

Honey,

I'm sure that it is a combination of the two and that's not a bad thing. Like someone said...I'm sure he'd let you practice!

First of all, what is normal? Some guys like to be in the driver's seat. I've had guys who all they want to do is face fuck me, my mouth is just another hole for them to pound. These guys just want minimum interaction from me (such as stroking and licking), they just want to grab my hair and either thrust in or slide my head on and off their penis.

Your guy on the other hand seems to want you involved. By telling you what to do, or moving your hands on and off...he's communicating to you. Guys can be very non-verbal or blunt about these things.

I suggest you study his cock and what makes him shiver when you go down on him. Also explore a little bit. Kiss and lick him all over: shaft, balls, and even his thighs. Also explore with your hands. Maybe spend a few moment actually looking at his penis, tell him a few things you like about and/or how attractive it is (even if you have to lie!)

And last of all...DON'T GIGGLE!

 

I don't know ... I find giggling can be a bit of a turn on. It relaxes the atmosphere.

 

The best advice is when you're giving your boyfriend a bj, pay attention to how his body responds to things you do. Try licking his shaft, rubbing the head on your tongue, grasping his balls lightly in your hand while you're going down on him. Everytime you try something different, see how he reacts. If he REALLY wants you to get good at it, he will be patient! It's ok for him to tell you how it feels, what he wants, etc. As long as he's not being pushy.....some guys like to see themselves cum in your mouth or on your body. It's all about communicating without ruining the mood. My man and I have spent 8 years on this one item....now he says I'm the BEST he's ever had! I thoroughly enjoy blowing him because I know what it takes for him to cum.....he has much more wild orgasms that he says feels like they're coming from his toes! That makes me high as a kite!!

 

A combination of much less life stress, extreme arousal, and a lovely lady who wouldn't quit

 

I had an ex that would do this all the time, but he was the same with his ex, because it took her forever to finish him.
But just keep it up, he will stop it soon enough, or just talk to him about it.
It sounds like your doing just fine.

 

For many men the sudden lack of talking during oral allows them to relax, and they may lose focus and their ability to orgasm. Usually the silence is a worthwhile change.

 

It is true men like different ways. It is also true when someone has mentioned your guy is communicating with you - better that than not letting you know how he likes it. When I give my husband a blow job, this is how I do it:

I firstly gently tap the head of his cock on my tongue a few times while looking at him. I then slowly kiss the head and shaft and balls working down to and licking the perenium, balls and back up the shaft firm but gently for a few minutes, taking glancing looks in between, making sure I put enough saliva on, and tap the head in my mouth at intervals.

I then go back to the head, taking it whole in my mouth, moving down slowly, caressing his cock all the way down until I have practically took it all in, and I deep throat him, swallowing, while gently caressing his balls, stroking his perrenium and/or gently fingering his ass at the same time (no finger in, just teasing the hole for spine tingles.)

When I start choking, if I need "air" I simply quickly pull out and tap the head on my tongue and go straight back to taking it whole again as fast as possible.

During the whole time I make "Mmmmmmmm" moaning sounds when apprpriate to let him know his cock is tasty to me.

He never fails to cum and absolutely loves it, doesn't take too long either most of the time. Sometimes I will put his hand on his cock for him to masturbate it while I lick his asshole and perineum - so he is getting double pleasure. I tend to do this when I don't feel up to deep throating, or if it is taking him longer to cum than normal and my mouth needs a break from taking his cock.

From what you say it sounds fine. It's just the same as you moving his head slightly if he gives you oral when he is touching the sweet spot, or you massaging your clit when he fingers you sometimes - both of you joining in for oral of each other is a good way to play imho