Clitoral Orgasm through penetration

Firstly, I apologise if this question is one of the annoying weekly perhaps daily questions you get on these boards.

I'm in a great relationship at the moment. Both my girlfriend and I have a very open, comfortable and fun sexual relationship.

A brief background - Prior to myself, my girlfriend had struggled to achieve an orgasm via manual stimulation and without success through oral. It did take a while to find out what likes but now neither are a problem for us. She can now have multiple orgasms with ease provided she isn't too drunk .

However, she still hasn't found a way to stimulate herself during penetration. She tells me that internally she does not think she can orgasm and positions we have tried, although she says she enjoys them, don't seem enough to stimulate her clitoris.

I've tried altering what I do so that I am grinding (such as the CAT position) and told her to take control when she is on top. But sadly, neither have brought her close.

My question is - Is this normal? She says somewhat jokingly its due to her tiny clit which is slightly smaller than what I've seen but if my tongue and fingers can stimulate her, how come neither my or her movements can stimulate her during penetration?

It's not necessarily a problem for her. She has never made me feel bad or under performing because she hasn't experienced it before. However, because I have been able to take her places she hasn't been through other fun things such as oral, it would be nice to explore this with her.

It's always been just a conversation. But I feel the more I ask, the more pressure it applies and I don't want to spoil something that only has good intentions.

So I would appreciate some other points of view.

PS - We do use vibrators at times during penetration but I would like to master it (if possible) so that when thats not appropriate, we can have fun without it.

Many thanks.

 

It's nothing to worry about. Some girls just can't achieve orgasm through penetration while some women can only achieve it through penetration.

 

Even through clitoral orgasms? Like I said, she has never made it seem to be a problem I just would like to give her as much pleasure as she brings me.

We both have an equally high sex drive and more often than not we have long periods of sex than "quickies" which means we have time to make sure we both go where we need to be.


I just would like to add another string to my bow lol .

Thank you for the response. But I just don't understand how my pubic bone does not have the same effect as my tongue or finger. Maybe the wetness?

 

Yeah I'd stop asking about it, it would feel like getting nagged about it after a while.

But if she starts feeling a sensation like she's gonna pee, that means you're headed in the right direction.

 

Stop seeing her orgasm as a necessary item to be achieved on a checklist.
Just start enjoying the sex and stop worrying about "have you cum yet??"

Women are fickle creatures (as you probably know.) Their orgasms are very much tied to their emotional state. Performance anxiety is probably killing her inner enthusiasm to climax.
Many if not most women need some form of clitoral twiddle to orgasm - so be it!
As I said, stop worrying and just start enjoying what you're doing: read some of the forums - there are so many poor schmucks having no sex at all!

And PS. Clitoral size has NO IMPACT whatsoever on orgasms.

 

Some tips:

One thing that may help is making sure she is fully aroused when having sex. Try going down on her first, then switching to intercourse, and back and forth. The more stimulated her clitoris is and the more blood flow there is, the more sensitive it should be, which will help when having sex.

Try different positions! Keeping your bodies tight during missionary might work; your pelvis should rub against her clit whenever you thrust in.

Try different speeds. Some girls like it fast, but others find that long, slow, and grinding thrusts work better to achieve orgasm.

In the end, just keep exploring each other's bodies and find out what feels good! You'd be suprised to find out what can happen when youre not trying!

 

Another tip, half the ladies in my life have found the extra anal stimulation during intercourse sends them over the edge of orgasm.

It has to do with more nerve endings being stimulated, so not just the vaginal opening, nor just the clitoris..........involve the nipples, perineum, and anus. The other ways are just one or two out of five zones........why leave out the other 3?

 

i always give my gf clit orgasm by oral befor penetration orgasm ,

 

give her oral clit than fuck her pussy ,

 

I agree with the topic of stimulating the nipples and anus. I tend to use a toy anally as well as maybe a bullet or even just my fingers when going solo and that's the most intense, deepest full body orgasm I've achieved yet.

Also, some girls are really into nipple stimulation. If I'm in the right mood, I can bring myself to the edge just by teasing at my nipples! A couple minutes of that and I feel like I could come the instant he enters me.

 

LaughLoveLive, my very first O during penetration was with me on top facing my guy. Prior to this, he got me there only through oral sex. It didn't happen everytime afterward but was a pleasant surprise when it did.

I agree with Volupta: "In the end, just keep exploring each other's bodies and find out what feels good! You'd be surprised to find out what can happen when youre not trying!"