Sexually Liberated Woman?

Apologies in advance if this is the wrong place.

I see that term sexually liberated woman being thrown around here a lot.

What does it mean to you?

I mean its almost 2013, not the 1950's or whatever when a women was bound to a single man for her whole life. Arent women already sexually free?

 

In theory, yes, but in practice I'm afraid that any women who freely enjoys sex with a number of different partners is still viewed as a 'slut', whilst a man who does exactly the same thing is considered a 'stud'. True, things are finally starting to change, but a lot slower than they should.

Like it or not the old prejudices still exist.

 

Are you kidding me? We must live in very different worlds.

Most women who throw this feminist slogan around are as prudish as they want to be. I think what they mean is, a liberated woman to use sex as a way to get things from men.

It's mostly a unicorn.

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If you want my definition, it would be women who can say BOTH yes and no. Most women can say 'no' to sex like a broken record. Especially when they don't mean it. Not many can openly say 'yes', unless the guy is swiping his credit card all over the place.

Which, BTW, tells the lie to the usual excuse that 'women are judged' for saying yes to sex. Yeah, by other women...

Or, that women need an emotional connection in order to have sex, and men are dogs.

The reason I know they couldn't give a shit about men's judgement or monogamy is because as soon as men pay, all the fear of stigma or the need for an emotional connection goes out the window in a hurry.

 

I agree with chera. Women are still not sexually liberated by a long shot. I'm the unicorn. My bff is the closest woman I know to being a slut and she has fucked a measely 15 people! I saw a girl who I knew from college on oprah getting help for sex addiction ans she had only fucked 29 people. The audience was shocked. I also remember the campus feminist writing articles advising freshman girls to hook up indiscriminately and she had a shirt that said 'im the samantha' but she had a damn boyfriend. Yawn. Lame. That's why i m not interestedin getting to know people generally. I only have my one girlfriend. I do fuck a lot but I'm like charlie harper from two and a half men, a loner slut. I'm tired of their herd stupidity.

 

really sexually liberated women dont feel the need ta be liberated from anything.they allready know their free

 

not really. sure, there's people out there that think that way, but they sure don't seem to be the majority. women will view each other as sluts, pretty much no matter how many people they sleep with. and i can't think of the last time i've heard of a man being considered a stud or anything like it.

dead?

 

So sexually liberated = women who can sleep with as many guys as she wants?

Cant they already do that? Only way we judge them (and guys too) is the amount of people they decide to sleep with.

As for it comes to talking of studs and sluts, i like the good old key lock metaphor.

A key that opens a lot of locks is called a "master lock" ,
while a lock that gets opened by many keys is called a "shitty lock".

Oh society how I weep for you.

 

But then again thats just what i think. Im sure theres people that disagree and would like to argue. Just not now.

 

Amen drumminmama! It has nothing to do with how it looks to anyone else, it is all about authenticity. I am so sorry so many of you are attached to the group of people around you and their perceptions, but there is so much more out there and much of it is subtle and cannot be seen or judged by outsiders. Sexual liberation is sexual authenticity. Deciding for yourself what you're comfortable with. Many are tied to societal norms and guidelines to determine their sexual beliefs and practices...that is inauthentic...the opposite of liberation.

 

To me it is as simple as existing as who you are, not who anyone else expects you to be. Be truly comfortable with yourself and outside opinion ceases to matter. Don't try to be liberated, or independent, or free, or non-conformists, just be yourself and make choices according to what you determine is the best course of action for you. At the end of the day the only person you have to be accountable to for your decisions is yourself.

I am proud of who I am, why should I care if someone else doesn't like it?

 

It's a women being able to like sex !!! Simply like it because it feels good. It also means to possibly seek a variety of partners.

 

College is the only place I've ever been where it was easy to find women who accepted other women who were openly promiscuous. Even there, this acceptance seems to have declined over the years, based on second-hand information. I started out in a freshman dorm where several of the most popular girls seemed to assume that being trashy was an essential part of living a cool, hip lifestyle. I tried it, and I liked it. I fucked a lot of people there, mostly guys, and had plenty of friends who didn't have a problem with it, because they were doing the same thing.

I'm sure most strippers don't judge each other for sleeping around. Other than strip clubs, I can't think of anywhere else around here that you could go right now and not have to worry about the relentless influence of social conservatives. If I was younger and single, I might have to try out that job for a while.

 

I think that the same applies in the UK. Those women who I have known since university who are sexually confident and have had a number of sexual partners have often been the subject of negative comments.

 

Well, I wouldn't say that there were never any negative comments or attitudes in college about this, but there were definitely plenty of social situations where the sexual liberals were in the majority. The prude girls got a lot less attention from guys, so they weren't very bold with their criticism.

After college, everything is mostly underground, like it was before college. You don't speak openly unless you are relatively sure you are talking to a like-minded person.

 

During centuries religión have put it´s aim in sex, as a way of control and power. Culturally more specialy wemen have being brain washed about what to do, what not to do. To bully liberated wemen by calling them sluts or worse.

It was accepted that men where horny, complimenting wemen, blue material, brothel going... But wemen could have one and only aim, marriage. So sex free live, enjoyment was banned to wemen, and when haveing sex, then, no preliminars, no stimulation, and men just aiming and shooting, then game over.

We are now awakening to a new era, few wemen are trully free. but they will be more free every minute, sadly i´m getting old.

Sadly too, even today there´s still lot of bulling at schools, i´m remembering Amanda Todd´s now

we need to do something so next generations stop doing the shame sh... over, and over

That is what i think about, but i´m an atheist so i can go to hell

 

Cant argue with that, my feelings entirely. :2thumbsup:

 

rock on! chan :2thumbsup:

 

I think "sexually autonomous" is a better way to express that. After all, people will all have different ideas of what "liberated" actually means. I think "autonomous" echos what kairilove said:

Right on!

I've had guys and girls both put me down or call names because they don't like my attitude about sex and sexuality. It doesn't matter what they think. They're wrong to judge- because whatever I decide to do with my own body is MY business. Whatever is "right" is what is right for me.

 

Yeah terms like "edgy, liberated, and prude" are all so vague and subject to change in definition/meaning given the passage of time.

So those terms cause lots of miscommunication when used to describe oneself or another person and tends to lead to strife in relationships. Being more specific.