I need help with this confusing situation.

This is my first time posting so any advice would be greatly appreciated. To get the best advice possible I will be as detailed as I feel comfortable with so everyone can get the best picture of whats going on.

I am a straight-acting and masculine college student, 21, and there is my roommate who is kind of important in this whole situation. See, she has this friend who lives in the same apartment complex as us and I want any advice on furthering my progress with him. Her friend, who we can call Jimmy is also a straight (acting?) college student, Jimmy and my roommate were 'cuddle buddies' pretty much all last semester but due to mostly my pressure into encouraging her to drop the situation they don't talk as often anymore.

Jimmy is from Africa, this is probably the most discouraging attribute in the situation because I know homosexuality in Africa is much more taboo than anywhere else on Earth, or at least that's how the media has portrayed it. I also know a few Africans, and one in particular, that are so offended by anything homosexual its almost as if they are to afraid to admit to themselves they are gay. But, Jimmy isn't like that.

The first time I met Jimmy, he randomly came over early last semester with his roommate and I wasn't attracted to him at all so I payed him no attention. But, he seemed extremely interested in me. In fact, my roommate used to have this other African boyfriend who seemed much more interested in me than her. lol kind of funny, but I will go on, So he ended his visit by telling me "you should come thru sometimes and chill at our place" and captivating me cause at that moment I noticed how fresh and beautiful he was. He is the model of health and physical perfection in my opinion.

I never did end up going over his place early that semester. My roommate never invited me along with her when she went to their apartment for drinks or smokes or w.e. But, at this point I avoid asking to come along because she isn't the most trustworthy of friends so I don't enjoy her or her friends company. But again, Jimmy is different. He came over multiple times and asked me why I haven't gone to his place yet multiple times. He and his roommate came over my place when my roommate was back home for work and took me back to their place where we smoked. I sat next to his roommate and our legs touched nearly the entire time. Neither of us actually initiated the leg touching, it just always happened with me and Jimmys roommate. Partly from me, and possibly him too. But Jimmys roommate moved back home. So now its just me and Jimmy, we have hung out the past two sundays. Me initiating both, see we never actually exchanged numbers, we just knocked on eachothers doors. I asked for his number cause I got a new phone, even though I never had it in his old phone. I texted him so he could have my number. I smoked him out, he put on this standup comedian who had alot of gay-straight male interaction jokes. Alot of which ended with guys should have sex with other guys as a joke. DID HE PURPOSEFULLY PLAY THAT COMEDY ROUTINE? This is probably the most pressing question I have, and impossible for anyone but him to answer. But I need to tell someone. Anyways I ended the hang out as usual because he never really does anything and pays me little attention. I try and remind myself, he thinks Im straight, hes just thinks im a bro.

But I still want to suck his dick, so last sunday I invited him over to smoke, he responded with the text polity asking who it was. Normally if someone doesn't save my number I don't respond, but hes so polite and perfect and again I want to be intimate with this guy so much. I smoked him out pretty rough, almost an 8th of premium shit ~$60

We watched family guy which he finds extremely funny which is so cute since I can't even laugh at that show. The scene where Stewie is trying to convince Brian to have sex with him, and then Brian punches Stewie.Well, I asked him if he thought that was an appropriate response and he said it depended on the person. i dont know exactly what he meant by that but I didn't want to be pushy, I hate pushy. We also played black ops 2 and he was terrible which was also extremely cute. He liked my couch and asked me if I was ever interested in selling it to hit him up. I told him I didnt feel right charging for it cause I got it for free, so he'd have to do something for it. He asked what I had in mind and I (im an idiot) said IDK what kind of special talents do you have? See, I dont think he understands colloquial American English too well, so I dont think he understood me. I ended up downplaying it saying when I want to get ride of it, you own me something. He did something very weird. Rememeber how I got a new phone? Well he wanted me to take a picure of him with my phone and send it to him. I was sure this meant he liked me but he made the picture his profile on whatsapp and messaged my roommate :/ like wtf does that mean? He really just wanted a picture cause my camera was good? Is he sending a statement to my roommate? Is he trying to make her jealous he was with me? idk? I wish he didn't post the picture on whatsapp cause she asked me about it, clearly he was in my room. This makes me sure he isn't into me that way cause why would he risk exposing our hanging out? Well that was 2 days ago and I hope to invite him over next sunday, heck maybe he might invite me over for a change. What are your opinions? advice? criticisms? praises? anything
Please help, I WANT to kiss this man. I have never lusted to kiss another man. I think i might actually "like" him but.. anyways.

 

I am from South Africa.

Homosexuality is not at all taboo here, or in Botswana, or in Zambia, or in Namibia.

I don't know about North Africa, though.

Homophobes exist everywhere.

Anyway, that's really confusing. Why not just ask him why he wanted YOU to take the picture? Shouldn't be too weird of a question, and you should get at least a little more information.

 

He is from Nigeria, not sure which ethnic group. Do you think he would be offended by an offer to hook up.

 

I don't think so at all.

I'm not gay, but I can't imagine anyone would be offended by such an offer.

It's worth a try, at least.

 

You have maneuvered both of you into the situation in which he thinks that you are exclusively straight, and you feel equally compelled to think that he is exclusively str8, too, and might be hostile to anything else...

Re-direct the whole communication away from talking about the cell phones and sofas into more intimate waters. So, he has no GF? You have a no GF? How's life? You got some first class porn stashed away? You are investing heavily into weed. The results are not too good. Try something else?

Make sure that you sufficiently emphasize absolute discretion. Once this is done, start talking and acting real stuff... Allow the situation to develop naturally, as in... one thing led to the other. Do not assume undue risks. Stop if you see that he is not playing along.


Good Luck,

KD

 

Thanks for the advice. I find it very useful but I've decided to loose his number and if I had any actual chance he can hit me up. But I don't have the guts to risk the uncomfortable "dude I'm not gay, sorry" at best