straight to gay late in life coming out

Long story short. i married a man. had two beautiful children that i loved. suppressed all sexual wants and curiosity. Fell in love with a woman. Had ny heart crushed. Never came out. Now I am with a woman that i LOVE ready to progress our relationship. I havr no desire for men at all now thay i have experienced sex with women. i am gay. i love being gay. How do i make my parents kids and other family love me being gay? How do i cpme out? Kids are 7 & 3. Parents are the reason i suppressed these feelings to begin with. and how do i ket them know no its not a stage.i always was. i don't want them thinking that I'm bi and just go for anyone. i love women. specifically mine. will my kids be okay? I am.divorced will my ex husband try to take my children? I live in louisiana and am not familiar woth the court system on these situations.

 

I don't believe you can "make" anyone love or even accept your being lesbian, the either will or they won't and they will do so in their own time frame.
You have a lot of conversations ahead of you with your children, maybe.
Can I ask what previously you and your ex taught them said to them regarding sexual orientations, ie did you previously say gay is wrong or unnatural ? if so you now have a large hurdle to jump.
As for the legal side, you need to ask a lawyer, no one here can give you legal advice on your particular case or state but a lawyer in your state that you have discussed all aspects of your life, work, etc with.

Good luck, hope it all goes well.

 

Welcome to the world of "late bloomers."
You are far from alone. So many women have traveled down your path - most have succeeded brilliantly.
The hardest coming out is to yourself. You seem to have recognized who you are: what you also have to understand is that you have not changed one iota from the person you were - except you are probably happier.
I never married, and my daughter from age 5 grew up with a mother who was different. In my case it was bisexuality. Coming out to your child is difficult, but you might be surprised how accepting they are. Children aren't born with prejudices, and provided they can see that Mummy is happy and that Mummy loves them, ....... that what they want.
As Chan wrote, adults are different. Some will accept Most actually, but some never will. Maybe it's just time to pass on from them. Friendships and family relationships may be fractured when you come out - you'll heal. We all have!
Legal wise, I don't have an idea.
But just remember, you aren't alone. There are organisations who can help and certainly good friends will back you up.
Good luck.