Hello all. I don't know where to begin. I'm 50 and looking for big changes in my life. I am going to finish my Bachelors Degree this year and make a serious career change. My wife and I have been married a little over 12 years but it is becoming stagnant. I don't know where to turn, so I'm here looking for advice, help, ideas, etc.
Hello........I'm just stalking Beachball......lol. Just kidding, really, married 12 years, any children and she's been helping support the family while you've been in school? Things may seem stagnant now, but that happens when there is lack of money due to circumstances. Do you have other supports such as friends or family?
Beachball, you are more than enough for me. I'm afraid I'm not enough for you ..... but I can try. lol. kisses
Actually Multicycler, we have 1 child together, she has one from a previous marriage and I have two. All are grown but the one we have together. I work full time as well as go to school. She works full time too. One of our adult children and her son lives with us as well as our 11 yo son. It's kind of stagnant because every time you turn around there's a kid holding on to your shirttail. We took a 30k hit to our income last year as well, but I should graduate this fall, so I hope to make most of that back.
Ahhh........the second set of kids syndrome. You love them hugely, and it's nice to have that with another wife, and it was a good idea when it came. Then you have to have the patience for the time it takes for second set to grow up. I hear ya. But it sounds like you are doing a great job, even with a 30K hit and a job, and school. You need someone to say: You are doing a hell of a job. You may be too tired.......but doing some sort of regular exercise regimen is good. Especially when you hit age 50. What kind of exercise do you like? Lifting weights? Running........etc. If you like outdoors exercise like walking, take the wife for walks on a schedule. Gets you both away from the kids, and they adapt to it and you can do simple things like talk while you walk.
Thanks man, I appreciate the encouragement. I guess sometimes I need to be reminded it could be much worse. I loose sight of that once in a while.
