mixed race dating...

Not sure if that is correct title but here is my question. It seems more black guys date white girls than black girls date white guys. Anyone know why?

Nothing wrong with it but seems uneven balance.. but then you hardly ever see Asian/eastern folks dating black and white.

We are all same so why the imbalance or is there no imbalance..

I've though a black or white cock are the same as are white n black pussy

 

I dont know, perhaps it could just be the area you live in?

 

If you believe we are truly all the same why do you think you noticed?

 

There was a social theory that talked about this called the ladder theory. They proposed that there is a social ladder of power and your position on that ladder dictates how people interact with you.

-White men - considered to hold the most
-White women
-Black men - blacks are the underdogs in our society, but males can at least connect with the powerhouses
-Black women

So because they were closer together on the ladder they were more important.

I like it as a draft.


I think a more simple, and probably bigger reason, is that men tend to be the ones to actively seek a partner; while women usually prefer to be sought. Black men feel comfortable seeking white women because they understand them; and are exposed to their culture. White men don't feel as comfortable seeking black women because they aren't exposed to their culture much at all.

 

That sounds like BS to me.

 

You care to make an argument, or are you just gonna waste server space?

 

I don't think it's fair for me to try and speak for all sides in the matter. But what you said just makes no sense, IMO. Physical attraction is a primary driving force in dating, whereas culture is not.

To suggest that blacks and whites living in the same country have such different cultures that they can't understand each other is just bizzarre. It's even more bizzarre to suggest that black males can understand different cultures better than black women can.

That's why I say your statement sounds like BS to me. Nothing personal, just telling it like it is.

 

Culture is much bigger than physical attraction. Culture contributes to what kind'f places you hang out at, what styles you like, how you act, how you think, and most importantly, how you communicate. What your social circle is like; what your family connections and baggage is like.

There are whites with extremely different cultures from other whites. Blacks with extremely different cultures from other blacks. Christians with extremely different cultures from other Christians.
There are Jewish people that don't even eat the same types of foods.

I'm a struggling working class kid from Steeltown. I can't even imagine trying to socialize with a Beverly Hills socialite that's never had a job and thinks his/her hair is more important than what's for dinner.

Also, you being from Europe and I from America gives us really different perspectives on this =P

 

I live in Europe but I’m originally from the states. So while my perspective may be different, it may also be broader. Yes, culture encompasses a lot of things, but I think you place too much importance on culture when it comes to dating. You’d have a point if you were talking about an American being shipped off to live with tribal people in S. America or Africa.

But while an American black girl and American white guy may have grown up eating slightly different foods, etc. They are really not that vastly different culturally. And even the extreme between the American and tribal African doesn’t prevent the two from hooking up. I mean, plenty of people hookup that barely even speak each other’s languages.

What does prevent people from hooking up are things like physical attraction, money, status. People may say, “I can’t date her because she’s white trash”, or she’s “ghetto” (neither of which are cultures BTW. They are associated with class), but they don’t say “I can’t date her because she didn’t grow up eating hummus or fried chicken.”

Bottom line… I’ve never known culture to stop people from dating. Acculturation is what happens when people of different cultures live in the same place. People who live in the same area for extended periods of time share more culturally than one may think, regardless of where they are originally from.

 

his assessment is fairly accurate around here too. black guys with white girls is pretty much standard. black girls with white guys, i've seen it but only a couple times that i can remember. and i don't remember ever seeing an asian person dating outside of the asian community.

i don't know what the reasoning would be.

 

I've heard that the more "traditional" Asian families insist (or prefer) that their children find an Asian mate. So parents/family could be influencing some people.

 

im white and i would never date a woman who slept with anyone who wasnt white

 

I see way more black women with white men in NYC go together. Black guys tend to go for the lightest possible black girl they can find or like some kind of exotic looking chick. I know in more rural areas there is a thing with black men going for fat white women and that is a real thing. It's like a fetish or so drying or maybe a selfasteam issue. I heard it's because a fat girl won't say no so guys can do what ever they want.

 

Ew

 

I definitely see more black men with white women than the other way around. I am not sure how the gay statistic would fit in, since both genders in the relationship are the same, but I was in a relationship with a black man.

 

I wanna be in a relationship with a black man lol. I once knew this black guy with blue eyes from haiti. We almost hit it but I got distracted by this gorgeous girl and forgot all about him lol. I should've hit it before I moved on.

 

Why should it even matter? My kids are part Mexican because there dad is from a Mexican bloodline. My bloodline is so mixed because my family never stuck to one culture or race on both sides. When I was growing up my moms best friend was a black woman with a white guy. Her daughter and another best friend of mine both had mixed blood. I once lived in a household full of Rastafarian's. Most of them had lovers of a different race and belief system than their own. It has always been normal in my life to see mixed couples.

 

did anyone say it should? other than getcarded, who really doesn't count.

 

Me too. All the girls ive had long term relationships with have been different races. Most of my close friends have been a variety of races growing up. One of my closest friends is a white male thats dating an asian girl. Its pretty common with the people im around at least. Maybe it has to do with location.