considering dumping my girlfriend

Well, presumably you have a girlfriend to make yourself happy. Is having a girlfriend akin to Jesus dragging the cross on his shoulder across a desert under the orders of whip-yielding Roman soldiers?

Then why have one? To me, there's only one question to be asked here. And, unless both of you have the same answer, I would think breaking up is the obvious thing to do.

Jumping through hoops is not love, it's codependency. The boy is always supposed to take one on the chin for the girl anyway, or he's a pig.

 

Sex is more important to some people than others.

"I like sex!", says the prude. No, you don't like it nearly as much as some other people and you might not even realize how much other people like sex.

There's this idea floating around that sex shouldn't matter, that you should just cross your legs really tight and keep your sex drive in check. And, especially if you're a man, putting your sex drive first is a terrible thing to do.

Boo-hoo.

I always maintain the same, if your partner is not interested in having sex with you, no problem. No one should be pressured into sex. But, that also means that partner should allow you to have sex with other people without fuss. Doesn't mean you have to break up.

You should consider yourself lucky if someone wants to have sex with you, first all. And doubly lucky if someone wants to have sex with you only. But to think that you're entitled to put someone's sex organs in a jar is preposterous.

 

^ Word

 

monogamy is communism

 

Sig-worthy.

 

i know i responded the way i did, and i have the feeling other people did too (though i may be wrong here) because the OP didn't provide any details whatsoever about anything else, just basically said "i'm not getting the sex i want wah wah" and when asked what he's doing to correct it, instead of talking about ways he might be trying to improve on the quality of the relationship, he said "at night i get real close and kiss her neck"

i do agree that it's not wrong to want sex, but i do think it's wrong to only want that... and some people, especially online, come off as kind of shallow. he just came off that way, some people do sometimes... like i said that may be a total misjudgment of his character but i know some people IRL that really are that one-track and it's just annoying to hear them talk tbh

 

Despite sterotypes, it is always good to take an OP at face value. Not to mention, they're only 6 months in, and usually sex is still at it's height.

 

There are two sides to this coin. You want intimacy, but also, is that the reason you're together? If so, if you want this to work, you'll need to get to know her, in the moments when you're not sexual at all, if its love, you enjoy her company even without having your dick in her. So if she's not in the mood, you better try. Neck kissing isn't the only thing. You can be nice to her and show affection even when you aren't getting it in. But a nonchalant ass grab, or a compliment can go a long way and give a girl ideas, that will grow. Like inception
But if you're in a relationship with someone, and they don't bang you, its okay. It's a lull. They happen. It really isn't the end of the world. And so what if she banged her exes everyday? Maybe that's something
she disliked about her past relationship, shes potentially looking for a different connection with you.

You are currently thinking with your dick, not your head. Talk to your lady and ask her if there's a negative reason you aren't having regular sex, and how you can solve it.

 

I don't WANT to break up with her, I really do love her more than I've ever loved another woman in my life. I just don't want this to be a permanent thing because I know for a fact she enjoys sex....it just sort of feels like now that we're in a committed relationship and she has me 100 percent she feels the need to not have sex with me anymore. i dont know, maybe i'm overreacting. she also claims she's been really manic lately and can't concentrate on anything for more than 2 minutes.

 

Then don't break up with her. Talk it out with her and see if you guys can get through this.

And for the record, I'd have no problem breaking up with somebody because of sex. It's all about happiness. And if I'm not happy with my partner, for whatever reason, then I'm not going to be miserable and frustrated staying in the relationship. I would talk to her about it, and if that doesn't help and/or I'm still unhappy then I'd break it off.

People can call it shallow if they want to, but I value myself too much to be stuck with someone that makes me unhappy. This is another great reason against monogamy.

 

We talked about it just now. A few weeks ago her nipples became inflamed and red, and were hurting her nonstop. She told me that the pain had subsided even though they were red yesterday. Turns out they're still bothering her, she just didn't want to make me worry. I'm thinking about taking her to the doctor.

 

Here's the thing though, whenever the conversation is about a guy wanting sex the "only" word gets thrown in there as a red herring. Even though the OP made it clear from the beginning that he loves this chick.

 

Yeah, she told me she only had sex with them so often because she's afraid of being alone. She's had a rough past, which includes multiple instances of people forcing themselves upon her. I'm doing everything I can to make her feel special and important and I show her i love her every chance I get. A month ago she told me how much she liked going to bingo and enjoyed getting out, so I've taken her 3 out of the last 4 weekends. She deserves someone great.

 

Well, 10 years from now when you work out with both the ex's and you she was feeding you such lines whilst sneaking around wit older guys, it will put everything in perspective.
How often it happens will make your draw drop.

Nothing that ever comes out of their mouths is the truth

 

Been burned a time or two, VG?

 

got laid tonight she squirted for the first time ever too

 

what is this ridiculousness?!

 

Stud!