She came out while a bit "drunk" , then avoiding?

What would be your opinion on if a girl ( or a guy) , got a little tipsy and "came out" to someone else, but then the next day tried to pretend like it didint happen. What would be your opinion on if a girl got a lil tipsy or drunk and decided to open up to another girl who is a lipstick lesbian. The girl acted incredibly shy and nervous upon hearing that the other girl is a lesbian. Then later in the night, the girl admits she is a lesbian and thinks the lipstick lesbian is Beautiful. Then takes her to the bathroom, talks a little , acts flirty and nervous and then makes a move on the lesbian. They makeout and hold hands and kiss and cuddle all night. etc.... But then the next day acts cold, and avoids the lipstick lesbian and won't talk about anything. The girl literally avoided the lipstick lesbian for over a year LIKE THE PLAGUE....

The girl is back in my life now tho , and alot of Suggestible things have happened with how she acts towards me, her acting very flirty to me. but, She still sometimes acts all avoidy and shy and awkward around me tho, which then makes me think she hates me!. Anyways, the girl has never had a boyfriend nor wants one. And the girl to her friends tries acting straight somewhat. As well, her friends have told me she usually makes excuses to them as to why she isnt interested in a guy. Do you think the girl is having an issue with accepting herself as lesbian? Alcohol can't CHANGE a person. Thoughts?

 

I think she knows that she is lesbian (or bi) but that she doesn't yet feel comfortable about coping with the social pressures involved in coming out. So she wants to be with you ... but isn't sure she's ready to cope with the open acknowledgement fo her sexuality which would be involved in being seen to be with you ... and then she feels maybe a bit guilty because she's leading you on only to pull back ... and at the end of the day it's still all very confusing for her because she knows what she wants but isn't yet ready to acknowledge that its' what she wants.

She needs you to give her love, encouragement ... and space.

 

I completely agree!

 

Never take anything said whilst tipsy (or worse) at face value.

I also agree with the notion you should probably let this lie dormant for a while.

As you probably know, coming out to yourself is the hardest part of the whole thing. Let the process work itself out with her. just be a friend.

Because maybe, just maybe, she's not what she said: she was just tipsy. If that's the case, for you to push hard could result in unpleasantness.

 

Great advice from those above. Just stay calm and relaxed and let her take the lead.

 

I hated that shit when I was single. God fire temptation cock tease that made me so angry and frustrated. Girls would lead me into straight boredom. so I did the opposite of the above given advice. I went after the woman, confronted her, tried to date her, bought her so many gifts. Tried to fight her husband. A huge fool. I made a huge fool out of myself but I ended up sleeping with her and she was a hot blonde and worth the grief.

When I stopped focusing on if they were gay or not or what did their flirting mean, I was able to ask the real question, what's it all worth to me? And it was always worth everything! So I put myself out there, I refuse to regret and I went after what I wanted.

Sorry so choppy,this whole iPad typing is for the birds.